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Author Topic: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?  (Read 6931 times)

Ahmira

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Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« on: June 13, 2012, 06:51:31 am »

I mean sila na, they already have two kids. It's been 6 years since my husband and I separated.
Lumayo na din kaming mag-ina at diko na pinapasyal si baby kila In-laws for over a year na.
Pati financial support pinatigil ko na din and wala ng communication at all.

Pero etong si New Wife, laging nagtetext sakin about sa past namin ex husband.
I never entertained her or them.
The sad part is, in some social networking sites like FB, minumura niya ako words like leche, p*****a etc, b***h.
unfriend ko na siya but she kept on adding me using a different name/profile.
Nadudumihan tuloy ang isip ko, instead na wala nakong pakialam, nagugulo utak at katahimikan ko sa knila.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #1 on: June 13, 2012, 08:46:04 am »


Alam ba ng ex-husband mo yung mga ginagawa niya?? Try to ask na rin para cia kumasusap sa wife cia na tigilan ka na..
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #2 on: June 13, 2012, 09:04:00 am »

sis insecure yong new wife ni ex-husband mo sayo
hindi natin alam kung bakit sya insecure, siguro ngayon lang talaga mga pang 2nd sa buhay ng ex-husband mo
baka kc natatakot pa rin yong new wife na later on mauntog ex-husband mo at balikan ka niya
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #3 on: June 13, 2012, 09:20:53 am »

I agree, insecure nga yun. Ako kase second wife na lang din aku (annulled naman si hubby sa first wife niya). Pero hinde na kame nag-meet nung ex-wife niya. Kame nga eh nagkikita pa sila nung anak niya dun regularly, but I dont mind. Kase secured aku sa asawa ku.

Not sure kung san nanggagaling yung galet nung second wife syo considering na wala na kayo communication nung ex-husband mu.

If I were you and it's really bothering you, better talk to your ex-husband and tell him to control his wife.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #4 on: June 13, 2012, 09:39:55 am »

Baka naman may dapat talagang ikainsecure si new wife sayo? Baka nafefeel niya that y0ur ex is still thinking of you at yung anak nyo? Baka malamig na si ex mo sakanya at madalas ka nyang icompare or somethng? I think may pinanggagalingan talaga ang insecurities ni new..

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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #5 on: June 13, 2012, 09:51:38 am »

Siya ba sis ang cause ng hiwalayan ninyo or matagal na kayong hiwalay nung naging sila?

I think kung may issues man yung 2nd wife niya, problem na nila yun. Nothing you can do to make her feel good. Silang dalawang magka-relasyon ang makakaayos ng issues nila. If kakausapin mo yung ex-husband mo, may masasabi at masasabi pa rin sa'yo si 2nd wife.

No need to answer the question on why she continues to hate you because some people just become too blind because of their anger and it's swallowing their sanity.

Kung OK kayo ng in-laws mo, bakit mo kailangan hindi ipakita sa kanila yung anak mo para lang walang masabi itong si 2nd wife? I'd focus more on my child and kung kailangan niya ng grandparents, at ng tatay, I will do my best to work with what I have. Hindi naman mauubusan ng sasabihin si 2nd wife eh kaya kung ano man sabihin niya - don't let it define you. Ganun talaga, pag may mga taong galit sa'yo they will try to define you pero as long as kilala mo yung sarili mo, don't sweat. Matawa ka na lang ka creativity nila to come up with "adjectives" for you. :D

The most that you could do para sa sarili mo is to ignore her. You're not friends naman and mukhang sa ugali niya, hindi pa rin naman siya ready for friendship.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #6 on: June 13, 2012, 12:37:13 pm »

@ Ahmira :  Annulled ba kyo?  Kung hindi why not tell her na kapag hindi ka niya tigilan idedemanda mo sila ng concubinage kung hindi sya natahimik.  You can tell her that she can bid her children goodbye.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #7 on: June 14, 2012, 01:18:04 am »


Alam ba ng ex-husband mo yung mga ginagawa niya?? Try to ask na rin para cia kumasusap sa wife cia na tigilan ka na..

#Never na kami nag-usap ni EX since we separated. Ang kausap and kasundo ko na lang sa bata is yung In-Laws ko. Thanks Sis!
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #8 on: June 14, 2012, 01:19:41 am »


Alam ba ng ex-husband mo yung mga ginagawa niya?? Try to ask na rin para cia kumasusap sa wife cia na tigilan ka na..

Hi sis, NanaylovesAJ. Never na kami nag-usap ni EX. As in wala ng pakialaman. Sila in-laws na lang kausap ko about sa bata and support. Thanks sis.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #9 on: June 14, 2012, 01:21:42 am »

sis insecure yong new wife ni ex-husband mo sayo
hindi natin alam kung bakit sya insecure, siguro ngayon lang talaga mga pang 2nd sa buhay ng ex-husband mo
baka kc natatakot pa rin yong new wife na later on mauntog ex-husband mo at balikan ka niya

#Sabi nga rin ng iba kong frends bka insecure lang. Kasi way too different kami ng new wife niya. Thank you Sis!
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #10 on: June 14, 2012, 01:26:00 am »

I agree, insecure nga yun. Ako kase second wife na lang din aku (annulled naman si hubby sa first wife niya). Pero hinde na kame nag-meet nung ex-wife niya. Kame nga eh nagkikita pa sila nung anak niya dun regularly, but I dont mind. Kase secured aku sa asawa ku.

