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advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« on: January 19, 2012, 03:44:56 pm »

Mga sis!..i need your advice..Pls.help!..Last night kasi hubby is asking permission if he can go to his friend's bday celebration on the 28th..but it will be held at East Asia Club in Roxas Blvd...and as far as i know it's a "high-class" night club na may nag-sshow..kilala ko naman mga kasi niya pero mdyo nag-aalangan ako..if your in my place papayagan nyo ba c hubby to go or not?? :)
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #1 on: January 19, 2012, 04:05:08 pm »

nope! :-*
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #2 on: January 19, 2012, 04:09:14 pm »

The fact na nagpaalam siya means he knows na possibleng hindi mo siya payagan. He could have said na OT siya or gagabihin siya ng uwi pero sumama pala siya sa friends. Pero nagpaalam siya.

If I were in your shoes, i'd tell him i'm uncomfortable pero i appreciate that he asked for my permission. If he could promise that he'd be a good boy, then OK lang ako. Status update lang saken.

Next time kasi pag may ganyan at hindi ko siya pinayaga, ang nakakatakot is baka hindi na siya magtanong saken.

I don't have any trust issues with my husband so I'm ok with it.
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #3 on: January 19, 2012, 05:04:41 pm »

nicely put, Mommy France. sa totoo lang hindi ko naisip yun. hehe. ayoko talaga kasi na nagpupunta ang mga lalaki sa ganun. anyway napag-awayan na din namin to before ng BF ko before, bachelor's party naman ng best friend niya yung sa kanya. in the end napapayag niya din ako basta hanggang tingin lang siya. siguro sa mga ganung occassion pwede naman. pero pag birthday parang ayoko siya payagan.

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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #4 on: January 19, 2012, 05:05:59 pm »

Hindi ko rin papayagan ang hubby ko. Though I trust him pero I don't trust the girls that would surround him that night. Ayoko syang lumapit sa tukso hehe
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #5 on: January 19, 2012, 06:37:00 pm »

A big no no.
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #6 on: January 19, 2012, 07:09:55 pm »

I applaud your husband to be honest enough na magpaalam sayo na pupunta siya sa ganung club.  Not all men would tell their wives about it.  If I were in your shoes, and there's no trust issues between me and my husband, papayagan ko siya, as long as alam niya limits niya.  Though hindi pa nangyayari na pumunta siya sa club na ganun, sinasabihan ko naman siya na if ever may mag-aya sa kanya, ipaalam lang niya sa akin at hanggang nood lang.  Tinatakot ko kasi siya na baka pag may mangyari sa night out nila e madapuan siya ng mga STD at AIDS.  Takot lang niya! Hehe.

Pero knowing his friends na makakasama dun will be a factor.  What kind of friends ba sila?  Matino ba silang lalaki or may history ba sila na kalokohan?  Close ba sila sayo, do they respect you or hindi ka pa nila nakikilala personally?  So siguro tignan mo rin yung factor na yun. :)
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #7 on: January 19, 2012, 11:16:56 pm »

si hubby nagsasabi sa akin pero usually naman pag nagpupunta sya sa mga ganun eh work related or kasama sa representation..kaya ok lang sa akin at least nagkukwento..pa impress pa nga minsan kesyo niloloko sya ng mga kasama na "lalaki ata ang gusto" or sobra arte kasi di talaga sya nag table..alam ko kasi na hindi niya type ang mga ganun na girls na nakabuyangyang..mas type niya mga office girl look and simple and takot kasi sya na magkasakit sa babae...

sis if kilala mo naman si hubby and you trust that he knows his limitation siguro ok lang.. :)
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #8 on: January 20, 2012, 12:14:11 am »

No! I don't have any trust issues naman with my husband. Kaya lang the thought na "night club" yung pupuntahan nila then all boys at may alak and all that. Parang lahat pwede mangyari. Mahirap na, kung pwede iwasan ang tukso iwasan na lang.
 
Iniisip ko kasi kung papayagan ko nga siya then praning naman ako sa kakaisip kung anung ginagawa nila. Baka mag-away lang kami pag-uwi niya.
 
