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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #15 on: March 05, 2012, 01:31:50 pm »

Hi Sis,

Dati nagwork ako sa Korean Company..Sad to say, may mga ilang Korean companies na ayaw talaga sa mga single parent/s, hiwalay, unmarried, basta yung may complicated story ng buhay..Kinonfirm to mismo ng boss ko..I will cite example pa..
1. NAbuntis ako bago nagpakasal..That time, ang balak namin, after ko na lang kami manganak para makaipon pa pangkasal at the same time, sabay na lang sa binyag. Nung sinabi ko sa boss ko, agad niya akong kinausap na ayusin ko na daw agad kasal namin.. And Know what, siya ang gumastos sa kasala namin para mapadali lang..As in lahat..Sinabi niya kasi sa akin na pwede daw ako tanggalin ng company once na nalaman to *( O diba, exagz)

2. Nung paresign na ako, madaming qualified na candidates pero pumapalpak kasi unmarried, single moms, o kaya hiwalay. Dun pa lang, bagsak na kahit gano kaganda credentials...

Ewan ko lang sa ibang Korean companies ha, pero halos lahat ng alam kong company,ganun sila,,.
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #16 on: March 14, 2012, 11:01:08 am »

@ moi angels, sis tama ka - "easy-to-get"..naalala ko, there was this one guy sa office who after i came back from maternity leave, bigla na lang me mga hint, pasaring na "available" daw sya..tapos yung mga jokes niya naging green, even in front of others, i'd be the target of green jokes..nakakainis..

kung iisipin mo di ba, this is still me, nothing has changed except that i became a single mom and it could be for a variety of reasons..tapos ang mga tao, icacategorize ka na lang negatively..teka, tao ka pa rin naman..tao pa rin tayo..we are the same person and malamang better person pa nga after having a child..di ba?  :'(

@ jadiejesslyn, thanks for championing single moms.. :) i wish there are more people like you..

@ mommyjanice, naaliw naman ako sa boss mo pero hindi masyado sa company nyo..discrimination to highest level sila ha..  :o
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #17 on: April 03, 2012, 11:08:15 pm »

regarding discrimination naalala ko lang yung interview kay andi eigenmann she said something like, if they don't get pregnant it doesn't mean they're not having sex or that they're virgins. kasi parang dun nanggagaling yung discrimination, na because we got pregnant out of wedlock and eventually became single moms automatic easy girl, should not be taken seriously, low morals. haaaay stress
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #18 on: May 07, 2012, 01:10:47 pm »

Hi mommies! Sharing this article about According to the Law: Solo Parent Leave.

This is important especially to those single parents who doesn't know yet about Solo Parents' Welfare Act of 2000 which have benefits including protection against discrimination in the work place.
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #19 on: May 07, 2012, 10:24:25 pm »

i'm not a single mom, but i really hate it when single moms are being discriminated or judged.
i work in a bank, and i have two tellers under me who were single moms.  i pointed out that it was their choice not to get married as long as they have not really made up their minds.  pregnancy should not be a compelling reason to get married.

good thing such actuations/circumstances were not included in our code of conduct.  it doesn't mean that if they've done something stupid in life, they're stupid at work.  each one is entitled to their own personal choice.  and for me, choosing to be a single mom rather than give up the baby for the sake of a career is not stupidity.  it means being strong enough to face the situation head on, with or without a partner.
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #20 on: May 09, 2012, 10:49:02 am »

regarding discrimination naalala ko lang yung interview kay andi eigenmann she said something like, if they don't get pregnant it doesn't mean they're not having sex or that they're virgins. kasi parang dun nanggagaling yung discrimination, na because we got pregnant out of wedlock and eventually became single moms automatic easy girl, should not be taken seriously, low morals. haaaay stress

i agree, meron talagang mga tao na kapag maaga ka nabuntis or nabuntis ka out of wedlock ay iba na ang tingin sa yo. napaka judgemental, akala mo ang lilinis na tao. may naencounter lang ako sa isang interview ko before (though natanggap naman ako sa company) with the GM of the company na nabanggit ko na may anak na ako pero hindi kasal. ayun napailing siya, and to think bata pa to ha! what more yung mga may edad na.

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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #21 on: May 13, 2012, 02:16:18 pm »

Hi mga single mommies,

I think it should start from us. Just show them your worth. I'm happy with where I work right now. I'm in Sunlife by the way and sabi ng aking unit manager sakin  during interview is something like: Sa totoo lang mataas ang tingin ko sa mga single moms. They're tougher.

Syempre palakpak ang ears ko. I agree, in a sense that:
1. you'll have to juggle the roles of a mom and dad in one.
2. you need to work double time to feed your family and still be present in our kids' lives.
3. you'll have to 'fend of' criticisms of being a single mom.
4. and marami pang IKAW lang lahat ang gagawa magisa.

