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mami che

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To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« on: March 24, 2012, 08:13:28 am »

I really cant decide mga sis...  :o

My hubby doesnt like me sana to go back to work para i could take care of our kids. Tutok kung baga :)  but kung kaya financially ni hubby (tho' surviving/struggling)  - why go back to work?...

if i will go back to work, i could give "more" to my kids... more pasyal & vacations, more stuffs (toys, clothes,etc), could enroll them to summer classes (even 2 activities of their choice), i could renovate the house of my parents little by little, i could have my monthly beauty regimen without asking from hubby, i could help hubby in our monthly expenses... etc... parang ako yung sa side ng "more"...

Dilemma : i doubt if my preschoolers will still be no.1 in their respective classes kung less tutok na ko... if we could still do assignments together when i arrive from office...if i could still asikaso the needs of hubby early in the morning before going to office... My mom would be here naman to look after the yayas and kids but still not confident with my kasambahays right now but anjan naman mama...

Tingin nyo sis?  :-[

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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #1 on: March 24, 2012, 08:49:12 am »

Work sis ;) God has its own way to provide good people around you to guide the kids like your mom and kasambahay, lay down the rules siguro sa yaya, never stop working, plus , yun nga , you could help hubby to augment needs ng mga bata and the house ;)
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #2 on: March 24, 2012, 08:58:33 am »

if it's okay with hubby, then work... :) i'm a SAHM, ganyan din worries ko, but good for you, you have your Mom to look after the yayas.. ako kase hindi ko maiwan kids ko dahil wala akong yaya makuha n maayos at busy din ang Mom ko with her business kaya wala din titingin sa mga mag aalaga ng kids kung sakali.. supportive naman ata si hubby e, go na sis... just make sure you could still perform your duties as a wife and mother., that's more important.. time management lang yan at diskarte  ;)
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #3 on: March 24, 2012, 09:07:51 am »

Sis, if you're mom will be there all the time to check on your kids and yaya then its ok if you go back to work. Maybe you can find a job that is only from monday to friday, so you can still spend quality time with your kids on weekends. If your husband supports you on your decision to go back to work, then go!
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #4 on: March 24, 2012, 09:28:07 am »

in this sentence pa lang sis " My hubby doesnt like me sana to go back to work " ayaw ni hubby mo na bumalik ka sa work it says a lot already.

though you need a lot of financial help kasi struggling kayu, point out muna siguro to your hubby the pro's and con's of the situation. Lumalaki na ang mga anak nyo, its high time that you both should set up savings na din for emergency and future needs. Lumalaki din sabay ang gastos the more years naggrow ang mga anak.

masinsinan lang na usapan sis sa hubby mo, mahirap naman kasi if babalik ka sa work tapos hindi talaga pumayag si hubby...malaki ang epekto sa pamilya nyan. mas masarap maghanap buhay if whole heart na supportive si hubby sa choice na bumalik ka sa work, mas tutulongan ka din niya sa mga bata after work mo.
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« Reply #5 on: March 24, 2012, 02:53:12 pm »

Na enlighten ako - sobra-  sa replies nyo mga sis...  ::) many many thanks...
My kids are ages 5,4,3 & 1.... will they be really ok without mommy beside them?  :-[  some are saying "maliliit pa sila kaya wag mo munang iwanan"... others naman "habang maliit pa, magwork ka na ulit habang kaya pa silang ihandle"... Honestly, grabe yung dilemma sa akin mga sis... pero mas nagiging clear na ngayon than before... haaaaay... Thanks a lot!
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #6 on: March 30, 2012, 01:21:37 pm »

Although I think late na yung comment ko.. wanna share din tutal yung experience ko medyo similar syo..
well isa lang naman anak ko but about sa pag-aalaga sa kanya naiiwan sya sa mil ko. si mil ang hands on
sa kanya but kapag dumating naman ako ng house.. ako na ang nag-aasikaso. okay lang magwork if feel mo
magwork and if hindi kaya ng salary ni hubby. ako nagwork ako kasi sayang din naman kinikita ko dito and hindi
pa ako pressured but planning to stop na din and magfull time na lang ako sa home base business ko kasi
may times na mas malaki pa kita ko sa home base business ko kesa sa full time ko. hindi din naman ako
pressured sa home base ko kasi may mga tao akong hire para magtrabaho sa akin. minsan kumikita ako ng
minimum na 30k per month sa home base ko.. ang iniisip ko lang naman sa work ko is yung benefits like
insurance and yung sa SSS, pag-ibigand phil health.

