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proudmom2be

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Got miscarriage oct 17 2012 mag one month na... I still don't know paano makaka move on.. got dengue 5 days after miscarriage..  Natutuwa na lang ako sa pangyayari sa buhay ko.. Now mag o one month na naiicip ko yung lost baby namin.. Nalulungkot, nasasabik ako mag kababy, but OB said bawal pa mabuntis within 3 months.. Ano gagawin ko within 3 months mag pray lang? Hmm nasasabik n kami ni hubby magka baby but question.. Pano if miscarriage uli? Im so worried rin nag sa safe sex naman kami ngaun but masakit sa puson if nag ma make love kami...
Would love to hear your stories after you got miscarriage.. Coz i know physically emotionally mahirap pag na miscarriage... Thanks in advance ;)
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preciouslara

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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #1 on: November 16, 2012, 11:30:29 pm »

mahirap sa simula sis, pero time heal all wounds, hindi man natin makakalimutan pero makakasanayan na din natin and prayer will realy help...never lose faith in God kasi meron siyang magandang plano para sa atin.
 
i had 2 lost, yung una 6 months yung tummy ko when i had a pre term labor, 3 days lang tinagal ni baby, after 10 months got pregnant again, pero after 2 months i lost the baby again....prayer lang talaga sis and support ng mga tao sa paligid ko, never talk to anyone kung ano pinag dadaanan ko. ayoko na lang maalala,mas nagiging masakit kasi pag laging napag uusapan....so after the lost akala ko nga mag aapas test na ako eh, pero sabi ni ob hindi pa kasi counted na miscarriage yung una since i gave birth na alive naman si baby, so winork out muna ako ni ob, inom na folic acid for a year ata hanggang sa mabuntis ako ulit then yun,medyo maselan lang ako magbuntis kasi bed rest ako for 7months,tayo ko lang every check up, pero thank God after 9months lumabas baby girl ko na healthy and she's now 2, super worth lahat ng hirap and paghihintay...prayers lang sis,your baby will come in Gods time and siyempre pag dumating na dapat alagaan maigi :)
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #2 on: December 06, 2012, 06:55:29 pm »

 I recently had one found out Nov 15, supposed 2nd baby ko na at 9 weeks 2 days no Fetal Heart Rate a week after D and C na missed miscarriage... Histopath ARIAS STELLA REACTION ang cause di ko man naiintindahan talga lahat.. Im lifting it all to Him. Very depressing talaga, emotionally draining... (naiiyak ako hehe :'() Faith shaking... pati feeling ko maghihiwalay kami ng husband ko kasi im finding fault on almost everything.. naguguilty and feeling sorry.... Naisip useless lahat ng feeling ko mag o-one month na sa Dec 15... and Im thanking God His healing me...  Im still hoping to get pregnant again afraid but willing to try.... di ko pa man ma express fully ang feelings ko but i want to move  on.... knowing that God is always there for me.... haaayyyyyyyyyyyyyy..... sorry magulo sharing ko...
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #3 on: December 06, 2012, 08:58:59 pm »

yes sis, keep trying, never lose hope, the baby will come in God's time...mahirap, masakit, pero kaya natin yan...pray lang sis and everythi will be ok...
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #4 on: February 28, 2013, 08:50:14 pm »

it's my 2nd baby's 2nd death anniv na next month and it still hurts a lot. i lost luis (may name na kasi kami agad basta nag positive. luis if boy and louise if girl) when 13 wks pa lang sya. 13wks na sya but the ultrasound showed a 10wk old fetus. walang heart beat. nung first few months, i cry every day. i don't think i've moved on. namanhid na lang ata ako. i still cry kapag holidays and birthdays.
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #5 on: February 28, 2013, 10:39:57 pm »

