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fiercewowan

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Re: Hirap pa ding maka-move on
« Reply #15 on: August 31, 2012, 08:50:31 pm »

Hi mga sis.. may kwento lnag ako...


nagkatext kami kanina.. kapal ng mukha. medyo nagtalo kasi kami..
about yun sa pahluwas niya..
tapos sabi ko sa 16 yung celeb ng bday. at magdala sya ng regalo sa anak niya. nainsulto siguro.
biglang sabi na hindi na sya luluwas.. kapal ng mukha nreplyan ko nga sabi ko " edi wag.. pakealam ko. buburahin na din kita sa buhay namin ni calyx." 

kainis tinatakot pa ako. as if ikakamatay ko kung hindi sya luluwas. wala naman talga sya kwenta. hahaha
naisip ko nga mas okay na hindi talga sya lumuwas eh. pra mas buo loob ko na magmove on..


anyway, ask ko lang mga sis.. may communication ba kayo sa family nun SD nio??
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sweet&spice

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« Reply #16 on: August 31, 2012, 11:56:02 pm »

dear, i know you are emotional and rightfully so. you are still in pain. what i realized though, na the best reply to people who do not care for you is ----- indifference.

sabi nga nila, hate is not the opposite of love. the opposite of love, is indifference. ignore him. ignore his texts, and ignore how he makes you feel. better said than done though.

kung di mo naman kayang pangatawanan pa sa ngayon yung statement na "aalisin ka namin sa buhay ni calyx" --- better wag mo na sabihin. malulusaw yung power of your words and your statements. in time, he will think na you're "no" is really a "yes", and kahit makapag-move on legitimately ka na....he will always "feel" na kaya ka nyang balikan --- kahit anong masamang ginawa niya.

if he's not coming, that's his choice. no need to remind him. no need pasakitan, kasi di naman mag-e-effect. sa pagsumbat mo, you're unconsciously "forcing" him to be concerned, which should not be the case. stop the effort sis. it's still effort, kahit di mo aminin. kung dumating, dumating. kung hindi ---- bakit? were you expecting?

move...move...move...and pray that God heals your heart and that of your family. i just prayed for that two days ago. i hope God really heard the honesty and desire in that prayer. i cannot forgive by myself. i need help from God. i know i will forgive him rin in time, pero sana magawa ko na talaga, kahit lang sa part naming mag-ina. i don't want to be tied to my past.

as to the relatives of the other side, when i stopped talking to sd, i stopped talking with them as well. there was never really a genuine and loving relationship to salvage anyway.
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« Reply #17 on: September 11, 2012, 01:58:12 pm »

Hi mga sis..  dito na si SD sa manila . last sunday nagpunta kami sa mall.. para ibili sa baby ng susuot niya sa bday..

and mas malinaw na ngayon na wala na kami.. though hindi pdn niya kayang sabhin ng harapn sken or even sa text. I can feel talaga. na si baby lang ang concern niya..

Tinatanggap ko naman na. kaso ang sakit sakit talaga. parang feeling ko kawawa ako.. :'(

gusto ko umiyak pero hindi ko malabas..

sa bday ni baby pupunta din parents niya from mindoro pa.

sana matanggap na din ng parents ko yung sitwasyon..


ayoko ng maramdaman to.. ang hirap hirap..  :'(
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« Reply #18 on: September 11, 2012, 03:35:59 pm »

just last month, i scolded a friend, sabi ko, "don't be too quick to judge people who are in pain. we may not agree the choices that they made on account of their feelings, pero we cannot impose on them, how they will cope and move forward"...

natatawa ako, kasi, muntik na kitang sabihan na --- move on.

i know you will, in time. i know you must, in time. i know we will fully do so, in time.  ;D the pain is ok, if only fleeting. there is but a reminder that your child whom you truly adore, is half of the man that you still do adore. we cannot love our children, without feeling (albeit unconsciously) affection, for their fathers --- for how do we separate the source, and the consequence? of course, we love our kids to the highest level and we even used that love, to stand strong ---- use that to stand strong and move forward.

don't wait for the time that he has a new gf, or has been engaged, or be married. we can no longer deny the paternity, and it would be unfair for your child to do so. kung sincere and responsible naman sya over the child, let him be.

there is a seminar for co-parenting at ateneo and don bosco-makati. if you're serious about involving him in his life, maybe you could attend counselling for yourself or for the two of you, before you embark on actively including him in your lives, para you could let go of the baggages and the rules are clear.

there are rules about separated parents who would wish to be both present, in their kids' life. focus on that. yung sakit ----- haaaay matagal nang masakit... pero lilipas din yan, or in time, di na rin importante yung pain mo eh.

ang important, your child. what will she gain from the relationship with her dad?
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« Reply #19 on: September 11, 2012, 08:12:18 pm »

@sweet&spice: Thank you sis. you're  always there para mag bigay ng advice. alam ko talaga kayo lang din makakatulong sken and mapagsasabihan ko..

kahit na medyo nakakainis na din mag advice kasi paulit ulit na.

pero I know. eto na talaga yung turning point na hinihintay ko.. sabi ko sknia kay papa ko na lang sya magtext about sa mga concern niya kay calyx.. Hindi din naman sya magtatagal dito eh.. babalik din sya ng mdo..

tuloy tuloy ko na to.
dasal lang talaga..

update ko po kayo...


salamat ulit :)
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« Reply #20 on: September 07, 2013, 03:33:02 am »

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