One time, he asked permission kung pwede siya umattend ng stag party nung barkada niya. I said yes that time (kahit ayaw ko) pero sabi niya wag na lang kasi may kinuha daw stripper. Then sabi ko, "sige ok lang sa akin, may tiwala naman ako sayo". He replied, "Asus, inverse psychology. Wala naman akong gagawin dun, di nalang ako pupunta."
 
 
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #9 on: January 20, 2012, 06:15:11 pm »

Ako okay lang. Pero sa bakuran siya matutulog, bigyan ko siya ng banig at unan.  ;D

Just kidding. Sa totoo lang, my husband kasi doesn't go to those places kasi alam niya mauupset ako kahit magpaalam man siya or hindi. Pati lagi ko sinasabi sa kanya na bago niya gawin ang isang bagay, imaginine niya muna na paano kung ako ang gagawa nun. So pag naiisip niya na I will go out with the girls sa place na may mga "dancing boys in minimal clothes" eh nagagalit siya. So pantay lang.

I guess it all boils down sa pagkakakilala mo sa hubby mo, if you could trust him or not. Ask him na rin lang if he really really wants to go talaga. Makikita mo naman if he's too excited about the idea or medyo uncomfy din siya.
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #10 on: January 20, 2012, 06:34:15 pm »

my mind says "yes" ... but my heart sats "no" ...

if you trust him enough, then let him ... mahirap kasi pag di pinayagan, pag nakantyawan yan tyak next time di na yan magpapaalam ... just tell him you trust him and that you're sure he knows his limitations ... hmmmmm

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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #11 on: January 21, 2012, 01:13:45 am »

True masyado yung sinabi ng isang mommy.. Malaki nga trust ko kay hubby pero sa mga tao sa paligid niya wala akong tiwala. Ang hirap mapraning noh! Pero super like ko sinabi mo sis kuliglig.. I would say that to him next time na magpaalam siya [although hindi naman nightclub], what I hate lang is yung ibang lalaki kasi sobrang taas ng EGO. They would reason out na "iba naman kasi kaming mga lalaki..."

If I were in your place, hindi ko pa rin papayagan. hehe jk! Pero actually, everytime na nagpapaalam siya sakin ang ending eh..pinayagan ko siya. Yun nga lang lagi ako nagagalit sa kanya pag hindi nasunod ang terms and conditions! like yung dapat itetext/call niya ko, uuwi siya maaga, etc.

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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #12 on: January 21, 2012, 03:10:54 am »

I have in the past.  There were occassions pa nga na we both were throwing separate parties for a friend who will soon get married and ok naman kami we laugh it off we laughed at the people and our friends' reactions.  We poke fun with the whole situation.
But it really depends if you will loose sleep over it I suggest you think twice about letting him off.....if you trust him completely and you wont stress about it during the hours na wala sya then ok lang... :D
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #13 on: January 21, 2012, 10:22:26 am »

Hi sis.If I were in your shoes, I will definitely not allow him to go there though I'll give him credit for being honest kung saan siya pupunta. Both men and women at some point could not resist temptation. I am not saying na may gagawin siyang masama but we just have to be careful and prevent things like that from happening. All bad things start from something small - something na inakala nating hindi naman masama/neutral lang. If it is just a boy's night out pwede pa sigurong maconsider but dun sa may nagsoshow, its a big no no.  And I really would not be comfortable that my husband is looking at someone else na nagsoshow.
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Re: advice pls!..Is it ok to let hubby go to a night club??
« Reply #14 on: January 21, 2012, 11:25:50 am »

bait naman nagpapaalam pa.

tama si mommy france basta mapromise lang na behave siya eh pwede na. nakakatakot nga naman na next time hindi na magpaalam.

sa case ko naman introvert naman kasi yung akin. aalis lang pag work related at magpapa massage. actually kahit san san to nagpapamassage pero ok lang kasi tinatawagan naman ako at pinakakausap ang masseur sakin.  plus kilala ko rin naman yung ibang masahista niya.

pero may mga times talaga na aalis siya at may gagawing kalokohan (pero hindi babae o lalake ) talagang di magpapaalam. salamat sa Locator at kahit papano eh nalalaman ko kung nasan siya at napupuntahan pag di na nakakatiis.
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