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Mommy_Aya

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Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« on: November 28, 2012, 11:02:13 am »

Sana hnd ma-misinterpret tong post ko.

I'll be very honest, I often feel this way. Ako lang ba nakakaramdam nito? kayo mga sis do u sometimes feel this way? when i was having my prenatal check-ups, i often go by myself alone kasi busy mom ko sa bahay. and i would see other pregnant women na kasama nila mga partners nila. basta andami pang instances na nagiging jealous nalang ako sa ibang babae na happily married or atleast my mga partner sa buhay. tapos ayon mag-uumpisa na naman akong maawa sa sarili ko.

yung baby daddy ko last meet-up namin wen i was 5mos pregnant pa, as in wala talaga syang pakialam. right now, 4mos na baby ko.
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #1 on: November 28, 2012, 11:15:33 am »

well may mga ganitong feeling naman lahat tayo, one way/aspect or another. cheer up, sis. makakahanap ka din ng partner mo na tatagal at mamahalin ka habang-buhay. be ahppy that your baby is healthy and kasama mo pa din ang family mo.

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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #2 on: November 28, 2012, 11:33:28 am »

thanks sis! minsan lang talaga mag-pop up tong thought sa utak ko.. very happy naman ako sa baby ko, he had greatly changed my life!
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #3 on: November 28, 2012, 04:18:25 pm »

^  I know that feeling sis,, were on a same boat. nung nabuntis ako, yung dad ng daughter ko nawala na parang bula, No call no show nag AWOL sa responsibilidad.. so may times talaga na ganun, maiinggit ka sa iba, lalo na kung yung ibang nasa paligid mo makakarinig ka ng comparison between you and a friend of yours na mas gumanda ang life etc, etc... but then, Iba sila, iba ako, god has a plan.. yun lagi ko iniisip so imbes na mainggit , nagpapakasaya nlang me.. my bf naman na me now. so chill ka lang, enjoy enjoy rin,, mahahanap mo rin si Mr, right.  ;)
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #4 on: November 28, 2012, 04:59:57 pm »

ako naman, I dont want to get married kahit na inaya na ako ni partner, hndi ko alam kung bakit ayoko pa magpakasal, basta hindi ko lang feel na maikasal pa. Anyway, marriage is just an option and not always the solution, and also I dont believe in marriage kase parents ko hiwalay, mas maganda nang ganito situation namin para just in case na ayaw na namin (na wag naman sana)o may unexpected things happen, we will not go into a lot of process....
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #5 on: November 28, 2012, 06:41:19 pm »

Don't be so sad sis. Hindi tamang maiingit sa sitwasyon ng iba :) because you didn't know baka married nga sila but not in-love hehe... Ika nga, kanya-kanya "pasanin" yan sa buhay. Walang magaan, walang mabigat. Nasa outlook mo lang kung paano mo dadalhin. Like Carmina said, "basta ako, I'm pretty!"

Move on mga sis na iniwanan ng mga ***holes na lalaking yan! Hindi ko alam kung bakit may *i*i sila pero walang *ay*g. Hindi niyo sila kawalan, pero malaki nawala sa kanila sa pag-iwan sa inyo. Don't worry mga sis, darating din ang mga tamang tao sa buhay nyo. Pray for it... Claim it!
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #6 on: November 28, 2012, 07:04:45 pm »

lalo na kung yung ibang nasa paligid mo makakarinig ka ng comparison between you and a friend of yours na mas gumanda ang life etc, etc...

know what sis may ka-church kasi ako na halos sabay lang kami nagbuntis. ang difference lang namin, yung nakabuntis sa kanya isang mayaman na foreigner tas pinanagutan yong baby niya. i cant help not to compare myself to her kasi nga well-provided talaga sya at yong baby niya nong foreigner. samantalang ako, ok din naman kasi medyo may kaya din naman parents ko pero sympre basta. sympre un nga, gumanda yung buhay niya tska pinanagutan sya nong lalake.
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #7 on: November 28, 2012, 07:37:58 pm »

@mrs_mv

Am glad unti-unti ni Lord binabalik yung prayer life ko. Born Again Christian kasi ako sis na nadapa tapos former president pa ko ng youth ministry ng church namin kaya talaga isang malaking issue yong nangyari sakin. Nabuntis na nga ako out-of-wedlock tas hindi ko pa naipakita yong lalakeng nakabuntis sakin. Super difficult talaga yong situation ko non tapos yung mga judgement tska mga titig ng mga kapitbahay namin. If not for God's grace, siguro wala nako ngayon. Grabe, buti nga hnd ako nakunan sa sobrang depression and stress na inabot ko during my pregnancy.

yung lovelife, c Lord muna lovelife ko ngaun para di na talaga madapa. I try hard na makapag-pray ako as many times as I could para talaga tumatagtag ako at hnd ako maxado ma-overwhelm ng mga negative thoughts ko. Hay God is good!
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #8 on: November 29, 2012, 05:01:52 am »