ikaw naman mom mo magbabantay sa mga anak mo so mas panatag loob mo not like sa iba yaya kaya it's up
to you pa din.. but if hindi ka magwork edi magbusiness ka na lang.. tulungan pa kita :D
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #7 on: March 30, 2012, 03:50:52 pm »

Hi Sis! parang interesting yung home- based business mo ha... puwede bang malaman bka kaya ng powers ko :)
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #8 on: March 30, 2012, 08:46:02 pm »

Yan din ang drama ko sis dati. :) marami tayong ganyan ang dilemma. Kaso baliktad tayo. Si hubby ang gusto ako magwork. Ako naman I wanted to be a SAHM. Kaya naman kasi kami buhayin ni hubby ng hindi na ako nagwowork needs pati mga wants at luho namin kaya. But pumayag ako na magwork muna, tulungan ko siya mag save tapos pag mataas na position niya, full time housewife na ule ako. Kaso sa kasamaang palad, umuwi yaya namin. And wala magaalaga kay baby so ayun, resign ako.

Personally, in my opinion, I won't go to work. I'll stay home :) but that's just me ha. Kasi ako hindi ako career driven. Kung kaya ni hubby na tustusan kayo, I'd rather spend my time at home. Being your kids are babies pa pala :) mabilis lang lumaki yang mga yan hehe with yung mga summer activites, you can do activities that are free! Ikaw ang tumayo na art teacher nila, dance teacher etc. Bonding time niyo pa yan :) sa mga pasyal pasyal naman, in my case mas nakakapasyal pa kami nung sahm ako kesa working haha kasi nung weekends pagod ako and minsan may work pa so ganun. No more time kahit may money naman hehe pray ka lang. Offer mo kay God yung situation mo. I'm sure you'll get the answer :) God bless sis!
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #9 on: March 30, 2012, 10:13:44 pm »

Thanks so much sis ainge88  ha :) another eye-opener  ;)
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #10 on: April 09, 2012, 05:12:23 pm »

Mami Che, it really depends on what fulfills you or what your priorities are RIGHT NOW.

If I were in your place, I would opt to stay home with my kids and just work from there (even part time). There are a lot of jobs online.

Because honestly, my kids might remember all the fancy clothes, vacations and activities I can provide them if I work in an office when they're grown BUT I'm a firm believer that what will impact them the most is quality time.

Not only do I believe in this but there are a few studies that have looked into the positive effects of mom's nurturing their children. It's not about the vacations or toys but the time spent together.

If I may, here is one post about how nurturing affects a child's brain development: http://goo.gl/GNeiv. Here's another one about mother-child relationship affecting obesity chances: [urlh]ttp://goo.gl/9Bgs2[/url]

But Mami Che-- if it will give fulfillment to work outside the home go ahead. Nurturing is all about quality and not quantity :D Hope it helps. Good luck!
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« Reply #11 on: April 09, 2012, 09:57:11 pm »

Many thanks sis anne! ill keep all what you've said in mind...  ;)
Parang nahirapan ulit ako magdecide hehe  ;D
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« Reply #12 on: April 15, 2012, 07:34:13 pm »

Had a little Q&A with hubby a while ago... Discussing my plans of going back to work... Tho parang galing sa ilong  (:D) he said again (& again daw...) "basta hindi magsa-suffer welfare ng mga bata, go ahead"...
How will i take it mga sis?
A challenge that i can be a great working mom or
should i read between the lines : he is worried na bka nga magkaproblema with the kids if im not around or
stay put wifey-just stay at home & take care of our kids?  ::)
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« Reply #13 on: April 16, 2012, 04:20:35 am »

Im not sure lang sis ah (benefit of the doubt) pero As I understand the comment of your husband ang dating sa AKIN is

STAY PUT WIFEY-JUST STAY AT HOME AND TAKE CARE OF OUR KIDS...

ewan ko lang kasi based sa pagka kapal na ego and pride ng hubby ko and among the super many men in the family, pagsabi ng husband na CEGE KUNG IKAW BAHALA, yan kasi sasabihin most of the time pag luwag sa loob ang approval pero pag hindi madaming sweet coating ang words pero ang mean is ayoko talaga.
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« Reply #14 on: April 19, 2012, 10:03:52 pm »

Waaaaahhhh sis chococream!!! Korek na korek ka   ::)
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