it really hurts,,it happened to me a year ago..iyak lang ako ng iyak sobrang sakit kc i lost a baby 9 weeks and the ob had to removed my right ovary due to cyst ( is there anyone here who got pregnant with 1 ovary,pls let me know your experiences)..imagine the physical pain i've been through and depression,,i'am afraid that i might not get pregnant anymore,ob said i still have a chance a 50-50 chance ( iyak na naman ako ng sobra ),,but everytime, i felt so worried..ngayon masasabi ko na ok na ko pro di 100 percent,,sobrang pray na lang ako kay God na sana wag kami pabayaan ng husband ko at biyayaan kami ng malusog na baby..
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #6 on: March 14, 2013, 09:29:53 am »

yesterday was my luis's 2nd death anniv kaya nag-leave from work si hubby tapos we went to church and heard mass. i was still very malungkot but proud of myself kasi "our father" na and di pa rin ako umiiyak during the mass. then a woman came and sat in front of us. she was carrying her daughter in her arms. at first akala ko tulog yung anak niya but when i looked sa legs nung anak niya, they weren't fully developed kaya di makalakad yung bata. then i started crying na.

maybe it was God's way of saying "that could have been you and luis". luis was 13wks when we lost him but the ultrasound showed a 10-wk fetus. ang sabi ng obgyne ko, which was also our ninang sa kasal, that from the start pa lang ay weak na si luis. maybe kinuha na agad sya to him and us from bigger pain and suffering.
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it really hurts,,it happened to me a year ago..iyak lang ako ng iyak sobrang sakit kc i lost a baby 9 weeks and the ob had to removed my right ovary due to cyst ( is there anyone here who got pregnant with 1 ovary,pls let me know your experiences)..imagine the physical pain i've been through and depression,,i'am afraid that i might not get pregnant anymore,ob said i still have a chance a 50-50 chance ( iyak na naman ako ng sobra ),,but everytime, i felt so worried..ngayon masasabi ko na ok na ko pro di 100 percent,,sobrang pray na lang ako kay God na sana wag kami pabayaan ng husband ko at biyayaan kami ng malusog na baby..
. - ako sis! i only have 1 fallopian tube and 1 ovary left. my ob removed  it kasi i had ectopic pregnancy at imbes na sa womb mabuo si baby, sa right tube so she had to removed it kasi mgruptured n din baby ko. now, i have 2 kids na. kapapanganak ko p lang 2 weeks ago sa bunso ko. prayers lang sis! and have faith! ibibigay din niya sayo yan in God's time! stay positive!
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #8 on: March 06, 2015, 08:39:43 pm »

Hi there, huwag kang titigil mag-pray at magtiwala kay God. Walang imposible sa kanya, and if it's your time to conceive again you will know. Just stay healthy and stress free. Let me also share here with  you a site I've been using to calculate my ovulation period and I hope it could also help you  on your TTC. http://www.ovulation-predictor.org/
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« Reply #9 on: January 15, 2016, 11:15:06 pm »

