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Mommy France

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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #15 on: April 20, 2012, 12:28:56 am »

Ask ka sis kahit 1 year. Kasi kailangan mo rin masagot yung sarili mo kung mas gusto mo ba sa bahay or mag-work.
mas maganda kung sa'yo manggaling yung sagot para hindi ka nahihirapan.

Probation period. Kung sa tingin niya hindi mo manage together then choose. pero ask him to give you a chance.
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #16 on: April 20, 2012, 05:54:35 am »

Pero mommy france, kung ayaw talaga ni hubby (and i want to try if i can juggle), do i have to be submissive with hubby's decision or fight for what i want?

Naalala ko tuloy yung "secrets of fascinating womanhood"  :D
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #17 on: April 20, 2012, 07:24:11 am »

work around the situation siguro sis, negotiate nalang muna and try it out while wala pa ang back to school
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« Reply #18 on: April 20, 2012, 12:27:27 pm »

sige sis chococream, will try ulit  ::)
Many thanks!
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #19 on: April 22, 2012, 06:35:27 am »

After all the talkies with  lambing, explanation & tempting offers  ::) hubby told me indirectly na wag nko magwork  :-\ medyo nalungkot ako kasi parang naexcite din kasi ako bumalik ng work... namimiss ko na din gumawa ng projects ... parang i have a lot to offer pa sana ... but i remember, hubby asked me nung mag bf-gf pa lang kami, "are you the kind of person na kayang igive-up ang career for ur family?" ... haaay ... Now i know...
but still, mga sis, try & try pa rin bko? Tama ka mommy france, i want to know kung masaya pa rin bko kung magwowork ulit ako or baka naman ako naman din ang aayaw... i want to have that chance sana pero parang firm c hubby. Yoko naman mamilit... Mali ba kaya approach ko? Super light naman na style ko... masaya naman ako being sahm, no questions about it pero parang may small empty part in me lang...

Haaaaay mga sis... Thank you talaga.  :)
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #20 on: April 22, 2012, 05:30:02 pm »

din ba pwede meet halfway? parang try muna at least 3mos of working then decide?

Pero kasi sa case mo it seems you have 2 or more kids , reason why your hubby wants you to stay at home na lang

ako naman natatamad na mag work but due to budget constraints, i need to go back after giving birth :-\ :-\
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #21 on: April 22, 2012, 08:39:39 pm »


"but i remember, hubby asked me nung mag bf-gf pa lang kami, "are you the kind of person na kayang igive-up ang career for ur family?" ... haaay ... Now i know..."

sorry sis ha, pero natatawa lang kasi ako  ganito din ang minsan tinanong ni hubby sa akin, now i remember din ang sagot ko, Yes, but meron akong freedom na gawin gusto ko, not too much strict or all my life sa bahay ...bsta yon...

SAHM din naman ako sis nasa bahay lang talaga ako as in, 2 to 3 hours lang ako nakaka labas and thats market, grocery or meron bibilhin na kung ano. Pero happy ako sa situation ko kasi fulfilled, and im free to do what I want in the boundaries of moral and means namin. Hindi naman din sya nag restrict sa akin now at busy ako sa work ko homebased and online marketer kaya ok lang din kay hubby.

seaman si hubby sis, kaya I understand na gusto niya talaga bahay lang ako to take care of our daughter. Kawawa kasi anak namin walang natitira parent to supervise her upbringing, its not that i undermine those that work both parents pero iba iba tlaga kasi ang calling natin.

cheer up sis, Don't give up.
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Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
« Reply #22 on: April 23, 2012, 04:44:14 pm »

I'd rather be a stay at home mom. Hindi naman sa tamad. Pero we all know na being a mom, marami tayo responsibilities, cleaning, cooking, taking care of our child. But I also want to have a part-time work if there's one :)
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« Reply #23 on: April 24, 2012, 09:36:20 am »

Wow, sis, buti ka pa pinagsstay at home ka ng hubby mo...ako nga kinaladkad sa trabaho na hindi ko ginusto or hindi man lang namin pinag-usapan e...hehe.

