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I don't have a "ME" time
« on: February 02, 2012, 09:39:02 am »

How? Parang occupied lagi ang day ko...  :-[

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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #1 on: February 02, 2012, 10:31:19 am »

Ask for help sis... hindi porket humihingi tayo ng tulong or nag-dedelegate tayo ng tasks ay ineffficient na tayo as a homemaker.

May kasama ka ba sa bahay aside from your kids?
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« Reply #2 on: February 02, 2012, 03:17:23 pm »

hi mommy france!

i have 2 yayas. pero i have 4 kids  :o ...  my yayas are not yet efficient  :-[ kaya kelangan talaga naka agapay ako... i cant even leave the house for hours coz nagwoworry ako kung ok lang mga kids ko.. dahil inefficient pa, yung iba nilang work, ako gumagawa.. my only chance is when my mom is available  ...

haaay  :-\ gusto ko lang naman kasi imeet sana yung bestfriend ko kanina pero nahihirapan akong umalis.. hhhmmm...
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« Reply #3 on: February 02, 2012, 04:57:01 pm »

Hindi ba pwedeng yung friend mo nalang ang iinvite mo over your house sis kung di ka maka alis?

Kase kung isa pang rason mo to meet your friend is "maka-alis" or "makagala" man lang saglit (aside from the chikahan), eh no choice, you really have to leave your kids with the yayas.

Or you can re-schedule your meet up with your friend. Baka pwede pag off ng hubby mo.

Ako rin madalas walang "me-time".  Pero happy na ako na nakakapag SP ako at FB kase dito marami akong na-meet na kaibigan at kachokaran.  ;)
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« Reply #4 on: February 02, 2012, 05:35:32 pm »

^^ Tama! Ask them to come over.
Or find a "me" time na nasa bahay ka rin.
It takes time di ba? Alam ko mas expert ka saken kasi 4 na yung anak mo pero train mo yung yaya mo.

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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #5 on: February 02, 2012, 06:48:27 pm »

Again, I am not alone. After giving birth nawalan na rin ako time for myself. Even just to go to the bathroom kailangan mabilisan kasi it is just me and my baby in the house. Hindi na ako makapag pa mani and pedi. No time to meet my friends. Kung aalis man ako isang oras either to buy her diaper or milk o kaya to pay our household bills. Nahihiya din ako iwan sa mama ko si baby. Kung mgmall or lalabas o kaya meet ang friends I always make it a point na kasama anak ko at sobrang hirap. Hindi ka makapamili ng maayos. Pero nasanay na ako. Unti unti happy na ako makapagpapedicure ng 1 hour. Makapag facebook habang tulog si baby. Nasanay na ako. Kahit ngayon na nakakuha na ko ng yaya hindi pa rin ako makaalis unless super important.

Ganun na lang mommy, if you want to go bring your kids plus their yayas. Or once in awhile ask your husband to take incharge of the house and the kids at mgpapaspa ka lang sandali. Isa pa, dahil d na ako mkpagpaspa outside we call massage therapist na lang yung mga home service para hindi ko na kailangan iwan si baby kung masakit man likod ko.

Kailangan natin mgrecharge para mas maging efficient tayo. Para hindi tayo maging mainitin ang ulo at d agad tumanda. Go sis!
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« Reply #6 on: February 02, 2012, 07:21:41 pm »

you have to teach and train your yayas if you want time for yourself. kasi bakit ka pa kumuha ng yaya kung ikaw lang din naman ang gagawa ng trabaho nila? sa una maging hands-on ka, tapos pag umokay na yung work nila yaya then unti unti mo silang pabayaan. minsan din kasi kelangan nila matuto ng mag-isa kung hindi lagi silang naka-depend sayo, instead na makatulong, lalo ka lang mahihirapan.

relax, lang, mommy. do things slowly. :)

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« Reply #7 on: February 03, 2012, 01:29:48 am »

ilang taon mga kids mo mami che? May nag school na diba? So, pwedeng yung mga yaya ang maiwan sa dalawa then yung dalawa, pwede ng maisama sa mall for example. Like sa dinner/lunch mo with your friends.

Yung set-up talaga with your yayas dapat mong ayusin. Kaya nga sila nandyan, to help you. If di talaga ubra, hanap ka na nga lang ng ME time sa bahay. Yung hair spa, 30 min lang. Or FB konti, and SP. :) Meron din nag home service ng mani-pedi and footspa. May mga facial masks din na nabibili sa drugstores. It won't take much of your time. Kahit papano mababawasan pagod mo. Kasi kailangan natin yun, mas magiging magaan ang lahat for us pag hindi tayo super stress e. Mas maaalagaan natin mga kids.
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« Reply #8 on: February 03, 2012, 06:27:43 am »

Thanks mga mommies for all your advices... Recharge... Do things slowly... sila papuntahin sa house... home service... pag off ni hubby... Train the yayas...

@mommy france, maybe handling 4 kids is not a problem (kinda' stressful lang sometimes  :)) pero pagdating sa yaya, dyan ako di expert. nakakapagod kasi yung paulit ulit ulit  :-X

@ mommyangel, my kids are 5,4,3 & 1... Mga bulilit pa kutings ko  :)

Pero mga mommies, how do you define "me time" ba?... is it doing what you want, alone? me-time pa din ba if youre with hubby on a date?  :o
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #9 on: February 03, 2012, 09:39:18 am »

^^Mahirap mag-manage ng yaya. Sa totoo lang.

Definition ng "Me" time for me is yung para saken talaga. Time for the things that I want.
Either reading a book, meeting my friends, watching my favorite shows, mani/pedi.

Yung date with hubby is "Our" Time naman. Iba naman yun.

