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MissPychi

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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #30 on: May 06, 2013, 04:42:01 pm »

We had 1 before (yaya/all-around/cook), tumagal ng 11 years.  She took cares of my 1st born who has mild asd (who is now turning 13 yrs old). Siya na rin na nag alaga sa 2nd child ko.  Umalis lang siya kasi nag asawa.... by the way, may kasama na siya na yaya during this time who take cares of my 3rd child naman, I hired her from an agency.

After her, wala ng tumagal, yung pumalit sa kanya, galing pang probinsya, stayed with us for 6 months.  Nag dahilan na magne-negosyo daw sila ng husband niya at malapit na ang pasko.  We let her go, to know that in the end, lumipat lang pala sa iba... then may nalman pa ako na ang reason is my 2nd child/daughter daw, mabagal daw kasi kumain?

Ang sumunod, sa agency ko kinuna. She was good naman, kaso she ran away 2 weeks short of her end of contract.  Na-in love daw sa "tibo"... then ang reason again is my daughter din!

I contacted the agency and got another maid, this time nakuha ko seems ok, but is a bit on the "vocal" side.  1-1/2 months pa lang siya sa amin...

The 2nd yaya (for my 3rd child) left after more than a year with us, just recently lang... nag apply ng helper sa dubai.  Kumuha uli ako sa agency ng kapalit niya, but yung pumalit sa kanya stayed with us for half a month lang and left na walang sabi... she's a 44 year old mom of 3 kids.... one of the reason daw is I deducted part of the agency holding fee from her salary!  Eh now, kulang pa nga ito pang bayad sa replacement niya!

Now I'm running after the agency for a replacement... (see separate thread related to this... feedback from YAYA AGENCIES  :( )
How I wish I can again get a yaya/maid like the one who has stayed with us for 10 years!  Nakaka-stress lalo na if you are a working mom.  Hindi maka concentrate sa work dahil sa problems sa mga yaya/maids!
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kiz_me1109

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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #31 on: May 24, 2013, 06:02:08 am »

My 3 year old had 4 yayas. The first yaya lasted for 2 months I think. SIL siya ng maid namin sa province. She said that she needs to go home because papasok na sa school yung anak niya. It didnt bother me that time because naka maternity leave pa naman ako. Then, we had another yaya. Mas bata naman siya. Months lang din siya kasi umuwi at mag aaral daw. The 3rd yaya was a relative of mine. Tumagal naman siya ng 3 years samin. kaso, nag no show din nung umuwi siya sa province because her father passed away. The 4th yaya which is our yaya now e 1 week palang samin. Ok naman siya. Hopefully tumagal siya sa amin. I'm quite bothered because she told me na nag apply daw siya sa Malaysia. Pero next year pa naman daw siya aalis. Sana nga...
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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #32 on: May 24, 2013, 08:39:20 am »

my baby had 2 yayas na. Yung una nyang yaya okay samin kasi may exp. 4k sahod niya ang work lang niya is sa baby lang talaga, laba ng damit, linis ng bote. Hirap lang kami sa kanya dati kasi once a week ang day off niya madalas siya mag extend lagi niyang dahilan may sakit anak niya na 2y/o minsan wala daw magaalaga. Tumagal siya samin ng 10 months. Then 1 time nagsabi na maguuwian na daw siya araw-araw tinanong namin bakit sabi niya wala daw magaalaga sa anak niya. Ayun wala kaming choice pumayag kami. After 2 days na naguuwian nakita nung Lola ko na putlang putla, yung pala ang dami daw dugo na lumalabas sinabihan ng lola ko na baka nakunan siya.. Sabi ba naman samin malabo daw siyang makunan at malabo daw siyang mabuntis! Dinala ng husband ko at MIL ko sa maternity para ipacheck it turned out na buntis nga siya at nakunan na. Need na iraspa at ang dami naring dugong nawala sa kanya. Pinilit pa nila hubby kasi ayaw paraspa dahil hindi daw siya buntis kaloka! pinagtatawanan na nga daw sila ng mga nurse dun kasi naka emergency sila tapos ayaw pa paraspa. Nung huli napapayag din kasi pinagalitan ng MIL ko. MIL ko lahat gumastos naka 11k siya tapos nung naconfine na yaya ni baby sabi namin tawagan asawa para mapapunta, ayaw ba naman iniisip tuloy namin baka sa ibang lalaki yung pinagbubuntis niya kaya ayaw niya ipasabi. After nun wala man lang thank you or kht na ano. Pinagrest namin siya ang pumalit sa kanya yung kapatid niya. Then after 2 weeks na dapat babalik na siya hindi na nag pakita ni thank you para dun sa nagastos sa kanya wala. May utang pa siya samin  na 1k wala na din.

