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Jean_31

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Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« on: June 15, 2012, 12:51:45 am »

My MIL kasi eh... kinukulit ako na dapat daw maging mag kaibigan kami nung girl na yun????  Dapat ba talaga? Di pa ako ready eh. ::)
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #1 on: June 15, 2012, 07:45:03 am »

hi sis if your not ready then
you dont have to be friends, nor hating each other. respect for individual is more applicable


can be casual, especially if nagkikita kayo in a certain occasion. saying hi or hello is not bad naman, gesture of being an adult.

iwasan lang magbatuhan ng masasamang comment.. o  ecompare ang sarili..
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #2 on: June 15, 2012, 10:42:44 am »

I agree, hinde kelangan maging friends and hinde rin kelangan maging magka-away kayo. Okay na yung maging civil kayo and mature. Nagkikita ba kayo sis? Me anak ba si hubby sa ex-wife niya? If that's the case, obviously hinde mu sya maiiwasan, but that doesn't mean you have to be friends with her, moreso if you're not ready. Hinde kelangan ipilet.
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #3 on: June 15, 2012, 04:29:03 pm »

Mahirap naman maging friends sa ex-wife kasi baka naman iba ang basa niya sa kilos mo.
I think it's best na basta hindi nag-aaway at civil kayo.

If your MIL pushes you again, tell her time will tell. :)
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #4 on: June 15, 2012, 05:05:00 pm »

IMO sis, if theres no any feeling hatred or whatever from both sides then I guess, being friends isnt wrong. theres some who were able to built a good relationship. open minded lang siguro sila.

pero kung hindi naman kayo totally close ni EX-Wife and your EX-Husband then theres no reason to befriend them at all. siguro casual or civil nalang diba?

but, lets view that positively, who knows baka someday maging "friends" nga naman kayo. just dont close the door.

for now, yun present nalang muna ang importante.. tama si mommy france, time will tell :)
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #5 on: August 10, 2012, 03:39:14 pm »

Huwag ipilit ang sa tingin mo ay ayaw mo.
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #6 on: October 10, 2012, 08:16:56 pm »

I don't think you're supposed to be friends with someone na napipilitan ka lang.  I think it's better to be just civil with her.  If time permits, maging ok kayo, eh di mas maganda.  Pero kung hindi, wag pilitin.  Ang pagiging friends ay very precious and it has to come from the heart.  Kung hindi, bakit pang tinawag na "friendship."  :o
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #7 on: October 10, 2012, 09:12:04 pm »

I don't understand why your MIL would like you to be friends with your hubby's ex. Part na siya ng past ni hubby mo, ikaw na yung present. So hindi na dapat pakialaman ni MIL kung maging friends man kayo ni ex o hinde. 

Anyway, sabi nga nung ibang mommies, you don't have to become friends with anyone na sapilitan lang. Kung maging close kayo ni ex, that's good, lalo na nga kung may kids sila ni hubby. Otherwise, just be civil. Or kung talagang parang magsasabunutan kayo tuwing nagkikita kayo, try to avoid each other na lang as much as possible. Hehe.
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #8 on: November 03, 2012, 03:21:29 pm »

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Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?

No, I don't think so.. pwede siguro maging civil kayo with each other, pero freinds? mahirap ata yun. parang awkward..

and about the MIL, dapat talaga di sila nakikialam sa ganyan, kasi nasa sayo naman kung sino gusto mo kaibiganin eh.

I remember before nung mag bf palang kami ni hubby,there's this certain girl na punta parin ng punta sa house nila kahit andun ako, pinapakita siguro niya na kahit wala na sila ni hubby eh close parin sya family ni hubby lalo na sa MIL ko at sa asawa ng BIL ko. and feeling ko rin nakikipag'friends sya saken, ayyy kiber..! alam ko pag pinaplastic ako o sincere approach saken. kaya super dedma projection lang.
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #9 on: November 29, 2012, 02:17:31 pm »

Ay sis hindi kelangan na makipagfreinds para maiwasan ang conflict in the future. Pero siguro naman wala masama sa hi and hello then deadma na.
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Re: Husband's ex-wife, do we need to be friends?
« Reply #10 on: February 02, 2013, 06:40:41 pm »

my POV on the question raised:

if hubby has an ex, i would only be civil with her for peace of mind's sake.  but to be close to her... no no no!  maybe just an acquaintance level lang. 

in case MIL gets overboard on asking for too much friendship with the ex, i'd tell to her face that i won't... period!  i don't live here on earth to please others.
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