Hi mommies! I had my 2 miscarriages. My first miscarriage was 18 weeks old i had to d&c the second baby was 21weeks no need for d&c. My first ob-gyne told me the reason i lost my child is because i am just "stressed". So the next time i got pregnant I should be bed rest. I am not convinced with her. I know there is something more explanation about my situation. After 1 year 6 months i got pregnant again since i have a doubt with my first ob-gyne we went to different doctor. Then i told her about my previous pregnancy. I had my regular check up with her every 2 weeks. Walang mintis un. Since we were so scared to lose our baby again. Then on my 20th week i just slept all day. (No work. Bed rest. (I resigned) as per my doctor precautions.) when i pee i saw my underwear theres a fresh blood i was so scared i cried we went to emergency room and called my ob, she checked me, do the IE and she told me nothing to worry baby is fine. Only little white discharge she saw but she told me its normal for pregnant, she gave me medicines for me and my baby. After 6days I observe there is some liquid coming out so i told to my ob then she demand to see me in her clinic when she do IE again then boom! With her teary eye told me that i might lose my baby again. I have a incompetent cervix and i had to undergo operation "cerclage" before the baby reach the 3rd month. And she added that she cannot help me with my case but she reffer me to a perinatology which is specialist to my case. I was confined 24hrs but no improvement on my cervix. It started 2cm to 4cm to 5cm til it reach 10cm, i have to transfer to the hospital where my specialist is and while on our way to other hospital the pain on my lower back is getting stonger. 😢 I met my specialist and he told me he wants to see my Ultrasound. On my ultrasound we saw that my baby's head is almost ready to come out. Im really crying a lot I really don't understand what's happening why im losing my baby again?! My doctor told me dont lose hope i will have a baby again and its sure! Atleast now we really know whats my case. Then i lost my second child he's so fully developed outside, same with his kuya 😢 The face the hands those feet and even the pototoy is already formed. 😢 I really don't understand but i know god has a plan to us and everything happens for a reason. I was not d&c on my 2nd miscarriage since the baby came out on his own. Only 1st miscarriage i got d&c. Anyways they're both alive when they came out. They told me like 3-5 mins they live. And now exactly 2yrs and 8 months when i lost my 2nd baby, we really tried to have a baby again but unfortunately this time is so hard to get pregnant. Why? 😢 Why now that we already know my case? Does is affect on my last miscarriage because my ob didn't do d&c on me? I hope you can help me. God bless us all.
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Aiko buenaventura

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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #10 on: October 27, 2016, 01:50:10 pm »