Ngayon ang yaya ni baby is yung anak nung first yaya. Sabi niya samin hindi niya tinuturing na nanay yung nanay niya kasi iniwan sila, talaga palang hindi maganda ugali nun.  Naging katulong nadin namin etong bago before pero as side line lang. Mabait naman siya, mas bata at sinasabihan namin na wag gumaya sa nanay niya na anak ng anak kung kanikanino. Sabi naman niya magiipon daw siya para makapag aral siya. Sana lang tumagal siya sa amin.
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YAYA number 15 and counting...
« Reply #33 on: June 04, 2013, 03:48:58 pm »

We can't seem to hold on to just 1 yaya for my kid.  He's 4 years old, courteous, kind and loves all his yayas to pieces but some how one way or the other they all go.

yaya #1: a 60 year old old-maid whos has been with my wife's family for 30 years. But has a tendency to bark at you when you ask her to do something. Left when we told her if she could  lay off the barkng just a little.
yaya #2: a 16 year old whose priority was  the TV rather than my kid.  Well she had to go.
yaya #3: a 30 year old who was more concerned about how much powder she had on her face.  One time my son vomited while she was carrying him and she was so hysterical that she had vomit all over her passed the baby to me and proceeded to the bathroom. I had to clean up the floor by myself.  She had to go.
yaya #4: ran off with our gardener
yaya #5: possible psychological problem
yaya #6: drug addict
yaya #7: too opinionated
yaya #8: got married
yaya #9: was pregnant when we hired her, got an abortion, etc..
yaya #10: father got sick and had to leave
yaya #11:got pregnant
yaya # 12: left to study caregiving
yaya # 13: left to vote in the recent elections and never came back
yaya # 14: always talking on her cellphone
yaya # 15: she said she is leaving because she's bored.

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smart.momi

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Re: YAYA number 15 and counting...
« Reply #34 on: June 05, 2013, 03:21:50 pm »

hi sis ant_md2003, ako naman ito:

yaya #1: left because bored nga daw sa house.
yaya #2: 55yrs old. ang landi. mas matindi pa ang arte sa katawan kesa sa akin. Hindi kumakain ng sardines kasi nakakasira daw ng skin. Vegetarian daw sya. kaloka. Umalis kasi maglilive in na daw sila ng 24yr old bf niya. oh well kelangan nga niya umalis. yung mga lalaki dun sa lugar namin nilalandi niya at proud pa sya.haha
yaya #3: pinalayas ko pagkatapos saktan ang anak ko at i-shell out lahat ng informations namin sa bahay namin na tsismosa.
yaya #4: umalis kasi nabobored din sa house
yaya #5: sana okay na to this time.

hays mabait naman ako sa kanila. di ko alam baka nasobrahan ako ng bait.
sana makahanap tayo ng matitinong yaya na ituring na anak nila yung mga anak natin.
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MissPychi

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Re: YAYA number 15 and counting...
« Reply #35 on: June 05, 2013, 04:19:17 pm »

Hindi pa naman umaabot ng 15 ang sa amin, but I'm praying huwag naman!  Hirap kaya.... here's my situation:

In my case, I had a Yaya who stayed with us for more than 10 years (13 years to be exact), but she left kasi nag-asawa, then, here comes the dilema...