Kapag date kasi with hubby I have to think kung magugustuhan niya yung plano.
Pero kapag me time, ang objective ko talaga is magawa yung gusto ko.


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« Reply #10 on: February 03, 2012, 10:13:51 am »

Me time for me is shopping mag-isa, reading a book or watching a dvd alone. pwede din namang Me time ang date nyo, pero mas maganda pag merong time ka for yourself, to reflect, magmuni-muni or relax lang.

have you watched Sex and City2? si Charlotte mabaliw-baliw na din noon until she found out that she has to let go sometimes from being a mom to keep her sanity. syempre mas maganda ang mag-alaga ng kids pag masaya ka, rather than haggard ka di ba?

minsan talaga sinisingit ko na lang yung mga gusto kong gawin, lalo na nung maliit pa anak ko, usually pag tulog na siya. ngayon mas malaki na sya, wala na siyang yaya so tinutulungan ako ng parents ko sa pag-alaga sa kanya. i can do more things din ngayon na malaki na sya.

be patient with your yayas, konting hasa pa. :) or kung hindi talaga maging okay, maybe you should look for alternative help.

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« Reply #11 on: February 03, 2012, 10:48:01 am »

yup tama si sis ea_brea, napanood ko din yun. Plus, maapektuhan din pag alaga sa kids kasi madali maubos pasensya natin pag sobrang pagod na tayo.

Yung daughter ko nung nag 3 yrs old siya, naisasama ko na sa date ko with my friends. Doble pa ang purpose. Bond with friends and bond with my kid. Nung lumaki na siya, mas madali na din for me.

Ang ME time for me is to pamper myself. Spa/massage.. Ang ginagawa ko, sinasama ko yung anak ko sa mall, iniiwan ko siya sa playhouse then magagawa ko na yung para sakin. Nung una, naguilty ako kasi parang di maganda sa feeling ko yung iwan siya dun. Pero I look at the positive side. Nag-eenjoy anak ko to socialize and play tapos ako nare-relax. So, mas ok. Plus, after nun may OUR time kaming dalawa kasi kakain kami. Natutunan ko na ngayon mag-maximize ng time ko.

Pag off ko tapos gusto ko magpuntang salon and di talaga siya pwedeng isama kasi malikot, iniiwan ko muna sa mother ko pag pwede then after ko, mom ko naman ang punta salon. Compromise kami laging dalawa. Kaya usap kayo ni hubby mo about it.

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« Reply #12 on: February 03, 2012, 01:08:11 pm »

Pero mga mommies, how do you define "me time" ba?... is it doing what you want, alone? me-time pa din ba if youre with hubby on a date?  :o



Yes sis, for me "ME Time" is doing what I want. Regardless kung may kasama o wala.

1) Magluto ng gusto kong pagkain (kahit ayaw ng iba  ;D)
2) Mag movie marathon
3) Kumain ng favorite food ko (yung hindi ko kayang lutuin)
4) Mag-surf ng net
5) Kung aalis, dun na papasok yung date with my husband.  :-* and meeting up with my friends (especially yung mga kaibigan ko dito sa SP)  ;)

HIndi naman kailangan masunod ito lagi-lagi, saka mabababaw lang naman yung mga gusto ko.  Kase I'm a working mom and I have to set my priorities.  Kung maluwag ang sched ko, saka ko isinisingit kahit isa sa mga yan.
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« Reply #13 on: February 04, 2012, 04:19:57 pm »

kaya pala im masungit these past few days kasi im losing my sanity na pala  ;D hehe.. havent seen the movie yet sis ea-brea but korek nga.. dapat mag loosen-up.

i do have me-time din naman once in a blue moon  ::) mas maraming "our time"  ;)
minsan, dumadating ako sa point na iniisip ko- "kung pwede, ako lang yung aalis. ako lang ang lalabas"  pero parang nakakaguilty.

anyway, thanks mga sis ha... mag 'poprogram' ako para everybody happy..  :)
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« Reply #14 on: February 04, 2012, 05:27:02 pm »

I'm a trainer by profession and I agree to the moms who replied na it would be so much better to train your yaya's para maging mas productive sila sa gawain nila and maging sulit ang compensation na binibigay mo sa kanila (and para magkaroon ka ng spare time para sa sarili mo).  Training people is a challenging work and it would mean that you have to sacrifice a bit of your time for it (sorry, alam ko time for yourself na nga ang need mo tapos sinasabi ko pa dito na bigyan pa mga maids ng time.  Don't worry, pag trained na sila, makakahinga ka na ng mas maluwag). I suggest you take one step at a time. 

1. Know how your maids learn.  Do they learn by show and tell?  o nakakasunod naman sila ng ayos kapag verbal lang?  Kelangan ba pure tagalog ang gamiting language o nakakaintindi naman sila ng english?  Use mo yung best method kung paano sila mas nakakaintindi.  Then turuan mo sila using the method.

2.  You may want to write schedule nila of tasks.  Well, kahit empleyado ng mga kompanya, still tine-take note pa rin ang mga tasks for the day para hindi nila makalimutan ang mga gagawin nila.  Isulat mo dun sa schedule of tasks nila na kunwari, 5:00 - wake up time...blah-blah.  Then idikit mo yung copy fo task na yun kung saan nila yun makikita. Probably mas prefer nila pag may routine sila na sinusunod.

3. Gawan mo rin ng schedule yung sarili mo, like for example, every Thursday afternoon, mani-pedi time/massage time...blah-blah.  Then dapat aligned ito with the schedule of tasks ng maids nyo (you may also want to do the same sa hubby mo pag weekends. Hehe.  Asawa ko tinuruan ko magluto at maglaba...kaya nung natuto siya, every weekend yun ang ginagawa niya).

With this, hopefully makahanap ka ng scheduled time para sa sarili mo.  :)
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