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Author Topic: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?  (Read 19387 times)

rianne_mallows

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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #15 on: January 25, 2012, 10:02:40 pm »

hello! very nice topic..pasali po.. :)

dapat bang mahiya ka sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
oo! kung....
-kulang ang income ni mister pangsustento sa inyong pamilya
-maluho si misis at mga anak
-nagbibigay ka pa sa side mo(nanay mo o mga kapatid mo)/ may sinusustentuhan kang kapatid o magulang

dapat bang mahiya ka sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
 hindi! kung...
-bilang SAHM, nagagampanan mong mabuti ang lahat ng tungkulin mo sa mga anak nyo at sa asawa mo
-hindi ka maluho at di inggitera :)


i agree with you on this...


im a sahm.. it was a mutual decision between hubby and me.. hindi kasi namin maatim iwan si baby sa yaya.. kahit pa sa house ng nanay ko magstay kami.. iba pa din yung alaga ng ina..  maybe im just lucky na good provider naman si hubby at supportive siya sa pagiging sahm ko that's why happy din ako..


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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #16 on: January 25, 2012, 10:25:05 pm »

Hindi naman dapat mahiya sa asawa mo na wala kang work lalo na kung ikaw ang full time nanay like me.. tapos ako wala ring yaya, 3 kids pa inaalagaan ko.Dati mother in-law ko nagsasabi tamad ako kasi may yaya pa kami ng panganay ko tapos nasa bahay lang ako pero now.. super bilib na siya kasi I do multi tasking. 
But for me, its more of myself fulfillment na meron din ako naaambag para sa mga anak ko. Saka hindi talaga dapat lahat naka depend kay hubby kaya better ipon na rin in case of emergency. You're mom just told you na tamad ka, kasi ayaw nyang maging very dependent ka sa asawa mo eh kung kaya mo naman, do some part time job or homebase habang bata pa.. be productive kung may ability ka rin lang naman.
Sa panahon ngayon kasi dapat practical & economical na. Well, I'm proud naman sa mga full time Nanay kasi iba talaga pag ikaw mismo ang hands on sa mga bata and they grow very secure and happy.
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #17 on: January 26, 2012, 07:10:47 pm »

salamat mga sis and mommies. tama nga po ang hirap maging SAHM, no day offs, sick leaves, vacation leaves at kung ano ano pang leaves at offs. focus ka kay baby plus si hubby pa pagdating sa work.

nag usap kami ni hubby tungkol doon,i feel ok na after namin mag usap. d naman kami hirap sa financial and hindi naman ako yung tipong maluhong wife at nanay. pero if gusto ko daw magwork hindi daw niya ako pipigilan pero para daw sa kanya mas mabuti na SAHM nalang kasi he's working hard daw naman for us besides hindi naman kami kapos sa finances and he's still able to keep some money for our savings and future plans.

nasabi lang siguro yun ng nanay ko kasi humihingi sya sa akin ng certain amount of money na hindi biro ang halaga na in 1 click kaya ko sya i provide kahit pa foreigner si hubby.

nahihiya din naman ako humingi sa hubby ko dahil hindi biro yung halaga na hinihingi ni nanay and this is the second time na nag ask sya ng ganung halaga. first time is nakapagbigay si hubby ng exact amount na hiningi niya.

salamat ulit mga mommies.
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #18 on: March 02, 2012, 07:10:10 am »

ako rin mga mommies SAHM since 2008. nasanay din ako before na may hawak ako sarili ko pera pero nung naging SAHM nako, wala na ko ipon. But the good thing is naaalagaan ko mabuti mga kids ko at recently, asawa ko. Kung si hubby naman pala may gusto na mag stop ka na mag work, so be it. wala ka dapat ikahiya. Yung iba nga naiinggit sa mga SAHM and di rin biro na sa bahay lang tayo diba?nalolosyang tayo ng wala sa lugar hahaha! cheer up sis..okey lang yan! di ka nag iisa.. ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #19 on: March 02, 2012, 08:31:13 am »

Hi mga sis! Makikijoin ako sa topic ah. Actually, I've been SAHM for a year and sa akin na rin mismo nanggaling na I need to do something to help in our financial obligations. So within that year nag-online job ako through odesk. I got hired as article writer, blogger, forum poster, and blog commenter. Sa umpisa mahirap humanap ng mga employers in the said website pero since I have a friend na four years na niya ginagawa yung mga ganung online work, ayun nga nakakuha ako at nagkaron ng income.

Si hubby naman, he's not forcing me to earn money. Basta kung ano gusto ko gawin (like SAHM) OK lang sa kanya. But then after a year nga, ako mismo na-bore sa house since my previous job was a College Instructor for 4.5 years. Kaya I decided to work again but not in academe anymore, in IT field naman. Eto parang feeling ko gusto ko bumalik sa pagiging SAHM kaso nakakapanghinayang kasi sympre iba pa rin yung may work. Lalo na at mag-aral na yung daughter namin. Wait ko na lang kung maregular ako o hindi. (Pero sana maregular nga... :))
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #20 on: March 23, 2012, 06:55:52 am »

HIndi dapat mahiya sa hubby if wala kang work. Kasi as a provider, husband and father sa anak mo, role niya yon na designated by GOD kaya never tayo dapat mahiya.