Batch 1 - who's looking after my 2 kids plus luto/linis
Yaya #1 (13 years) - nag asawa na
Yaya #2 (6 months) - nag paalam, mag bi-business daw sila ng asawa niya... then I discovered lumipat sa iba
Yaya #3 (5 months & 2 weeks) -  left w/o paalam.  sumama daw sa BF niyang "tibo"
Yaya #4 (2 months & 2 weeks) - left w/o paalam. nag hanap daw ng mas masmalaki ang sweldo (she was previously an overseas worker/maid)
Yaya #5 - currently on her 2nd week pa lang... but heard rumors that she will not stay long.  Up to end of the month lang daw! Waaah....  :'(

Batch 2 - who's looking after bunso, plus laba/linis
Yaya #1 (2 months) - hiram lang
Yaya #2 (3 months) - bumalik ng province, kasi di siya sanay sa hindi "compound" ang location
Yaya #3 (2 years) - sumama sa BF at nag live-in
Yaya #4 (1 year & 1 month) - nag abroad
Yaya #5 (2 weeks) - left w/o paalam.  nag deduct daw kasi ako ng "holding fee" sa sweldo niya
Yaya #6 - still looking  :(

I'm now thinking, is there something wrong with the set-up or with the kids, or is it with us?  Kaya di na tumatgal sa amin ang mga maid/yaya?  Kawawa nga mga kids sa mga ganung situation, mag-aadjust sila ng mag-aadjust every time.
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smart.momi

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Re: YAYA number 15 and counting...
« Reply #36 on: June 05, 2013, 04:26:05 pm »

tama sis..kawawa ang mga bata. mahihirapan na naman sila mag-adjust. kaya ako ito. yung yaya ngayon ng anak ko hiniram namin from my tita for a summer lang. eh gusto na rin magstay sa amin. kaya hanap ako kapalit niya para mabigay ko sa tita ko..
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Re: YAYA number 15 and counting...
« Reply #37 on: June 06, 2013, 02:07:16 am »

Hay! Me, too!

Yaya1 (2months). Had to leave to help out in their farm daw in the province.
Yaya2 (2weeks). Grabe super mahiyain, halos hindi kumakain sa hiya niya. Ayaw magsalita kapag kinakausap. Always hawak ang celphone.
Yaya3. (1month), kailangan niya na umalis bago pa magdilim paningin ko. sumasagot ng pabalang kapag may iutos, kapag napagsabihan humahaba ang mukha at nakasimangot the whole day, sinungaling, and most of all sa isang month niya sa amin naku hindi ko na mabilang ilang beses pumutok labi ng baby ko. Nagkabuko. At nagkagalos. at take note ang baby ko ang may kasalanan daw.
Yaya4. (5months) she was actualy yaya 1, bumalik and ok na sana, super ok but umuwi nung elections at hindi na bumalik. I dont know din kung sino ang may problema. Super bait ko na, ipinagshosopping ko pa siya, new clothes always, shoes, ni hindi ko na pinagsasabihan kapag may hindi ako nagustuhan sa gawa niya. I let her watch tv etc etc tapos eto hindi na bumalik. Wala man lang abiso.

Hay maids these days talaga.
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Re: YAYA number 15 and counting...
« Reply #38 on: June 06, 2013, 07:36:05 am »

Agree mommyandkiehla.. Kami naman medyo nagtatagal pero umalis pa din..

Yaya #1 - 3mos, had to leave kasi may kabit daw asawa niya, sa amin pa sya nagvent out ng sama ng loob niya and nung umalis, umiyak pa and txt ng txt na miss na na daw niya baby ko and txt lang namin sya kung need namin sya, didnt ask her na to return kasi may pagka tsismosa at sinabi pa na mas maganda daw sya kesa sakin, nag init ulo ng asawa ko... haha!


Yaya #2 - almost 1 yr.. left dahil sa subic na daw magsstay, turned out, nsa manila lang at nagtanan pala sila ng staff ng asawa ko, our most trusted staff for so many years, ayun, binoyfriend niya at sya ang nakasira at pariwara..