Dun pa lang diba. Worth it ka na.

I'm a single mom and isa lang masasabi ko sa criticisms and discriminations: DEADMA. Di ko kayo papatulan.

Hindi pa naman ako nasasabihan ng 'easy-to-get' but if ever someone will, edi magdedeadma mode ulit ako. All they want is attention anyway and if you don't give it to them then they'll stop. Don't even dare to bat an eyelash.

As per Ann Curtis, sa kanya ko nakuha yang motto na yan. hahaha! Learn the art of deadma mga sis. If you're in the 'hot seat' just learn the art of deadma :P
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #22 on: May 30, 2012, 02:56:53 pm »

I've been with my present Company for 5 years now. But we never discriminate single parents. During final interviews, I personally considers single parents because they are very motivated and passionate about their jobs. Maybe because they have to provide a decent living for their family. I have high respect for them.

I agree. One of my friend is a single mom too.
Dedicated sa work kasi wala naman siyang aasahan kundi siya lang talaga. Sarili niya lang.
Kapag tsini.tsismis siya or dini.discriminate siya...hindi niya na lang yun pinapansin instead focus siya sa baby niya pero kapag hindi niya minsan kinakaya or lumalampas sa limitations niya eto sinasabi niya...

"kung maka.react ka, bakit ikaw ba bumuntis sa akin? hindi diba? e ba't may reaksyon?"  :P
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #23 on: May 31, 2012, 07:58:34 am »

Another inspiring story about single parenting. Here's SP Mag article about:
Taking up the Challenges of Solo Parenting
--> http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/pinoy-parenting/taking-up-the-challenge-of-solo-parenting
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #24 on: May 31, 2012, 12:39:44 pm »

^so sad naman to hear stories of discrimination especially against single moms. I'm not a single mom pero I know some women who are. I randomly meet them. All I can is, ako nga na may husband na hirap pa sa baby ko..how much more pa kaya pag single mom ka? You have to provide for everything for your child at the same time you have to take care of him/her. Di ba nila naisip na if you were in the single mom's shoe how would you feel knowing that you have to be both parents tapos i-turn down ka lang? So bad, so unjust and so inhumane. Haaay..I HATE PEOPLE WHO DISCRIMINATE.

I got pregnant out of wedlock when I was with a huge company. When they knew I was pregnant, Ok lang sa kanila. More important sa kanila na you can do your job. Actually, naexcite pa nga yung people sa department namin. They even gave me a surprise Baby Shower.

Now, I'm in Government service and they don't discriminate against single mom. (syempre di ba, kasi Government na nga). Actually, mas gusto nila yung may family na para motivated na mag-work and yung for law for Single Parents is talagang naiimplement. Iniexplain pa nga nila ang law for single parent kahit na Married ka..sabi nila Just in  Case but hopefully wag naman sana. Hahaha natawa nga ako eh. Standard procedure kasi ata yun.
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #25 on: September 01, 2013, 01:23:21 am »

Smart Parenting magazine's upcoming Sept. 2013 issue: Single Parents Special

http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/community/news/danica-and-marc-pingris-for-sp-first-mag-cover-post-gilas-victory
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #26 on: September 02, 2013, 02:12:32 am »

Napaka unfair naman kung mangdiscriminate sila. Bakit kasalanan ba natin na walang balls at not man enough ang mga tatay ng anak natin? Did we even chose to have irresponsible partners? Hindi naman di ba? We live in an age na sex is a normal part of any relationship. It takes two to tango. Walang batang mabubuo kung tayo lang magisa noh. Hindi ba nila naisip that irresponsible dads should be the ones looked down upon. Tayo na nga itong nagtataguyod para sa anak natin being both a mom and a dad tayo pa hindi mabibigyan ng magandang opportunities? Mas ok ba sa society na ito kung sabihin natin na we chose magpa abort na lang or ibandon mga babies natin kasi hindi tayo pinakasalan? Alin kaya mas imoral? In the first place, hindi lahat ng kasal at may asawa perfect at happily ever after ang buhay. People who discriminate are big HYPOCRITES. Nakakaawa sila, hindi tyo, kasi mas stable at malawak  ang pagiisip natin kaysa sa kanila. Thats why we could play the role of both the mom and the dad  :D

Wag paapeko much sis. Mas madami naman ok na companies out there versus the patapon ones. Cheer up :)
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Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« Reply #27 on: September 02, 2013, 10:01:28 am »

hi mga sis.. new lang po me dito.. what if  yong discrimination eh sa mismong bahay ninyo nagaganap? and mother mo pa mismo ang nagdidiscriminate sayo? what will you do?
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