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shelly ohhh!!

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SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« on: February 09, 2013, 02:25:49 pm »

lahat ba ng pinagdaanan natin balewala na lahat?!?  :'(
ngayon pa na may anak na tayo? sana nababsa mo to!  :'( :'( :'(
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #1 on: February 11, 2013, 01:39:48 pm »

ano po SD?

sa akin lang naman, focus kana lang sa baby mo.

magsisisi din yan pagdating ng panahon.

i hate men who are like that. sarap tirisin.
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #2 on: February 11, 2013, 02:24:09 pm »

naku sis.. di niya kayo deserve ng baby mo... it's not easy sa ngayon pero kaya mo yan.. mas need ngayon ni baby ng attention and love mo  :D
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #3 on: February 11, 2013, 09:42:14 pm »

sis i guess we're both on the same boat at this moment.  I even tried begging for him to come back but Im not sure if may impact sa kanya yun. 

I dont know what to say only that we are trying to cope with the pain during these days... Dito lang din kami para makinig... we know ang dami pang rants and gali, and pain inside you... lets just help each other..
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #4 on: February 11, 2013, 10:12:37 pm »

kaya niyo yan mga sis, were here to listen and give advices pero in the end its the persons choice pa rin ang mag mamatter, lets just hope for the best...
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #5 on: February 12, 2013, 02:31:18 pm »

for the benefit of the doubt we can give a 2nd, 3rd chances to our SD's.
what i learned is, if they did it before, there is no guarantee that they will not do it again-- hurting us
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #6 on: February 12, 2013, 03:55:12 pm »

there is a reason why we called them SD. there is a pattern by which they define themselves ---- they are like gaseous substances, di pa naiinitan, nawala na.  ;D

i really don't know if there is a way by which to handle/strike a workable compromise with an SD. i sure don't have that. without generalizing, most SDs would abandon their kid/s, on the pretext that they are avoiding conflict. pwedeng totoo...kasi most weak-willed men, don't like to man up and face their battles.

hopefully there is enough relationship between the father and the child, to at least have 'malasakit' about the welfare of their kid. my friend who was an SD before, took 12 years, before he had a stable relationship with his daughter. fortunately for him, the mother, loved SD and put aside her personal feelings in order that the two, would have a relationship. he was the classic SD, and yet, the mother still gave him opportunities to be with their daughter. the family of my friend, i think tried to help the mother, but if you don't have the patience for it, that path is not always an assurance that it will happen to everyone.

ending: the SD married another girl, but he and her daughter has a wonderful relationship. now, he supports his daughter, and the daughter spends time with her dad and the kind stepmom on the weekends. single mom is still single, and i don't know if she has a relationship at this time. kudos to her for being strong and objective.
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #7 on: February 13, 2013, 05:53:21 pm »

Thank you sis sa lahat ng mga replies nio...
nag-pray ako kay papa GOD nung sunday kc mag i isang buwan na kaming hiwalay sabi ko kay papa GOD "sana po maging okay na ulit kami ni SD, sana mabuo ulit yung family ko"  :'(
tapos maya maya may biglang kumatok sa house namin, si SD nagulat talaga ako, naka inom siya sabay higa at tumabi kay baby .. tapos bigla niya akong hinila, sabi niya patawarin ko daw siya sa lahat ng mga nagawa niya mahal na mahal niya daw ako tapos umiiyak siya .. umiyak nrn ako nag sorry din .. magsasama na daw ulit kami bigyan ko lang daw siya hanggang byernes ... sabi ko pwede hanggang wednesday lang, pumayag naman siya ..
sobrang nagpasalamat talaga ako kay papa GOD kc ang lakas ng prayers! ang saya saya ko kc mabubuo na ulit yung family ko ... :)

kaso, pumunta siya kagabi sabi niya, ayaw niya na daw tumira sa amin, aayusin niya daw muna yung sarili niya, gusto niya kc bumukod kami .. ayaw niya daw biglain na magsama daw  kc baka magka problema ulit kami. pupunta punta na lang daw siya dito ..

hindi ko maintindihan si SD ano ba talaga gusto niya ...  :-[ :-[ :-[
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #8 on: February 13, 2013, 09:34:38 pm »

i don't know how to handle the situation sis, you would need a lot of prayers and guidance. it's easy to say, forget about him, and stop being a doormat, but it is a decision that not only affects you but your child as well ---- plus, the obvious fact na, mahal mo sya.

hopefully, ok lang sa kanya na mag-seek kayo kahit 3rd party counsellor, to guide you. better siguro if non-relative, para neutral, there's no tama and mali ---pray that both of you have the same priorities and values the same things at the same time.

i could say a lot of bad things about your sd, but i don't know the whole story, and i can't say that what is right for me, will be right for your situation. i don't want you to be engulfed in bitterness, just because i had an unfortunate love story.

make it your own, and hopefully, in the end, pray that it is right, and it is what God wants you to have, to be happy. :)
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #9 on: February 14, 2013, 05:14:58 am »

Wag kang panghinaan ng loob.  Your better than you think you are.  You are capable of things others can't. 