Siguro ang payo ko is to do something na hindi mo ire-regret in the future.  My mom wanted to work noon pero pinag-stay at home siya ng dad ko...wala namang naging problema sa pagpapalaki sa amin ng mommy ko pero minsan naririndi ako sa kanya (nung college na kami nito ha) evertime she nags about not having enough money para ipangbayad sa loans nila ng dad ko noon and mga reklamo na ang baba daw ng tingin sa kanya ng mga kamag-anak ng dad ko kasi wala siyang trabaho, na sana daw pinayagan nalang siya magtrabaho para nakatulong siya financially sa dad ko and hindi siya mamaliitin ng mga tao sa paligid (nagkaroon kasi ng time na nagresign dad ko sa work and sobrang walang wala kami nun and mom ko ang sobrang stressed kasi siya ang gumagawa ng paraan para magkapera kami-- as in utang dito, utang doon para lang may makain kami).  Kahit hindi niya sabihin, alam ko sobrang sinisisi niya dad ko na hindi siya pinagtrabaho.  Kaya gusto niya ako maging working mom para hindi ako magaya sa kanya.

But then, as her daughter, wala naman akong reklamo sa way na pagpapalaki niya sa akin.  Sobrang nakita ko naman sacrifice na ginawa niya sa aming magkakapatid, kaya ngayon, sobrang nitrtreat ko lagi siya and lagi siya may gifts from me, hehe.  Sobrang close kami ng madear ko and sobrang love ko siya.

You may work naman pero piliin mo nalang yung kind of work na kukunin mo, yung hindi maaapektuhan ng sobra ang family mo para wala ding masabi si hubby na pinapabayaan mo ang famliy.  The last thing na gusto nating mangyari is si hubby naman ang may masabi sa chosen career mo.  Sobrang time management skills ang needed pag magwork ka.  And sobrang patience.  Goodluck sis! :)
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« Reply #24 on: April 28, 2012, 12:35:24 pm »

@ hi mami che   if your still looking for work especially kung home based lang, i know one. i am a homebased english tutor for japanese. flexible ang time, kaw bahala kung ilang hours in a day or how many days in a month mo lang gusto mgturo. actually pwd mo din syang gwing full time job or part time job kung gusto mo. when it comes to salary i can say mas ok sya compare sa magwork ka ng 8 hours sa office. I am also a SAHM, my son is only one year old, wala rin akong mapag-iwanan ayaw ko naman kumuha ng yaya. di ako palagay pag di ko masyadong kilala yung mag-aalaga sa anak ko. My husband din ayaw ako magwork mas gusto niya tutok ako sa family namin. if your interested here's my email address arla.vicencio@gmail.com
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« Reply #25 on: April 30, 2012, 05:50:04 am »

@ mommypupu, d kasi puwede na 3mos lang. Sana nga kahit 1month trial period  lang muna noh?  It wud be a lot easier to decide ;D

@ sis chococream, thanks ha.. You're right. Ito ang calling natin... maybe i just need to iron my thoughts kasi dami dami iniisip  :) and kayong mga sisses ang nagcclear ng mga options ko.

@ sis finmore20, same tayo. Im looking for part-time... might work for me too  :) we have plenty sisses here who offer good part-time jobs.

@ sis syndela, thanks sis... i'll keep that in mind. Yung sobrang time management and patience.. actually, sa time ako nagwoworry... kung sakaling magwowork ako sana kaya ko... whew!   ;)

@ sis arla, sent you an email. Thanks!

