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[ea_brea]

pero pansin ko lang noh, bakit dati nung mga bata pa tayo parang normal lang ang tuksuhan sa mga bata? ngayon mas madali maapektuhan ang mga bata pag inaasar o tinutukso...

[Mommy France]

There are tukso kasi na for fun lang tipong alam mong larong bata.
Pero pag naririnig mo sa matanda tapos pati bata, mas nakaka-affect talaga.

[CIB]

@Mommy France- Yeah. Namana niya yung built ni hubby. Instill ko talaga sa kanya na beauty fades pagdating ng araw. What's important is yung beauty niya na matitira sa loob which is yung nasa puso niya. I remember si tatay ko kaya lumaki akong hindi naman talaga kinain ng insecurity. May kapit-bahay kami nun na nakikinood ng tv sa amin at puring-puri si vina morales sa tv. So bilang teenager din nakita niya siguro yung insecurity sa mata ko. Sabi niya "Naku panigurado mabaho din naman utot nyan. Saka kapareho lang din natin ang inilalabas nyan pag nasa banyo." Sabay tawa. Tumahimik si kapit-bahay. Sabay kindat sa akin. Natanim yun sa puso ko na sa totoo lang wala naman talaga akong pinag-kaiba sa mga artista na yun. At mas marami pang bagay sa buhay na higit na mahalaga kesa pagiging maganda or yun na lang yung pagtuunan ng pansin. Hindi ako iba sa iba porke maganda sila. Kapareho lang din natin silang tao.

Kaya nga as early as now pinag plaplanuhan na talaga sya ni hubby to get into sport. Pagdating daw ng araw mapapakinabangan daw ng buong Pilipinas yung legs at braso ni Lila. Pwedeng first filipino gold medalist sa olympics bilang swimmer or kaya first filipina sa wnba  Actually seryoso sya talaga dun sa huli  Kaya nga kung may ano-anung technique sya para daw ma-maximise ni Lila yung potential nyang tumangkad pa ng tumangkad  haha

Totoo yung kung tuksong bata medyo magaan pa. Pero pag galing kasi sa matanda may bigat factor talaga.

[ahyzeyuh]

mula ng mabasa ko eto, talagang iwas nako kakatukso at kakakulit sa anak ko--

naawa tuloy ako, baka ako pa dahilan ng pagbaba self esteem niya

[Mommy France]

^^Wala naman kasing "book" for parenting. Sometimes, our parenting methods kasi is based on what we had experienced when we were younger or saw from some people.

As long as we know na hindi tayo perfect, we'll have more room and opportunities for improvement di ba?

You have a lifetime to make bawi sa anak mo sis.

[Anne Mercado]

This is a good question, Mommy France. Although I can't recall saying anything that might hurt my child's self-esteem.

The reason I'm careful is because:
1. I don't want him to focus on negative things
2. I don't want him to be a "pintasero" when it comes to others - because it's just not right

And I agree with you, we can never be perfect parents. We just have to try our best everyday.

[lipglosslover]

I'm so guilty for hurting my son's confidence. I usually tease him as "nigger", "taba ching ching", pero lambing ko lang naman iyon. I told him that I love him the way he is. 

[mommycheska]

Haaaay... this is my problem too. Kahit anong uplift ko sa self-confidence ng mga kids ko, there will always be external factors. Laging sample ko jan is my middle son who is turning 4. All of his other siblings has straight hair siya lang ang curly and super taba. Cute naman talaga though he is called names such as tabachoy, tabachingching, babski, baboy, ay naku ang dami-dami talaga. Tapos yung yaya ng bunso ko na pinaalis ko na minsan nahuhuli ko tinatawag siyang baboy jack - jack is from michael jackson, he used to dance to some of mj's music kasi.

One time, nasa grocery ako with my eldest and my middle child, pag-balik ko where I left them they were fighting with 3 kids, ang story pala tumatawa yung bata, pointing to my middle child while saying ang taba oh! Sumagot yung middle child ko "Hindi ako mataba noh!" then his kuya, to the rescue naman ayun nag-aaway sila.

So I talked to the mom and they apologised naman. Pero duon ko na-realise that may effect na sa kanya yung mga ganun.

[mamapeew]

My daughter has curly hair too. Yung iba sinasabi ipa-rebond daw namin. Yung iba naman natutuwa kasi kulot. I call her kulot not because inaasar ko sya but because I like her hair. Ayaw niya kasing nagpapatali ng hair so pag naayusan namin sya, sinasabi ko, see, you look like a princess now. Your hair is so nice.
About her skin color naman, mas maputi ako sa kanya. Sinasabi niya lagi, Denise is brown, Mommy is white. Pero I don't think she understands tukso as of now. She's 3 years old pa lang kasi.
I really hope I'm not hurting her confidence. I keep on saying, you're pretty, you're doing a good job, I'm proud of you. Lumaki kasi akong mahiyain, sobrang kulang sa confidence pero sa ibang paraan naman. I can't make decisions on my own. Takot mag kamali. Kaya ayoko naman yun mangyari sa anak ko.

[Mommy Jazz]

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