Hi gusto ko din ishare ang history ko. sept 05 2016 delayed na ako so i buy pt muna to make sure. May pakiramdam narin kase ako na baka buntis ako dahil panay ihi na ako which is abnormal sakin. Coz i have kidney failure na trice lang ako nakakawiwi the whole day. And we found out positive. Sept 26 nagpacheckup na ako sa ob. base sa LMP 10weeks exact na. She only prescribe me a vit and magpa tvs daw ako para makita un baby. Sept 27 nagpa tvs ako. And 6weeks & 3 day lang si baby. Pagtingin ng ob ko ok lang daw pero may pagdurugo sa loob. Un lang ang sinabi. Nagtanong ako bakit hindi tugma un edad niya sa laki niya. Wala syang sinabi. Dun palang nagtaka na ako sa ob ko. Parang wala syang concern. Oct 08 nagspotting ako and I call my ob. She just text me na take duphaston 3 time a day. Nahirapan pa bumili asawa ko kase walang reseta. Nawala naman sya and i came back to my ob para sure at gusto ko marinig un heart beat niya. Pagbalik ko niresetahan lang ako ng duphaston for 1 week. And pagtapos nun 1week at after 2day bumalik dugo ko i continue ko lang daw ang duphaston. Sad to say nagkatotoo un sinabi niang dugo after 2days. Nagdecide na akong lumipat ng ob dahil sa mahal ng binabayad ko sa dra ko wala ako makuhang sagot at paliwanag. Oct 15 nagpacheckup ako sa bago kong ob she did tvs handy. Nakita niya na 8 weeks and 5 days lang ang laki ng baby ko which is 13weeks na dapat sya. And mahina daw ang heart beat. Sinabihan niya na ako na threatend abortion daw ako base sa dami ng dugo sa loob at hina ng heart beat ni baby. But she never give up at pinag utrogestan ako vaginaly every 12 hrs for 3days para maobserbahan. And magpa tvs daw ako after 3days and bumalik daw ako agad sa kanya. And complete bedrest. I cried and hoping na maging okay si baby. Di na nga ako nakasimba nun dahil sa pagdurugo ko at bedrest. Never nagstop at bleed. Here it comes tvs na. Sobrang kabado ako nun hinihintay ko tawagin name ko. Hindi ko maintindihan. Tapos eto na ako na. Ang tagal nagsalita ng dra. Sinabihan niya ako na "misis dederetsahin na kita. Di ko makita movements ng baby at wala na sya heartbeat. Im sorry misis." Natulala ako nun narinig ko un. Pero nagawa ko pa syang tanungin kung gaano na sya kalaki. 7 weeks and 6days nalang un laki niya. Di na ako nakapagsalita until makauwi. Nun tinanong ako ni hubby dun na ako bumulhati ng iyak. Pero naipaliwanag ko naman kahit papaano. Sabi ng ob ko raspa agad. Pero i refuse. Search parin ako ng seach kung meron bang nagkamali sa tvs at baka buhay pa baby ko. Alam ko niloloko ko nalang sarili ko dahil hindi ko matanggap. Oct 24 ay lumabas na buong dugo na kasing laki ng 10pesos. Akala ko sya na un. Iyak na ako ng iyak. Sabi ko "anak bukas bday ni daddy. Bakit ka naman bumitaw. Sabi ko laban lang tayo diba?" Di ako nakatulog nun. the next day maaga palang nagasikaso na kami para sa bday ni hubby. Di pwede i cancel kase request ng mga kapatid niya. I keep busying my self para di nila makita un mukha ko na sobrang lungkot. Natapos kami sa pagasikaso ng 3:30pm. Tapos pahinga ako ligo. Pagtapos ko maligo umakyat na ako para magbihis. Saktong 4:15 para akong nagle-labor na ewan. Naka bra at panty palang ako nun. Suddenly 4:21 pm parang may lumalabas sa pempem ko. Pagsilip ko alam ko sya na un. Sumigaw na ako para tawagin asawa ko. Di ako makakilos nun. Nakatayo ako na nanginginig buong katawan ko. Pagakyat ng asawa ko sinabi ko sa kanya na ngayon palang lumabas si baby. Sabi niya paano? Asan? Pagsilip niya sa panty ko nakita niya agad un mata ni baby. Napatalikod sya agad. Iyak na ako ng iyak nun. Di ko na makontrol sarili ko. Kinuha ko sa kamay ko un baby ko mainit pa sya. Di ko kayang ilagay sya sa lagayan na may bulak at alchohol. Tinitigan at hinawakan ko parin sya kahit puno na ng dugo ang kamay ko. Kinonfort nalang ako ng asawa ko na un na ang regalo sa kanya ni baby. Ang makasama parin namin sya sa pagasikaso, at pagligtas niya sa buhay ko dahil napaguusapan namin un paano kung malason ako dahil di lumabas lahat. At ang maging kabirthday niya ang baby namin. Sabi pa nga niya malaki din ang mata nagmana sakin. Buong oras ng birthday niya pinilit ko kumilos ng normal. Pinakiharapan ko parin sila. Pero in the end nag breakdown parin ako at di kinaya ang sakit na nararamdaman. Until now di ko pa sya napapalibing at parang hindi ko pa kayang mawala sya ng tuluyan sakin.
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Jang Janeth Cabarles Lopez

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« Reply #11 on: December 06, 2017, 01:39:09 pm »

hello po tanong ko lang po sana kung maari papo bang mabuntis yung 17 years na nalaglagan .. october papo ako nalaglagan .. mahigit 1 year na po akong naka recover .. tanong ko alng po kung pwede papo ba mabuntis ako .. hindi ako nadala sa hospital so inom gamot lang po ginwa sakin ni mama ko .


ANSWER PLEASE PO..
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #12 on: December 06, 2017, 04:46:53 pm »

@Jang, check your inbox please.
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Re: After miscarriage.. Paano makaka move on? Or plan to have baby again?
« Reply #13 on: December 06, 2017, 10:34:06 pm »

@jang. You mean po ba 17 years old ka pa lang now tama ba ko?
I do not want to be mean to ask you this question but is it nalaglag or pinalaglag?? If pinalaglag  I am so sorry to hear about it, I've been there na rin ( please do  not judge me) that was already a long time ago, and I think I have regret doing it. If nalaglag sorry to hear about it, I have been there too.. Yes, after 6years I also got pregnant after I did that stupid thing in my life.. So basically the answer to your question is .. YES,it is still possible for you to get pregnant still however it might takes time.  I pray for our little angels in heaven..
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