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gandangmorena

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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #30 on: April 18, 2012, 09:53:27 am »

magulo pa po kasi yung sitwasyon namin, ang sa akin lang ayoko naman PAG NAG ARAL ANG BABY KO, MAGTANONG BAKIT BLANGKO ANG PAPA NIYA.. sana NGA PO MAAYOS PA.. :(

pasali ako sis....

Sa tingin ko mas maganda if may surname yung baby mo ng biological father niya, based kasi sa experience ng SIL ko, may dalawa siyang anak sa una pero same father pareho, hindi niya ito ipinapangalan sa father although nakikipag-communicate yung father ng dalawang bata, then nung elementary pa lang yung eldest niya wala namang question sa school nagumpisa lang yung problem nung ga-graduate na yung bata sa elementary sabi kasi ng principal ng school hindi daw pwede if walang surname yung bata, magkakaproblem daw yun sa high school. Hindi sumunod yung SIL ko kaya yung diploma nung anak niya maiden name niya yung gamit.
Nung mage-enroll na yung bata sa school, nauso na yung birth certificate from NSO dun sila nagkaproblema kasi yung file nung bata walang middle name. So blangko siya, sa unang school (private) hindi sila tinanggap kasi daw labag sa rules ng eskwelahan (mga 3 schools ang hindi tumanggap sa anak ng SIL ko dahil sa problem sa surname niya) Buti na lang natanggap siya sa public school sa tulong pa yun ng malapit na friend nila na nagwo-work sa school.

Wala naman sigurong problema if ipapagamit mo yung surname mo sa anak mo, pero tignan mo rin yung magiging consequences sa situation niya paglaki niya kasi yung sa anak ng SIL ko, nadiscriminate siya masyado sa condition na yun... Tinatanong siya sa school if sino yung father niya? Nabu-bully sa school... kasi kahit pa sabihin may mga tao pa rin na narrowminded na hindi makakaintindi sa sitwasyon at ang magsa-suffer eh yung bata...
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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #31 on: April 19, 2012, 08:33:59 pm »

@raizah14, is your parents married? Maybe that's why the embassy asked for the consent.
When you are not married, you have the parental authority to your child, kahit iba ang surname niya.
When was that? baka they changed the rules already. Check the link I posted, that's the current law regarding bringing your child to the US.

If you want to change your baby's surname, you need to consult a lawyer.
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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #32 on: April 19, 2012, 08:41:09 pm »

@raizah14, is your parents married? Maybe that's why the embassy asked for the consent. When was that? baka they changed the rules already. Check the link I posted, that's the current law regarding bringing your child to the US.

siguro dahil their married nga mommy ilovegabe. Still gusto parin nang mom ko to change my daughter's family name. I will ask a lawyer regarding this matter kasi nabahala naman ako sa sinabi ni mommy gandangmorena.
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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #33 on: April 20, 2012, 09:42:16 am »

raizah14....

dapat talaga sa mga ganyang decision isaalang-alang natin yung magiging consequences,
okey nga sa iba pero paano naman sa talagang involved which is your child...
sa anak kasi ng SIL ko, parang naging shy siya, aloof ba sa others, unsociable, alging nasa bahay lang...

Sana you'll decide for the best...
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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #34 on: April 20, 2012, 12:32:34 pm »

ALready thought about it. Dito kasi, I have my cousin's sons na naging ok naman sila kahit dala nila family name nang mom nila and no middle name. Sabi kasi nang laywer, ganyan talaga daw yan. Not necessary for mothers to have their child carry the family name of the father as long as acknowledge nang father yung anak niya. The child can carry the mothers surname without a middle name, and as she reaches 18 daw she can choose na whether to carry the family name of her father (basta nakapirma sa affidavit yung ama).

Regarding her VISA , some embassy requires a letter na nagpoprove na ina.allow nang father ang mother to bring their child kahit hindi sila kasal. Sa Phil Law, ok lang daw, it is not necessary kaso with other countries/embassy required parin daw.

Kaya ganun. Still weighing things out.
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Surname ni baby. Sobrang confused na ko, help mommies.
« Reply #35 on: April 23, 2012, 03:15:31 pm »

Due ko na this april 30, in good terms na kame ni SD pati sa family namen, yun nga lang hindi na kame but we're working things out naman. Maliit lang yung sweldo niya tapos retired n yung parents niya, but still ngbbigay sila ng kht konti for the baby.. Yung parents ko gusto iapelido samen yung baby, tapos si SD gusto sa kanya pero nung nlman niya na yun yung gusto ng parents ko kht mskit s loob niya cnbi niya sundin ko n lang parents ko ayaw daw niya n mgkagulo pa between me and my parents regarding this issue.. So ako ngayon 50:50, kung ano b talaga dapat. At kung sino b talaga mgdedesisyon?. Gusto ko iapelido c baby sa kanya para legit child c baby, On the other hand gusto ko saken iapelido kc thinking about the future, bka iwan niya kami ulit though he promised me naman na hnd n mangyyare yun and nkikita ko naman yung effort niya at yung concern niya samen ni baby. Ang gusto ko lang kc assurance na hnd niya kami iiwan ni baby.. Mommies , ano b dapat kong gwin?   :-\
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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #36 on: April 23, 2012, 03:43:10 pm »

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Re: Surname ni baby. Sobrang confused na ko, help mommies.
« Reply #37 on: April 24, 2012, 08:52:46 am »

