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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #30 on: March 30, 2012, 08:08:12 am »

palo na talaga pero ang pamalo ko sis is isang piece ng walis tingting...tukog kung baga pero 1 piece lang... yon na yon pag sinabi na kuha ka ng pamalo mo...iyak na sya at sasabihin hindi na niya uulitin...hahaha  after a few hours inuulit na ulit n baby..hahhaa

tama ba sis napapalo mo si baby ng i piece na walis tingting?ewan ko lang sabi nila pag pinalo daw si baby ng walis namamayat daw especially walis tingting.siguro its because tingting sya?hahaha ang weird noh?I dont know if its true..kasabihan lang ng matatanda. kaya ako minsan hanger hehe..di talaga maiwasan mamalo kahit labag sa loob natin diba? minsan kasi nakakaubos ng pasensya. in the end tayo rin naguiguilty..
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #31 on: March 30, 2012, 09:45:51 am »

@sis  nylej20 - parang nadinig ko nga ang kasabihan na yan... sa bata lang kaya? kasi kung totoo yan hala magpapapalo na ko ng bonggang bongga ng mangayayat haha
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #32 on: March 30, 2012, 03:38:44 pm »

...pag namamalo dapat wag kamay or dapat gumamit tayo ng kahit anong object like tsinelas, sinturon,tingting, etc..kasi ang kamay natin ang ginagamit natin panglambing sa mga babies natin..pag kamay din pinapamalo natin ma disorient sya.. while pag object he knows na hindi ang kamay natin ang nakasakit sa kanya..

sa case ko naman ang laki ng gap ng daughter ko and my son (14 years)..mabait ang daughter ko nun toddler until mag tween sya...peor si daughter nun buntis ako kung ano ano kalokohan ginawa sa school...yun HS teacher nila na lalaki na medyo mahinhin ni lock niya sa CR tapos nakita nun isang senior teacher ..nagalit at pinatawag ako sa office of Prefect Discipline...kakapanganak ko pa lang nun and on maternity leave pa...tapos mga kasabay ko sa office ng POD eh mga parents ng boys..hay sabi ko ka level mo sa kakulitan ang mga boys...sabi niya kasi ka close daw niya ang teacher kaya ok lang yun..sabi ko respect naman sa position ng teacher...may case din na pinatawag ako kasi ang kapal daw ng lipstic..sabi ko kasi maitim ang upper lip niya na they should understand sa stage nila eh medyo insecure kaya gumagamit ng lip gloss...at madami pa case...

nun lumalaki na son ko medyo nag mature ng konti kasi sya na nagpapatulog pag wala pa ako sa house ..matagal kasing only baby kaya ganun..pero now super love na niya ang brother niya wag lang guguluhin mga gamit niya at papatulan niya :)
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #33 on: March 30, 2012, 04:15:49 pm »

Wow! 14 years sis purplemom?? sa case naman ng brother ko, 11  years bago nasundan yung daughter nila. boy din yung sumunod, naha-hiblood talaga brother and SIL kasi parang aso't pusa kung mag-away akala mo walang malaking age gap hehe
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #34 on: March 31, 2012, 01:10:08 pm »

@aichimom hahaha natawa ako sau sis naku kung effective nga yan sa tulad natin, dika nag iisa magpapalo na rin ako kasehodang magkalatay latay kung kapalit naman nun ay pagpayat ko hahaha

@ sis onie. Grabe pala daughter mo sis noh?kakaloka ang kasutilan. Naalala ko rin nung lumabas brother ko ako din naiinis sa kanya kasi di ako makapaglaro sa labas ng di sya kasama. 10 years din kasi ang gap namin. Naku kinukurot ko talaga siya ng palihim hehe pero later on nawala na rin pagkainis ko kasi lumalaki na rin sya. Malalagpasan din ng mga bata ang katigasan ng ulo nila medyo matagal nga lang at kelangan ng tamang gabay
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #35 on: April 02, 2012, 01:44:52 pm »

@AichiMom and nylej20...nag evolve talaga ang pag discipline sa mga kids..from toddler to teens ang dami din adjustment..wala naman talaga exact formula ng pag discipline sa mga anak natin..lahat trial and error...from baby to tweens, wala ako masyado problem sa daughter ko..nun nag HS na lang na nagulat ako at napapatawag ng Prefect of Discipline..he he..

