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bigote

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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #15 on: April 29, 2013, 09:45:01 am »

hmmm baka madami magalit.... POV lang ha... la magawa e.  . thou it doesn't  give a man the right to have his name used for unwed birth,  it definitely send a wrong signal that you a willing to remove him from the life of your child.    sang ka tutak na ang mga tatay na iresponsable sa mundong ibabaw pero pag ang kanyang pangalan ay dala ng bata,,, nandoon pa din yung sense of ownership and it reminds them of their supposed responsibility, . pag di dala ng bata yung apelido niya,  lalo silang nagiging iresponsable.. sabi ng iba, panagalan lang naman, bakit di mo pa ibigay,,,   you owe it to your child..  POV lang.
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #16 on: April 29, 2013, 10:53:04 am »

I am using my mom's surname since she's not married to my dad.  So I am an illegitimare child sa birth certificate (no father indicated) but until now naka support pa rin sa amin ang papa ko. 

I think mas madaling wag na gamitin ang surname ng biological father kasi in term of documentations like pagkuha ng passport o visa kelangan obligahin mo yun lalaki na pumirma which is abala pa at paano kung magka pamilya na siya e parang kawawa naman ang dating mo.  Instead be independent (kasi kagustuhan mo rin yan, swerte kung responsable yun lalaki kung hindi wag mo na habul habulin at magiging kawawa ka lang pati ang anak mo.

Yun ate ko nung pupunta siya sa US with her son na di niya kasama yung tatay ng bata, gumawa siya ng paraan para nailabas niya ng basa without the consent of the father.  Medyo magulo kaya gamitin mo na lang surname mo.
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #17 on: April 29, 2013, 12:50:16 pm »

If I were in the same situation, hindi ko na papagamit surname ng father. Let's face the reality, mukang wala nmang balak makipag-ayos ulit sayo ang father kasi my other woman pa. If he really loves u and ur child dapat iwan niya yung other woman, mgkakaron na sya ng pamilya kaya dapat umpisahan niya na ang pagiging responsable. Korek din ibang mommies dito about sa mga consent, abala pa in the future un.

Anyway, wala rin sa pag-gamit ng surname un. Kung magpapaka-tatay sya maraming paraan. :-)

Be positive ka na lang muna mommy, happy pregnancy.
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #18 on: April 29, 2013, 01:48:13 pm »

Use your surname:

1. Less hassle when you need to travel abroad. Remember,you need to secure the father's consent. What if he doesn't want (naginarte lang), what if you couldn't locate him,etc,etc.

2. On mana issues,may mamanahin ba siya sa tatay niya?LOL ang isipin mo ngayon,yung kapakanan ng anak mo. Alagaan mo siya,magtrabaho ka at palakihin siya ng maayos.

3. Di rin naman interesado yung tatay so why bother? Look forward sister. Look for what's best for you and your child.
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Mommy ni KC

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« Reply #19 on: May 15, 2013, 03:43:05 pm »

I need your advices po baka meron kayong mai advice about sa issue ko. Im 8 months pregnant and Due ko na po sa June. Nakakahiya mang aminin pero ang totoo before we discover that i was pregnant break na kami ni BF so yun. Pero alam niya naman about the child and sabi niya he already informed his family about my pregnancy., Pero kaming 2 hindi na namin napag usapan ang about sa amin. Caught him with someone else's actually after we broke up. His helping somehow, di ko pala nabanggit seafarer sya (Seaman). At di sya makakarating ngayong June sa kabuwanan ko. Ang problema ko is my child's birth certificate ano po ba ang dapat kong gawin?

- any suggestions and comments are very well appreciated. Thank you guys
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #20 on: May 15, 2013, 03:48:43 pm »

msgemini.gemini@gmail.com's post merged with this topic.
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Mommy ni KC

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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #21 on: May 15, 2013, 05:04:18 pm »

Im already on my 28th week of pregnancy as a single mom with my first child.  It has been a battle for me to decide if I should let my child carry the name of his father since we separated before my pregnancy was confirmed and is now with another woman.  Im not receiving the typical support a father gives to his child. Kailangan pang ako yung lumapit sa kanya kapag magpapasama ako mamili ng gamit ng baby namin, not to mention im not receiving financial support. However, Im still on the edge of hoping that we can fix things kasi kapag nag-uusap kami in person, it seemed like he is a different man na supportive sa pregnancy ko.  Nagbabago na lang kapag sa phone lang ako nakikipagusap, where my friends will tell me kasi kasama niya yung other woman dun.