Due ko na this april 30, in good terms na kame ni SD pati sa family namen, yun nga lang hindi na kame but we're working things out naman. Maliit lang yung sweldo niya tapos retired n yung parents niya, but still ngbbigay sila ng kht konti for the baby.. Yung parents ko gusto iapelido samen yung baby, tapos si SD gusto sa kanya pero nung nlman niya na yun yung gusto ng parents ko kht mskit s loob niya cnbi niya sundin ko n lang parents ko ayaw daw niya n mgkagulo pa between me and my parents regarding this issue.. So ako ngayon 50:50, kung ano b talaga dapat. At kung sino b talaga mgdedesisyon?. Gusto ko iapelido c baby sa kanya para legit child c baby, On the other hand gusto ko saken iapelido kc thinking about the future, bka iwan niya kami ulit though he promised me naman na hnd n mangyyare yun and nkikita ko naman yung effort niya at yung concern niya samen ni baby. Ang gusto ko lang kc assurance na hnd niya kami iiwan ni baby.. Mommies , ano b dapat kong gwin?   :-\

mommy, alam mo ba pros and cons if/if not nakaapelyido with your SD si baby ? :))

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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #38 on: April 24, 2012, 03:10:37 pm »

kasal ba kayo ni SD mo?

bakit may doubt ka kung okey naman pala kayo ni SD? bakit hindi kayo magpakasal?
mahirap ang ganyang situation na naninimbang ka...
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Re: Kelangan pa bang baguhin ang apelyido ni baby?
« Reply #39 on: April 24, 2012, 03:29:40 pm »

Hi sis mommylovesyou! Hm, medyo mahirap nga yung dilemma mo. Ikaw naman muna ang magdedecide sa ngayon. Lalo pa't ang main concern mo is yung assurance na hindi na niya kayo ulit iiwanan. Kung gusto mo, para lang maging practical, pwedeng sa 'yo mo muna ipangalan si baby. After how many years, kung kasal na kayo at more importantly kampante ka na sa kanya, you can go through the necessary steps to change baby's surname.

Share ko lang sis ha, medyo may hawig kasi yung situation ko sayo. I'm a very young mom, gave birth dun sa eldest namin when I was still 16 years old. Pumirma noon si husband-then-boyfriend ko sa paternal acknowledgment sa birth certificate pero nagulat ako pinangalan pa rin ng nanay ko sa akin yung panganay. Siguro naninimbang pa si Mama noon kung seryoso ba talaga yung asawa ko o case lang ito na naanakan tapos maghihiwalay din kami. So ang dala na surname ni eldest is yung maiden name ko. We are already married, pregnant ako ngayon sa 4th baby namin and yung second and third namin nakapangalan na kay husband. Bale kailangan lang namin lakarin sa court yung surname change ni eldest. Yun lang naman ang hassle sa ganitong sitwasyon.

Sa lahat ng mommies na may same dilemma, kung main concern niyo is baka pag-uusapan na walang nakalagay na pangalan ng daddy sa birth certificate or other issues na mostly tungkol sa opinyon ng iba, DON'T PRESSURE YOURSELF WITH THOSE. Di naman nila alam kwento niyo, magaling lang sila magsalita. Besides, teachers should be sensitive enough not to gossip about such issues. I should know, I took up BSE English kasi. Ethics na lang saka consideration at respeto sa kapwa.
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« Reply #40 on: June 11, 2012, 02:22:50 pm »

May friend po ako na nagpakasal sa isang Japanese dito sa Pinas. May anak siya sa pagka.dalaga. Ngayon, gusto niya ipabago ang surname ng anak niya kaso po ayaw pumayag ng father nung bata, although hindi kahit kaylan nagbigay ng financial support yung father pero naka.pirma siya sa birth certificate nung bata.
Ngayon po my friend is seeking some legal help for this kasi gusto niya maisama ang bata sa Japan kapag kinuha na siya ng napangasawa niya.
Meron po ba kayong pwedeng i.suggest na legal attorney for this matter? and if meron po sana within the province of Cavite (taga sun kasi friend ko) or sa malapit sa area.

Thanks!
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Re: Sino po may kakilalang attorney? Regarding change of child's surname
« Reply #41 on: June 16, 2012, 03:14:08 pm »

adopti0n yata yan with fathers consent. it will be
easier to ask paternal c0nsent for the childs permit
to travel. madali and wala masyado gastos.
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« Reply #42 on: July 12, 2012, 10:46:58 am »

Hi mommies! This is somewhat a legal question, pero gusto ko lang malaman baka meron na kayong ganitong experience or someone you know has been or going through this dilemma.

My first born is currently using her dad's surname. He signed her birth cert recognizing her as his child after I gave birth to her. Now, I'm pregnant and about to give birth to our second child. But we already separated (anyway, we're not married) so my unborn child will carry my family name.

But I would like my first child to use my family name also instead of her father's. How do I go about this and how much would it cost me? I heard that this needs to be published in local newspapers as well.  We were not married. I have plans of going abroad and luckily I will be able to take my sdaughter with me however us having different surnames might pose a problem (with the embassy, schooling etc).Do you have any suggestions as to how I can go about changing it without having to go through court? Your prompt response will be greatly appreciated…Thanks!



TIA, Mommies!
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Re: Change of Surname for Children
« Reply #43 on: July 12, 2012, 04:59:59 pm »

My apology sis, but there is no other way but to go to the court.  :( please read Family code.
the problem now is you have to show documents from time to time whenever it is necessary. its hassle for you but you can't do anything about it. Only people with ridiculous surnames are allowed to change their names such as Galawgaw, Pukekaw, etc. Also people with whom relatives are member or famous syndicate/ criminals are enable to change their last name by reason of "kahihiyan".


I hope i was able to help you sis  ;)
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Re: Change of Surname for Children
« Reply #44 on: July 12, 2012, 05:38:05 pm »

Thanks for that info. Hassle is welcome as long as I can change the surname of my child.  8)
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