Many many thanks sa inyo mga mommies... Lapit na May so i gotta decide soon. My boss is waiting na din kasi for my decision.... goodluck to me  ;)


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« Reply #26 on: April 30, 2012, 02:34:22 pm »

@ mami che, you're welcome and God bless sa pipiliin mong career :)

@ arla, pwede din ba akong mag-email sayo?  I would like to try din kasi homebased work.  Nung before ako magka-work ulit, nag-apply ako sa Rarejob, pero tumawag sila after ako natanggap sa corporate job ko ngayon kaya I had to decline it.  Pero I really wished na yun nalang yung career na kinuha ko.  Anyway, I'd like to try it this time, para naman may gawin ako after ko mag-resign sa current work ko.
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« Reply #27 on: May 01, 2012, 10:29:17 am »

@ mami che, sis already send you an email

@ syndyela, sis actually sa rarejob ako ngayon. :) apply ka ulit sis, every evening lang naman ang lessons di ba. so far ok naman ako sa job ko ngayon. i still have more time sa son ko.=)
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« Reply #28 on: August 04, 2012, 02:05:10 pm »

Guess what mga sis... August na and im still a SAHM  ;D
Hirap talaga magdecide... Cant leave my kutings. Kaya naghahanap  ako ng mga online stuffs na puwede pagkakitaan lately para naman hindi parasite sa hubby...
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« Reply #29 on: October 24, 2012, 04:04:21 pm »

ito rin pinag-iisipan ko ngayon, I'm still pregnant pero iniisip ko na kung magwwork pa ba ko after I give birth or help out hubby sa business. Meron ako work ngayon, home based siya madali lang naman pero ang pay is not more than P20k a month. Ayaw din ni hubby magwork ako sa office set up lalo na't bagsak ko callcenter or bpo kasi undergrad ako. Ang hirap lang sa work ko ngayon since freelance wala talaga ako maternity leave, kamusta naman kapag nanganak na ko kaya gusto ko na rin give up yun. ganito lang kasi mangyayari if I decide to go back to work na office set up:

1. kung makahanap man ako work na more than p20k salary ibig sabihin ayaw ko yun nature of work na nasa phone the whole shift, susuko rin agad ako. kung makahanap man akong work na hindi nasa phone expected salary is less than p20k parang hindi rin worth it.
 -- isipin mo kung malaki ba talaga kikitain mo if ever magwork ka. worth it ba yun sweldo sa effort mo sa work? kung ngarag ka tas sa ending di mo mapigilan magreklamo sa sweldo, it's not worth it.

2. kung magwwork ako ulit halos 9hours a day or worse 9hours a night shift ko nun. matagal diba?
 -- worth it ba yun ganun katagal sa work para sa sweldo? sa case ko parang hindi worth it.

3. kung magwwork ako papano yun compensation vs. expenses ko?
 -- yun fare papasok ng work and food mo for work. sa case ko sabi ni hubby ang mangyayari hatid-sundo ako pero kung iba sa case mo mapapagastos ka rin ba if you work?

4. kung tumulong ba ko sa business ni hubby, mas malaki kaya kikitain namin 2? mas okay ba mag manage ng time if I choose to stay at home?
 -- una syempre ang negosyo may ups and downs pero may idea naman na ko sa nature of business ni hubby kaya napakiramdaman kong kapag 2 kaming magtutulungan dun kesa hiwalay na work ako mas malaki kikitain namin AND hawak ko pa oras ko.

Pero case to case basis din kasi yan.. sa set up kasi namin ni hubby he assured me na he can provide for us kahit na di na ko magwork, kung tutuusin tama naman kasi talaga siya kasi siya ang may mas malaking kita sa amin. kailangan alamin mo rin kung sa papasukan mong work ma-compensate ba niya yun oras and efforts mo? kasi para sa akin kung super pagod ka rin sa magiging work mo tas mahabang oras ka sa office tas di naman kalakihan sweldo, worth it ba? yun siguro maganda basis kung magwwork ka or hindi. actually kahit kanino tao naman hindi lang din for mothers applicable yun ganun. lagi kasi dapat iisipin ng tao na kung well compensated ka ba sa effort and time mo. kung sa case mo kaya ni hubby buhayin family niyo that's a plus. kung naghahanap ka naman for self fulfillment and may sarili ka pera pwede ka magpart time work or sideline lang na business.
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