2 months nang walang yaya since yung staff ni hubby na tinanan ni yaya #2 ang taga hanap namin ng replacement :( sobrang sayang, umalis na lang, nangdamay pa.. haaay!
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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #39 on: June 06, 2013, 10:17:43 am »

Merged with this topic:
Papalitpalit ng yaya
and
YAYA number 15 and counting...
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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #40 on: June 28, 2013, 04:47:06 pm »

Yaya #1 - 18 years old. intrimitida. pero ok sa trabaho, may kusa.  yun lang talaga, feeling close. stayed with us for 6 months.
Yaya # 2 - 53 years old.  mabagal kumilos. nakakailang utusan. lied about her age. tsismosa.  stayed with us for 3 months.
Yaya # 3 - 25 years old. stayed with us overnight. namiss daw ang anak.
Yaya #4 - 27 years old. stayed with us a month kasi mas gusto ng mas mataas na pay at mas malapit sa pamilya sa bulacan.
Yaya#5 - 32 years old.  stayed with us for 8 months. had to teach her everything including hygiene.  loves my son and may kusa. left kasi wala daw mag-aalaga sa anak niya. later on i found out lumipat sa mas mataas na sweldo.
Yaya #6 - really dont know how old she is. 16 ba o 17 o 18.  when it's convenient for her to be a minor (nung gusto na umalis and pinapastay ko until may kapalit, minor sya, nung sinabi namin na sa DSWD sya ite-turn over, 18 na daw sya) ma text. malandi (as in laman ng tsimis sa condo about her sexcapades with the guards and janitors. tamad sa work. pero kasundo ng anak ko.
Yaya #7 - 33 years old. stayed with us a month.  nag -advance, nag day off at di na bumalik.
Yaya# 8 - 49 years old.  2nd day pa lang niya samin. gusto ko na syang paalisin. matigas ang ulo. ayaw sumunod. nas marunong pa sa akin sa pagalaga at pag disiplina ng anak ko.

Babalik daw si yaya#5.  keeping my fingers crossed.
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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #41 on: June 28, 2013, 07:30:29 pm »

Yaya #1 - (My panganay's yaya)  mabait and love na love ang anak ko. stayed for a year and went abroad. she still
                communicates with me and lagi may pasalubong alaga niya pag umuuwi dito pinas.

Yaya #2 - Yong maid ko na 1 year na samin ang ginawa kong kapalit ni yaya #1. I thought mas ok kasi kilala niya anak
                 ko so mas maalagaan. Hay, it turned out sinasaktan baby ko.

Yaya # 3 - mabait but stayed for 5 months kasi sumama sa boyfriend na guard ng village namin.

Yaya # 4 - mabait, masunurin, love na love alaga niya. stayed for 6 years and went abroad.

Yaya # 5 (My 2nd child's yaya) love na love alaga niya, mabait, mapagkakatiwalaan...  4 years and counting....

Yaya # 6 (My 3rd child's  & panganay's yaya)  mabait, mapagkakatiwalan, mahal mahal mga anak ko... 5 years and
               counting....


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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #42 on: July 03, 2013, 08:33:22 pm »

Hi mga sis!  Si yaya ko ngayon ay medyo ok naman.  Bata pa at malakas kumain.  Nakak isang litro siya ng iced tea a day and nauubos niya ang isang bag ng marshmallow namin.  Medyo kailangan ko talaga mag budget na maiigi kasi nauubos niya ang food sa house.  Ok na din kasi mas mahalaga sa akin na love niya baby ko at inaalagaan niya ito.  3k ang salary niya pero alang laba.  Linis lang ng house at si baby.  Kami kasi ni hubby ang namamalengke at nagluluto.  Grateful na din ako.  3 mos na din siya sa amin. 
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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #43 on: July 26, 2013, 05:44:37 pm »

@imeego

Hi sis, saan kayo nakabili ng voice recorder? at paano nyo yun tinago? takot kasi ako magleave ng voice recorder baka makita nila at baka magplay bigla yun kapag na-reach na yung number of hours ng recordings niya, pag nakatago naman baka di rin makasagap ng usapan.. May gusto lang kasi akong patunayan, yung chikahan nilang mag hipag (mag hipag ang kasambahay ko) saka kung paano nila itreat si baby.. ;)
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Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« Reply #44 on: July 26, 2013, 05:48:41 pm »

@mommyjm

I super agree with you sis..  Ganyan na ganyan din ang naranasan ko. Mga sipsip pa, lalo yung kasambhay nila mismo, sobra yun although okay sya sa trabaho kaya like din sya kaso sobra ding chismosa at naninira sya..!
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