Right now my dilemma is about naming my child. Which is easier, have him carry my surname and have it annotated if and only if we get married in the future, im still hoping kasi he tells me that he still thinks of the possiblity in the future,? or have him carry his father's name with me thinking of having it changed to my surname in the long run?

Likewise, how is it possible to have my child have his father's name on his busy but still use my surname?



--- same pala tayo ng situation Mommy, Im giving birth this coming June, Doubt ko din kung kailangan ko pa bang kausapin ang x-bf about the Surname of our child. Pero gusto ko parin sana malaman kung gaano sya ka willing na dalhin  ng baby namin ang lastname niya.
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Mommy ni KC

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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #22 on: May 15, 2013, 05:05:57 pm »

 same pala tayo ng situation Mommy, Im giving birth this coming June, Doubt ko din kung kailangan ko pa bang kausapin ang x-bf about the Surname of our child. Pero gusto ko parin sana malaman kung gaano sya ka willing na dalhin  ng baby namin ang lastname niya.
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #23 on: June 21, 2013, 04:02:49 am »

Hello momsies. help naman po, puro surname problema niyo, ako naman po middle name ng baby ko. Hehe. Super decided na po kasi ako mag-single mother at ipangalan sa'kin ang anak ko, pero paano po 'yung middle name niya sa birth certificate? Ano po dapat ko ilagay 'yung middle name ko din or just leave it blank? Thanks in advance mga sis! :) :






















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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #24 on: June 21, 2013, 07:49:12 am »

^sis an alam ko pag same ng middle ang ibig sabihin nun magkapatid kayo,ganun kasi yung friend ko,dalwa sila magkapatid then single mom momy niya,pare-parehas sila ng middle at surname,kaya ang labas magkakapatid sila,parang ganun? :)
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #25 on: June 21, 2013, 09:17:18 am »

Ay ganun po? Anchaka naman nun kung para kami magkapatid. So leave it blank nalang po? :)
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #26 on: June 21, 2013, 02:09:23 pm »

I@strawberryjewel, yes, I suggest to leave it blank, anyway, middle name is just a matter of practice of tradition here in our country, but actually, legally speaking, it is not needed. Although it can help for identification purposes especially if you encounter problems due to similarity in first and last name with an individual of questionable integrity, having a different middle name can help you a lot.   :)
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #27 on: June 21, 2013, 02:52:57 pm »

Related topic:
Deciding on my child's surname and legal requirements
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php/topic,52621

Change of child's surname
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php/topic,49215
« Last Edit: June 24, 2013, 09:34:11 am by Mommyjazz »
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #28 on: July 30, 2013, 07:38:04 pm »

I'm a single parent and in my case, my child is carrying her father's surname.

I just want to make it clear that when you apply for a passport or even a VISA, you do not need consent from the father .  Since the child is illegitimate, sole parental authority is given to the mother.  My daughter has travelled abroad and has acquired a US VISA ( and been to the US ) with no hassle. 😃 All you need when you travel is a copy of your child's birth certificate.,.
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Re: Which surname to use?
« Reply #29 on: August 08, 2013, 06:26:44 pm »

Hello po mga mommies! Single parent din po ako tulad ninyo at pinagiisipan ko kung isusunod ko ba yung apelido ng baby ko sa ex ko. Nasa abroad po sya at nagbibigay naman ng pera monthly. Naghiwalay kami nung July lang po, kasi nalaman ko may gf na sya sa USA. Ngayon nagdadalawang isip ako kung isusunod ko po sa kanya, wala naman po kasi syang nabanggit na dapat sa kanya naka-apelido. Pero my main concern is, pwede ko ba sya i-force na sustentuhan yung anak namen monthly e minor lang po sya? 17 palang po sya at ako po 21. Sana po matulungan nyo ako. Salamat in advance.
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