It's a very natural feeling, kaya as much as possible, I avoid weddings muna until I could say, i'm mature enough not to feel torn right after. It can't be helped na masaktan, but sabi nga sa bible, god is made perfect in my weakness. Masakit, but I think there is a pruning that's being done, or a preparation of character for something greater. Don't lose sight of hope that things to come are still greater, or you won't have the strength to face another day. Natural yan, iiyak mo lang kay God. :)
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #9 on: November 29, 2012, 01:40:03 pm »

Na-realize ko din yan na may pruning sa character na ginagawa ang Dios in every ordeals na pinagdaraanan ng tao. I pray na ma-set right na talaga tong buhay ko thru his guidance.

Iniiyak ko nalang talaga sa Dios yung lahat, sakanya ko nagsusumbong. 
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #10 on: November 29, 2012, 03:01:42 pm »

Ok lang yan, sis. Ako nga since nauso yang mga social networking sites at may mga kaibigan akong happily married na nakakaramdam din ako ng ganyan. Hindi maiwasan tinatanong ako how was the father of my baby kung may balita pa ba ako, i just tell them wala eh para end of discussion. From pre-natal check-ups up until now na one year old na ang baby ko, family ko lang ang tumutulong sakin. Nakakaramdam ako ng galit dun sa guy for his irresponsibility but i love my baby so much kaya  no regrets for keeping her.

Kahit hindi na rin ako kabataan to get married, i want to take it slow lalo na i have to consider a lot of things when it comes to my child.
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #11 on: November 29, 2012, 03:30:19 pm »

Ako pagnatatanong ako ng mga kamag-anak ko o minsan complete stranger kung asan tatay ng baby ko minsan di ko alam isasagot ko. I get totally lost. Madalas napapahiya ako pero siguro with time makakasanayan ko narin yung mga tanong regarding my baby's father. kaya iwas akong makipag-chikahan pagdala ko yung baby ko outside para di nako natatanong.

One time may old lady (I met sa ospital, very nice naman sya) she asked me kung san papa ni Levi. Then I answered her  "abandoned po sya ng papa niya." Tapos ayon bigay-bigay advice, very pleasant yung tone ng boses niya, hindi naman sya yung parang nanenermon o nanghuhusga.
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #12 on: November 29, 2012, 05:15:28 pm »

dont be sad sis..ur not alone..lahat siguro ng single moms at some point nakaramdam na din ng ganito..ako nga din madalas and just recently lang when my old time friends and i went for an out of town trip with their kids and hubby ako syempre kids lang nakaramdam na naman ako ng ganito..un tipong iniisip mo what could be lacking of me that i was not blessed with a husband and a whole family siguro if not for me na lang but for my kids..but then when i start to feel this way i pray..at iniisip ko na lang din God has a better plan for me..kaya tama yan ginagawa mo sis si Lord muna ang gawin nating lovelife :)
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #13 on: February 21, 2013, 08:13:39 pm »

you should not feel jealous on others. napagdaanan ko din yan, lalo na sa situation ko. i'm a teen mom and a single mom also. in the age of 17, i encountered things na hindi pa appropriate sa age ko, sa prenatal check-up ko. kasama ko yung nanay ko habang yung iba may partner. yung mga kakilala ko na nabuntis with same of my age pinanagutan, habang yung tatay nung akin di ko alam kung san nagpunta, siguro nag DOTA or whatsoever. that was the time i felt so ugly, like yung confidence ko sa sarili ko nawala.

but yet i stood up with my own feet. i prioritize my son first, and slowly i'd redeem myself. kaya ngayon, i can call my self a HOT mom and have a sooo poging baby. people look up to me, saying i'm a survivor. always remember, kunti lang tayong babaeng kayang maging single moms. for short where one of a million.

don't look down on yourself, just be proud and be happy. sometimes, people find their happiness and contentment in a unexpected scenarios. cheer up sis:)
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Re: Naiinggit Ako Sa mga Babaeng Pinakasalan at May Asawa
« Reply #14 on: February 22, 2013, 07:30:56 am »

natural lang na maramdaman naten minsan na malungkot tayo sa mga kakulangan naten sa buhay....ang maganda nateng gawin e isipin na lang kung anong meron ka na wala ang iba....o sabi nga ng iba "count your blessings". maaaring sa ngayon marami kang hinahanap sa buhay mo, maraming kang "sana". darating din ang araw na mapupunuan din lahat ng mga kakulangan sa buhay naten... ako pag sobrang down, nagiisip ako ng masasayang bagay.... mahirap kainin ng lungkot at insecurities ang pagkatao mo..kaya gumawa ka ng paraan para ma lift ang sarili mo.isipin mo na lang.. "it's God's will" kaya hindi nangyari ang mga bagay na gusto naten mangyari... God has better plans for us.
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