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mariann

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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #15 on: June 08, 2012, 12:32:28 pm »

for me, it's reason enough to leave him when he's done any of the ff things:
> he's hurting me physically,
> he's not respecting me anymore by bringing into my face and into our house another woman,
> he's become a gay,
> he's hurting the kids
> and when our disagreements are up to the point that they're affecting the kids already.

i've been through a lot with my marriage.  it's not about other women, but about our differences.  there came a point that i'm just hanging on, bounded by mother's love.  if not for the kids, i would have left him years ago.  but now, we're trying to work things out.  thank God there have been some realizations and lessons during those tough times.

i've been through a psychologist and we've even been mediated by a judge.
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #16 on: June 08, 2012, 12:52:34 pm »

ang kay sis Lhani lang kasi is hndi pa sila kasal.. mas mahirap kasi pag kasal, isa un sa magiging reason pa din to really work things out.. cheer up sis Lhani. =)
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #17 on: June 08, 2012, 01:54:39 pm »

he's so irresponsible!  ganyan talaga sis lhani kung ang kaaway natin ay inuman.  wala kang makukuhang matino diyan.  if i were you, mas mabuti pa sigurong kumuha ka ng yaya, at huwag mo nang pauwiin dyan sa bahay nyo.  ibalik mo na lang kay nanay niya.

kung pagsabihan mo man yan, lalabas lang ang dila mo, di ka maiintindihan nyan.  sorry to say this, pero he has no balls to say no to his friends. 

he's not worth your time, love and effort.  give it all to your baby.  he doesn't even care about your child.

God bless!
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #18 on: June 26, 2012, 12:53:49 pm »

legal separation eh mas applicable kung me ari arian kayong paghahatian pero kung wala naman eh iwan mo na lang kung talagang hindi mo kaya. where are your parents? talk to someone for advice. mahirap sarilinin ang ganyang problem.

a guy like that eh immature pa at paulit ulit yan unless marealize niya na he needed to grow up.
at first siguro mahihirapan ka sa pag aadjust as a single parent pero diba mas me peace of mind ka.
me baby na kayo so mas unahin mo muna yun welfare ng anak mo kesa sa hubby mo. matanda na siya so
kaya niya sarili niya. at hinayaan mo din yata siya ng ganun kaya umabuso.
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #19 on: July 29, 2012, 10:31:22 am »

5 years na kami ni hubby pero habang tumatagal nagiging worst yung pagsasama namin. Wala na kami halos pakeelam sa isa't isa, wala ng sweetness at natatake for granted niya na ko. Ewan ko ba, pero kahit mahirap at alam kong mahirap magpalaki mag-isa ng bata iniisip ko nalang na kakayanin ko kahit wala sya. Kesa naman magstick kami together pero parang wala namang ngyayare, araw araw lang ako masstress kakaisip kung ano na bang ngyayare samin. Titiisin ko nalang siguro to, pero kung maaayos pa sana umayos na din pagsasama namin. Basta sakin kasama ko lang anak ko, magiging okay na ko. :)
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #20 on: September 17, 2012, 06:58:30 pm »


Sabi nga ng Mama ko, Kung hindi ka na mahal ng tao kahit respeto nalang ang ibigay sayo pwede pa magwork ang relationship. Pero kung pati respeto wala na, wala na ring dahilan to stay in a relationship.

Bastusan na harap harapan and ga**han na yan sis, I don't think sa lahat ng sacrifices mo yan dapat ang maging kapalit. You're the only person who knows what you and your child deserves. Actually hindi ka nakakaawa dahil malakas ang loob mo or either your baby dahil maswerte sya he/she still got you as his/her mom, malakas ang loob. Ang nakakaawa eh yung partner mo parang tumandang walang pinagkatandaan, bastos, hindi marunong rumespeto, irresponsable at walang kwenta. Grabe lahat na yata ng masamang ugali nasa kanya na. Sana one of this day eh maramdaman niya ang karma, mabilis pa naman ang balik nyan.


Good luck sayo sis, I know God has better plans for you.
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #21 on: September 18, 2012, 11:15:43 pm »

sis Lhani, just want to share this quote from 5 love languages. I think this is applicable sa situation mo.  Ang hirap ng sitwasyon mo. What I hate lang is bakit natitiis niya yung baby niyo nang ganun. I think he has an issue na hindi niya kayang aminin sa sarili niya...

Separation Does Not Equal Divorce

Sometimes separation is an act of love. Love says, ďI love you too much to help you do wrong. I will not sit here and let you destroy yourself and me. Therefore, Iím moving out. If you want to make our lives better, then I am willing to go to counseling with you.  But I wonít continue to be a part of your destructive behavior.Ē

This is tough but itís also loveóLove seeks the well-being of another. In marriage love is doing whatever is necessary to help your spouse break sinful patterns. When separation is viewed as an effort toward redemption, it is indeed loving. For more on this topic, you may want to read my book, Hope for the Separated: Wounded Marriage can be Healed.


Separation Does Not Necessarily Lead to Divorce

Itís my conviction that separation does not necessarily lead to divorce.