My hubby naman din never nagforced na magwork ako. What makes me happy, happy sya dun. Pero never  kasi akong stale sa isang bagay, I always want to be kept moving at may pinagkakaabalahan. Takot kasi din ako din sa future, kaya for myself nagwork ako homebased lang. Made a small business for myself while managing the household and taking care of our daughter. Ok lang din naman kay  hubby kasi mas panatag sya na if delayed sahod niya meron akong makakapang pera na magagamit, at for emergencies nakaka pagipon na kami ulit.
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #21 on: March 23, 2012, 09:14:48 am »

Wala kang dapat ikahiya sis. Responsibility ng mga hubby ang maghanap-buhay para sa pamilya. Sabi nga ng FIL ko sa hubby ko nung mag-start ako magwork, wag daw aasahan ng hubby ko ang sweldo ko dahil hindi obligasyon ng babae ang kumita para sa pamilya. Obligasyon daw ito ng lalaki at kung ako ay may sweldo ito daw ay dapat na pang-supirta lang, extra kumbaga. At ang anak daw niya ay dapat na siguraduhing sasapat ang kita para sa aming pamilya *i sooo love my in-laws talaga*

Sa isang banda malaki ang paghanga ko sa mga SAHM. Ako kasi ang babaeng di puede sa loob ng bahay, in short wala akong pakinabang sa loob ng bahay. I can take care of my kid, yes, at magtutor at magayos ng lahat ng kelangan aa school. Pero ibang usapan ang maglinis maglaba magluto maghugas ng pinggan at magplantsa hehe. I tried to be SAHM nung 2010 3 weeks lang balik corp world ulit ako  ;D

I truly admire SAHM lalo na yung workin mom tapos sila pa din in-charge sa mga gawaing bahay. Tingin ko sa kanila superwoman, kasi im not like them eh hindi ko kaya.
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #22 on: March 29, 2012, 08:42:02 pm »

For me, hindi. Kasi responsibility ng husband to provide eh. Pero I work kasi alam kong di kakayanin pag one income lang, pati I also want my own spending money. ;)
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #23 on: April 29, 2012, 11:25:22 pm »

No, kasi wala akong reason para mahiya and besides napag-usapan namin 'to. Kung sa ibang tao man manggaling ang comment, it's not that important naman siguro as long as kayo ni husband ang nagkakaintindihan.
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #24 on: May 12, 2012, 11:08:04 pm »

I'm a working mom.  but even if i'm not working, i still won't feel ashamed of being a stay at home home mom because it is his primary responsibility to look after his family.  beside even if we are not earning, we are still doing our share at home.

come to think of this, if you are working, you need to hire an extra househelp to look after the kids.  so when you are not working, your kids get the utmost care from a number one caregiver, and that is you,  their mom.  that is the priceless part of your child's growing up years.  so dapat pa nga pasalamatan ka ng hubby mo for personally taking care of his kids, him, and your house.
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #25 on: May 12, 2012, 11:44:43 pm »

im at sahm as well and hindi na rin ako nag work a month before we got married. and never ko ata naisip na mahiya kay hubby na wala ako work. its the choice i made even before na mabuntis pa ko kasi sinabi ko sa kanya na ayaw ko na pumapasok at work na buntis, parang sobrang burden sakin pag ganun. and mula pa kasi nung bata ako natatandaan ko na i want to be a housewife. maybe its because of my mom na housewife din. and tama kayo mga mommies, being a sahm mom is same a having a work - a work that you will truly love and enjoy! :)
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #26 on: May 13, 2012, 06:59:44 am »

mahirap ang trabaho sa bahay. walang scheduled breaks and lunch unlike sa work. sa bahay 24/7 may ginagawa ka lalo't nag-aalaga ng baby. bakit ka naman mahihiya diba eh pareho naman kayong may ginagawa. tsaka agreement nyo naman yun. labas na ang ibang tao sa set-up nyo.
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #27 on: May 13, 2012, 04:06:29 pm »

im proud na ngayon  na SAHM ako. napagsisislbihan ko si hubby at baby with all my heart kahit mahirap sige lang tuloy lang..

salamat mga sis and moms...
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #28 on: May 14, 2012, 10:34:02 pm »

being an SAHM is the most rewarding and most difficult career of all.  it should have been the highest paid career.

how i wish i'm an SAHM...
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Re: dapat ba mahihiya sa asawa mo na wala kang trabaho?
« Reply #29 on: May 15, 2012, 08:21:55 pm »

i remember back in college, i said to myself, if my husband earns more than enough, i'd be willing to sacrifice my career to take care of him and the family. i'm ok with being a SAHM. my friends could not believe it. it's not in my profile daw, because i'm an achiever and leader in school, but i know myself well enough that family life is a priority and a joy.

when i had my bf, and said this to him (back when we were planning our married life together), he said, i shouldn't be a SAHM, because it is unfair for my father, because it is my dad who sent me to school, and then after getting a professional license, wouldn't practice just to stay at home and be with the kids. magagalit daw sa kanya ang family ko. besides, his mom got byuda early, and had her mom stayed at home and not worked, they wouldn't have survived as a family. may point naman sya dun.

pero honestly, i would feel proud if my husband could earn well enough for me not to help him anymore, that his earnings are more than enough for our spendings, and savings, and emergencies. pero, i think i will still work, pero in a flexible working environment lang, no pressures to really earn, para i could still be updated in my career and be ready, na if ever hubby gets sick or something goes wrong, i could pitch in.

i've heard of old rich families who's selling and mortgaging properties because the husband died and they don't know how to work. they just know how to spend, and now, couldn't support their extravagant lifestyles.
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