@nylej20..mas challenge sayo sis lalo na paglumaki na mga kids kasi nasa US kayo..expose na sila sa ibang culture...
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #36 on: April 03, 2012, 05:36:37 am »

@purplemom  naku sis sinabi mo..big challenge talaga sakin to. ngayon pa nga lang yung stepdaughter ko na 14yo grabe na makapag make up. and nakakatakot lang na baka sa mga masasamang barkada siya mapunta. Grabe culture shock ko sa mga teens dito. Given a chance gusto ko pa rin na dyan satin lumaki ang mga kids ko kung may chance lang. ayoko kasi mawala yung mga values natin as Filipino eh.  Kelangan ko lang talaga sila iguide ng bonggang bongga.
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #37 on: July 03, 2012, 01:59:11 am »

Yung panganay ko super tigas ng ulo, kase dalawa kami ng mommy ko nagaalaga, so inisip ko talaga ano un root cause, i reckon my son havedifficulties over authority...syempre magkaiba kami ni mommy, so i spoke with the people around my son na dapat parepareho kami ng way ng pagdiscipline saanak ko, ayoko kase na pag pinagalitan eh kakampihan nila... So far okay naman. I also do time-outs kapag super likot na, either he have to go in his room alone, without toys etc etc, basta wala kakausap sakanya but before i ask him to go to his room, i tell him na he can go out once ready na sya to accept his mistake or say sorry kung nakasakit sya. Minsan natatagalan sya bago lumabas ng room kasi daw hindi niya pa alam kung ano kasalanan niya. Also when he say sorry i always tell him na important na hindi na uulitin yung ginawang mali. I dont reprimand him infront of people, i always call him in the room and kinakausap ko sya.. I dont say mali ka, may kasalanan ka, bad ka etc etc, instead, i always ask him, why do you think i need to talk to you? Why do you think that is bad? Why do you think you need do time-outs? Etc etc..kasi i want him to realize on his own kung ano yung mali...at i make sure to tell him na hindi ako galit sa kanya kundi sa ginawa niya :) 
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #38 on: July 09, 2012, 12:55:26 pm »

eto rin problem ko sa panganay ko na 3 years old.. di makuha sa palo at kahit pumutok na ugat ko sa leeg kakasigaw ayaw pa rin sumunod... iniisip ko kung maging effective ba sa kanya yung di ko papansinin kasi may baby brother sya na 9mos old baka isipin niya na di ko na sya love at kapatid lang niya papansinin ko... parang ayaw ko na rin kasi sobrang mamalo kasi napapansin ko pag may ayaw siya like ayaw maligo or pumasok sa school pinapalo niya yaya niya, naisip ko baka nagagaya niya yung ginagawa ko sa kanya :(
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #39 on: July 10, 2012, 11:23:59 pm »

the best thing is to communicate well wd ur toddler. Totoo yung na nagagaya ng bata ang gnagawa ntn s knla. Pag namamalo ka ganun dn ang gagawn niya pg galit sya. Tiis muna wag magalit kgad.
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #40 on: July 14, 2012, 01:55:21 pm »

laivalenzuela - if you do time outs pero contra yung mga tao sa bahay, then that might be the problem why your having trouble disciplining your child.

It's not your child's fault. What happening is you're doing one thing and your family members are negating it. You need to sit down with the rest of your family and just tell them that you need to all be supporting each other when it comes to methods. You all have her best interest at heart naman, but they should follow your lead (not because their method is wrong) because you're the mom. It's your kid.

Also, you may want to try positive disciplining .. i know i wrote about punishing before but what if you focused on the positive?

Like: When your child refuses to do something, you say na if she does it, you will watch her favorite movie with her? Tapos, other times, when she does something good, tell her she should be proud of herself - para she feels fulfilled as a person and learns to be happy with her actions.

How does that sound?
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #41 on: July 14, 2012, 10:16:14 pm »

aside from spanking, have you tried other ways like talking and explaining to the child why his/her behavior isn't good? If it didn't work, how about trying other forms of sanctions like FACE THE WALL or TIME OUT? Yung face the wall, instead of hitting the child, tell him firmly to face the wall for a few minutes. Mas maganda kung dun sa medyo gilid kung saan feel niya na parang isolated siya pagkatapos nun,saka mo siya kausapin. Yung time out naman, magtakda kayo ng place sa bahay like a room or even an imaginary circle sa may sala. Dun muna siya ng ilang minutes, no interaction with anyone para feel nyang isolated siya. It works for my nephews.
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #42 on: November 20, 2012, 08:41:00 am »

help naman mga mommies like me,,i have a 2 year old kid im 24 ang anak ko napakakulit walang pinakikinggan at walang kinatatakutan, pag galit ako napapalo ko siya kasi ayaw niya mkinig i really dont know what to do,,paano ba gagawin ko can u give me tip on how to discipline a kid at yung mkukuha lang sa tingin...
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #43 on: March 03, 2015, 09:43:38 am »

Hello, mommies! I blogged about how I discipline my toddler here: http://www.lifeastheceo.com/2015/03/on-disciplining-toddler.html?m=1

It might help. :-)
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Re: Super tigas na ulo ng bata anong dapat gawin
« Reply #44 on: July 14, 2015, 10:37:37 am »

Hi Mommies,

"When it comes to disciplining your child, it’s not always a “one size fits all” -
share ko lang ito may mga helpful tips kung pano mag discipline ng bata...
Iba iba dipende sa age ng bata.

pwedeng subukan..

http://www.inforgrab.com/how-to-discipline-your-child/

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