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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #30 on: March 10, 2012, 10:09:58 pm »

Hi mga sis!  :)

Happy to share lang na nakalabas nako with my friends last month for 2hours... :D the more na nakakausap ko mga friends ko, the more na i want to have a monthly "me time" sana. Masarap kasi yung feeling na may nakakausap ka na totally naiintindihan ka e... Kahit once a month lang sana. Kaso nahihiya naman ako humingi kay hubby ng allowance for my lakad  ::)

i asked my mom to look after the kids esp to bantay the kasambahays na mas mga pasaway pa than my kids.. kawawa lang my mom pag-uwi ko coz she looked terrible handling my kutings :;) 

Bumaba din my self-esteem nung nastock ako dito sa house... gusto ko na nga bumalik sa work coz i cant function in the house properly na. Emptybat nako. Para akong sirang fon battery na kahit icharge hanggang 100% e nalolobat agad kahit konting gamit lang :) 

Hay naku mga mommies, kaya we really need a "me time"... and its a must. kailangan syang ilagay sa batas  ;D

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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #31 on: March 11, 2012, 11:27:25 am »

Share din ako dito.  :-\ isa ako sa mga walang "me-time" mommy. Kailangan ko na ito ASAP!! Sabi ko nga kay hubby, "kailan ba ang mother's day? Pwede ba ako na lang lumabas mag-isa? Manonood lang ako ng movie." haha! Ang babaw, pero ang tagal ko ng di nanood sa moviehouse. Dagdagan pa dana ng whole body massage at stroll sa mall. Ahehe! :) sabi na nila, after the "me time" you can function well and more focus sa pagaalaga kay baby. Kesa yung haggard and banggag ka na sa puyat diba?

Kaya sana makalabas na ako. Kahit 3-4 hours lang dahil breastfeeding din ako. Ang problem, kapag lalabas naman ako iniisip ko baby ko. So dapat kapag lumabas akp, si hubby magbantay kay baby. Buti nga yung ibang mommies may mga lola na pwede magbantay sa baby nila, ako kasi wala.  :-[

Siguro ang pinaka me time ko na dito sa bahay is yung makapag SP sa phone, makaligo (hindi puro halfbath) haha!!

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« Reply #32 on: April 14, 2012, 05:26:33 pm »

^nako pareho tayo sis! :(

I am a working mom, not proud but I have to. after office hours, uwi sa house alaga kay baby. pag sunday kay baby pa din. Nalulungkot na din nga ako! ni wala akong time na makita mga klasmeyt ko nun college! ni hindi nila ako nakitang buntis. Ok lang naman yun kase mommy na nga ako kaso lately parang nafefeel ko na wala na akong social life.

buti nalang accessible ang SP dito sa office kase kahit sa bahay hindi din ako makapag internet. need to check after my daughter. hays...
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #33 on: April 19, 2012, 10:07:40 pm »

I badly need this, yung facial trip ko 2 months ago ko pa gusto pero hindi magka oras.
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #34 on: May 10, 2012, 12:41:12 am »

Naku Mami Che! You need to make time for it, even if it's 30 minutes a day manlang!

If you have too many things to do, ask your family to help to give you at least a 30 minute break to do what enjoy doing.
It's so important to do this because you don't want to be stressed as a mom.

I've read studies that say that depressed parents can lead to having kids with developmental and behavioral kids. You don't want that diba? :)
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #35 on: May 10, 2012, 01:44:01 am »

Isa ako dito. I remember may mga posts na ako dito tungkol sa "ME" Time. After ko ma preggy at bumalik ng Pinas para dito manganak nawalan na talaga ang time sa sarili ko. Hindi naman sa hindi ako nag aayos o pinapabayaan ko ang sarili ko. Ayoko lang talaga iwanan ang anak ko to the point na mawala sya sa paningin ko. Minsan nagtatalo na kaming mag asawa na pinipilit niya akong lumabas at mag unwind pero ako ang may ayaw.
Alam ko nasa akin ang problema, wala naman kase akong friends dito sa Manila as in SP lang talaga ang ka kwentohan ko.
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #36 on: May 10, 2012, 01:59:32 am »

Naku Mami Che! You need to make time for it, even if it's 30 minutes a day manlang!

Thanks sis anne! Got me time na :) kelangan lang nauulit :D...  really trying to squeeze-in some 'me' time here coz ur korek, yoko maging stressed-mom ;) sumusungit ako. Kawawa naman my kutings..
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« Reply #37 on: July 04, 2012, 12:35:17 pm »

Me too.. i have no "me time". Though nakakaligo naman ako araw araw, d na nga lang talaga tulad ng dati na 1 hour ang ligo plus 1 hour pa para magpaganda. Ngaun, 5 minutes na ligo then go na. :(
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #38 on: September 15, 2012, 04:42:52 pm »


Do you often wish you could have even just a little bit of peace and quiet time?