Me too,  nagkahiwalay  din for two years, lucky for me iniwan niya kami during my pregnancy until our son is two di sya nagpakita... sa two years na di ko sya nakita mas makilala ko sarili ko at ginawa ko lahat ng akala ko di ko magagawa ng mag-isa.

Ang ending, sya din ang lumapit.

Now he's of afraid losing us, regret the things he said and done and loves me even more.

Know who you really are then the rest will follow. Pag pray mo rin sya walang imposible Kay Lord! :-D
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #10 on: February 14, 2013, 11:06:14 am »

Thank you po mga sis! dito lang lumuwag yung pakiramdam ko, alam nio po yung feeling na ang sikip sikip ng dibdib mo dahil sa sakit ..  :'(

@ sis sweet& spice -- yes mahal ko po siya! and yan po yung nagpapahirap sa akin na kahit ayaw ko na rin, pero iba yung sinasabi ng puso ko .. and it hurts so much   :'( :'( :'(
feeling ko ang hirap maging masaya kapag wala siya ... I don't want to be in this situation na dumadating na sa point na magmamaka awa na ako sa kanya na magsama na ulit kami ..  :-[ :'(

@pickels_peanuts -- how inspiring naman yung story mo .. ramdam ko naman na mahal pa kami ni sd kaso parang ayaw niya na yung buong commitment. sabi niya aayusin niya muna daw yung sarili niya ..  :-[ :-[ :-[  :'( :'( :'(
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #11 on: February 14, 2013, 11:19:17 pm »

Salamat naman at nakatulong naman kami kahit papano sa pinagdadaanan mo.

Ganyang-ganyan si hubby dati, naguguluhan, natatakot at kung ano-ano pang nararamdaman niya. Sabi ko kung ayaw mu di wag. Pasalamat ako at ang mga parents ko sinoportahan ako sa desisyon ko, basta daw panindigan ko mga gagawin kong next step dahil hindi lang ako mag-isa me nakatingin sa sakin... so ang ending bumalik ako sa school, tinapos ko schooling ko.

Wala ako pinagsisihan na layuan ko muna sya dahil siguro kung hindi rin kami nagkahiwalay, malamang ngayon hiwalay na for good. We're not mature enough before to know kung ano ba talaga ang gusto namin, we're too young back then, young parin naman now... ang aga kasi naming kimire kaya ganito... hihi  :D

Let nature take its course...
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #12 on: February 19, 2013, 01:08:45 pm »

pickels -- hmmm ganun na lang siguro, hindi ko na lang ipipilit .. hahayaan ko na lang siya .. darating din siguro yung time para sa amin ni baby .. in GOD'S perfect timing ...  tiwala na lang kay papa GOD..
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #13 on: February 20, 2013, 11:59:02 am »

for the benefit of the doubt we can give a 2nd, 3rd chances to our SD's.
what i learned is, if they did it before, there is no guarantee that they will not do it again-- hurting us

OH YESS -- paulit ulit lang .. :'(
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Re: SD-- " 6years itatapon mo na lang lahat?"
« Reply #14 on: February 21, 2013, 11:41:01 am »

I hate you SD!  >:( pagod na pagod na akong magmaka awa sayo na maging buo na sana pamilya ntn. masyadong lumaki ang ulo mo na kahit ano ginagawa mo dahil alam mung anjn lang ako sa huli .. ayoko na pagod na pagod na ako .. lahat na ginawa ko .. kung hindi mo kayang manindigan hangang huli wala na akong mgagawa .. mahal na mahal kita kaya ko gingawa to, pero auco na pagod na pagod na akong maghabol ... suko na ako ..

-- ang hirap mommies mging single mom .. puros frusrations at pain nararamdaman ko .. pagod na pagod na puso ko ..  :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( gusto ko ng tumalon sa building ng office namin ..  :-[ :'(
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