Not sure kung san nanggagaling yung galet nung second wife syo considering na wala na kayo communication nung ex-husband mu.

If I were you and it's really bothering you, better talk to your ex-husband and tell him to control his wife.

Hi anhing,
Alam mo sis the saddest part, kapag feeling ko indirectly nyang pinipintasan yung anak ko. My Baby kasi is cleft lip and palate. Yun talaga ako nasa-sad na feeling gstong lumaban, pinagdadasal ko na lang kapayapaan ng kalooban niya. Thank you sis.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #11 on: June 14, 2012, 01:28:17 am »

Baka naman may dapat talagang ikainsecure si new wife sayo? Baka nafefeel niya that y0ur ex is still thinking of you at yung anak nyo? Baka malamig na si ex mo sakanya at madalas ka nyang icompare or somethng? I think may pinanggagalingan talaga ang insecurities ni new..


Hi Sis, you in-Laws ko madalas magbalita sakin about them. Away-squatter daw sila,and totally way too different kasi kami ng new wife niya baka nkukumpara kaya galit na galit sakin si ate.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #12 on: June 14, 2012, 01:32:49 am »

Siya ba sis ang cause ng hiwalayan ninyo or matagal na kayong hiwalay nung naging sila?

I think kung may issues man yung 2nd wife niya, problem na nila yun. Nothing you can do to make her feel good. Silang dalawang magka-relasyon ang makakaayos ng issues nila. If kakausapin mo yung ex-husband mo, may masasabi at masasabi pa rin sa'yo si 2nd wife.

No need to answer the question on why she continues to hate you because some people just become too blind because of their anger and it's swallowing their sanity.

Kung OK kayo ng in-laws mo, bakit mo kailangan hindi ipakita sa kanila yung anak mo para lang walang masabi itong si 2nd wife? I'd focus more on my child and kung kailangan niya ng grandparents, at ng tatay, I will do my best to work with what I have. Hindi naman mauubusan ng sasabihin si 2nd wife eh kaya kung ano man sabihin niya - don't let it define you. Ganun talaga, pag may mga taong galit sa'yo they will try to define you pero as long as kilala mo yung sarili mo, don't sweat. Matawa ka na lang ka creativity nila to come up with "adjectives" for you. :D

The most that you could do para sa sarili mo is to ignore her. You're not friends naman and mukhang sa ugali niya, hindi pa rin naman siya ready for friendship.

Sis thanks very true. Hindi siya reason, actually nung desperate na si EX na hindi niya ako ma-win back, nabalitaan ko na lang nag-asawa na siya and pregnant agad. Feeling ko nga may pagka-insane na siya hehee. Sa totoo lang, nagtatampo na sakin mga in-Laws ko kasi nga diko na pinapasyal si baby.

I am really not minding her, pero lately pati anak ko dinadamay na niya. Cleft palate kasi baby ko sis kaya more lait siya sa anak ko. nkakalungkot mga taong ganyan.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #13 on: June 14, 2012, 01:37:37 am »

@ Ahmira :  Annulled ba kyo?  Kung hindi why not tell her na kapag hindi ka niya tigilan idedemanda mo sila ng concubinage kung hindi sya natahimik.  You can tell her that she can bid her children goodbye.

Sis, di kami kasal. One time nga may nagtext sakin, number lang, and more mura siya as in, f**k you b***h go to hell. mga ganong mura. Diko naman nireplayan, pero sinumbong ko sa in-Laws ko, para aware sila na may nanggugulo sa'min ng anak ko. Yun yung mga panahong di ko na pinapahiram si baby sa kabila kasi nga lagi cyangmay nasasabi at daw lagi clang nag-aaway. My in-LAWS also texted yung taong yun, and ang sagot sa knila, wag daw akong kampihan kasi ex-wife  na daw ako, di ba obvious na siya yung nang-gugulo. And then sabi ko papa-blotter ko nalang sa frend kong pulis.
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Re: Bakit ba hindi matahimik ang New Wife ni Ex-Husband?
« Reply #14 on: June 14, 2012, 11:04:34 pm »

Ang sama naman ng babaeng yun! Hay naku kawawa naman yang ex hubby mo sa babaeng yun! Never matatahimik yung mga ganong klase ng tao, idamay ba pati yung batang walang malay? Di na sya nahiya sa balat niya,bago pa man sya dumating eh andyan na yang anak nyo, wag naman sana tamaan ng karms ang taong yun! Huh? KakaHB!! :/
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