5. Do something you love doing whenever you have the chance.
“Mommy Me-time” doesn’t have to be costly, extravagant or take too much time. Simply doing the things you love can be a perfect way to enjoy your “me-time”.


10 Ways to De-Stress and be a Better Mom
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/mom-dad/taking-care-of-mom/10-ways-to-de-stress-and-be-a-better-mom/page/1
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #39 on: September 27, 2012, 11:41:19 am »

Now na schooling na kids ko, I have a "me" time na. 3 hours sa hapon. Enough time makanood ng sine or parlor, catch sleep, do SP, watch DVD or eat out. Iba-ibang gimik everyday.
I waited 4 years since my bunso was born. I remember dati, kahit mag CR wala akong time. Mahabaang pasensiya lang talaga knowing na hindi naman forever ako walang time for myself. Siguraduhin lang na hindi agad masundan si bunso
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #40 on: September 28, 2012, 08:40:13 pm »

Nung birthday ko, nag-request talaga ako ng "me-time" sa asawa ko.

Sa almost 6 years namen na pagsasama, tanggap ko na na ang napang-asawa ko ay "needy".
That's what my friends call him kasi. Parang di niya kaya ng wala ako. So the first years kasi talaga is very hard and yung puso ko gustong kumawala.

Pero SP made me realize na dapat thankful pa ako kasi nakakalabas naman ako ng bahay. Yes I dont get to go out and have fun with friends but at least I see them at work.

and after ilang years, dininig na ni Lord ang dasal ko. My friends would exclaim now na "pinapayagan ka na lumabas?".
Of course careful planning pa rin kasi di pwedeng sunod-sunod so prioritization talaga. Pero Im very happy na pag nagpaalam ako, wala na siyang sad or angry face.

Nung birthday ko I went home at 3am then 9am nadatnan ko na sa bahay ng parents ko yung mag-ama ko. Dapat next day pa pero di na makatiis yung asawa ko. sumunod agad. pero, di naman niya ako ginambala.

I'm so happy talaga. Akala ko di na kasi darating yung point na pag nag-isip ako ng lakad, nakaka-stress kung paano magpapaalam.
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #41 on: September 29, 2012, 10:53:58 pm »

everytime po na lumalabas ako,maximum na 3hrs,kc super hirap pakainin ni baby nd super kulit,hindi kaya ng mom nd nung help namin, which is once a month lang naman po pra lang mg grocery ng mga kelangan ni baby, 2yrs old n baby girl ko,pero ayaw mgdrink s cup,kahit sip s bottle ayaw niya,tinatyagaan ko po na idropper,pero give her coke,chukie naku mabilis pa s matanda sumipsip s straw,2 yrs na yung dilemma ko na idropper siya,she really doesnt like milk,nsanay kc s breast feed kaya yun,til now mix feeding pa dn,ayaw dn ng rice,super bihira kumain ng rice,gerber nd cerelac p dn gusto niya...so wala po talagang ME time pra mkapag happy happy, hirap dn isama pg lalabas kc super duper kulit talaga...one time i tel my mom,aalis ako,ssbhin agad,umuwi k agad,hindi p nga nkakaalis uwi n agad...haha... :o
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #42 on: October 07, 2012, 06:16:55 pm »

I used to feel guilty every time I leave my baby to her yaya, daddy or lola so I can go to the salon or watch a movie.  But then, I read in a magazine and the internet that it is just right for mommies to have a "me time"so that we can recharge and become a better person.  It's for them din naman ito eh.  If we are relaxed, we are more joyful and fun to be around.  Eh kung lagi tayong stressed eh di maiksi ang pasensya natin...what happens then is mabilis tayong magalit, mainis at bugnutin...kaya mga mommies, I really recommend for all of us to have a relaxing time.  Do it once a week, twice a month or at least once a month.  We deserve it! :D
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #43 on: January 12, 2013, 09:52:11 pm »

Resolution # 5: Find more “me” time.

Why we can’t keep it: There’s always something more urgent, more important, that requires your full attention.

Baby steps: The secret is deliberately carving out some time for relaxation so that your “me” time can finally happen. What do you want to do this year? Perhaps you’ve been wanting to pursue your passion for photography, gardening or painting. Allot just one hour every Saturday morning to engage in a hobby.
8 Resolutions we Always Break ­ and How to Finally Keep them
www.smartparenting.com.ph/mom-dad/taking-care-of-mom/8-resolutions-we-always-break-and-how-to-keep-finally-them/page/2
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Re: I don't have a "ME" time
« Reply #44 on: January 17, 2013, 04:47:13 pm »

Ako, 1/2 glass red wine away from my kids' view while washing the dishes. Ok na ako nun ;)
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