Separation forces us to admit that we have serious problems. When we examine divorce, we realize that divorce doesnít solve anything. In fact, it creates more problems. The best of our options is to seek reconciliation.

The Christian who makes this choice has all the help of God. God instituted marriage. He knows that marriage is not easy, but He also knows that He wants to use the pains of marriage to build us into more Christ-like people. When this happens, then the potential for a renewed marriage becomes real.  Are you asking God to use your present pain to make you more like Christ? As you grow in your own intimacy with Him, you will have His wisdom in what you should do in relating to your spouse. Your actions cannot control your spouse, but your actions will influence your spouse, for better or for worse



I hope it helps you. I got it from the book's website blog section. Ganda kasi ng book na ito eh...
Pray for more strength from God para malagpasan mo to...  ;)
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #22 on: September 21, 2012, 02:09:19 pm »

mommy celyn I super love the quote!  ;)
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #23 on: September 01, 2013, 01:22:21 am »

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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #24 on: April 05, 2020, 05:24:07 pm »

Hello ask lang po normal po ba nararamdaman ko sa hubby ko? Feeling ko wala naman po sya pagmamahal skin kht minsan d niya po ko nyayakap ng hnd po siya maglavmake kht ilabyu or kiss.bilang grl po gusto ko din po na nlalambing ako hnd dhl maglavmake.lagi po ako uniiyak na gusto kona po makipaghiwlay kasi po my 3kids po kami ayw niya po isama ko ank ko kung aalis na po ako.magtitiis nalang po b ako dto skanya? Lagi ndin po kami nag aaway kc parang ako mismo na gmgwa away namin iniinis kona talaga siya kc parang wala lang talaga kami nagiging immature na po ako sa mga bagay bagay kc isip pra mapansin ny ko kht simpling kwnetuhan po ayw niya.ayw nadin po niya nyayakap kopo siya lagi niya po ako tntaboy. Ayw niya po nlalambing ko siya.wala naman po xang babae at responcble po xang tatay.
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #25 on: April 16, 2020, 04:56:48 pm »

Mommy Reign, log in to Smart Parenting and check your inbox po. Nag message po ako sa inyo dun.
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #26 on: September 01, 2020, 04:50:16 am »

Nung una kami maauz masaya keya minahal kuh xah...maganda story namen nagkahiwalay kami for 4months tapoz yung bumalik xah hinanap nyah akuh at nagkabalikan kami ulet...nagibah xah ibang iba nung nakilala kuh xah nung una naging kami...3yrs nah kami at magkasama kasama ang mga anak nyah...dumating sa point nah sinasaktan niya nah akuh at ndih lang isa maraming beses...pero tiniis kuh un dahil kalah kuh maauz pa kasi sayan naman at ayaw kuh nah din ng iba pa...may anak akuh ang masakit pag dating sa anak kuh ayaw nyah wag kuh nah daw isipin un...dbah savihan nyah akuh ng ganun...tapoz ang masaklap yung mga anak niya magkakadama kami...at parang katulong na akuh ulti mo pinagkainan hindi malagay sa lababo...lahat inasa saken...ito pa ang masama yung kahit pagmamalasakit nalang...isipin nyoh pagod na akuh maghapon dahil kahit hindi ko anak pinagsisilbihan kuh...yung pahinga kuh nalang dun pah magiingay...yung matindi pa katulong tingin saken...may kaya xah pero bket niya ako ginawa katulong kung tutuusin kahit ilan pwede xang kumuha...kung mahal niya tlgah akuh hindi niya gagawin saken yung ganun diba?!tapoz itoh pah matindi sinasaktan akuh dahil lang sa pagtatampo kuh...tapoz ang gusto niya parang sunod sunodan akuh sakanya...yung tipong kahit pagmamalasaket lang nah savihin pahinga kah na pagod ka na...walang ganun...naalala kuh pa nga dabi saken pagod akuh nun sabay sabi hugasan mo yan wag mo na paabutin mamaya...naiyak ako naawa sa sarili ko pero tiniis ko pa din yun...hanggang ngaun nandito pa din ako sakanya...pagod na pagod na ako at ang masama yung mgah anak niya inaalagaan kuh tapoz ang savih niya sa anak kuh pabayaan ko na daw...nandun kasi sa mama kuh yung anak kuh...imagine
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #27 on: September 01, 2020, 07:14:46 am »

Imagine ako sa mga anak niya tinuri kong totoo Parang kong anak...lahat halos binigay ko...yung konting malasakit man lang yung alam maghapon ka pagod...yung gabi nalang pahinga mo hindi pa mabigay magiingay pa...grabe pakikisama ko...dapat ko pa ba ituloy yung relation namen na ganito hindi pa tanggap anak ko...advice naman po thanx in advance...
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Re: kelan sapat ang reason para makipag-hiwalay?
« Reply #28 on: September 02, 2020, 11:57:47 am »

Hello Uniquea. May PM po ako sa inyo, paki check n alang po ang inyong inbox.

Samantala, ito po ang mga maaari ninyong pagkuhaan ng tamang impormasyon tungkol sa pinagdadaanan ninyo.

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