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Author Topic: tapusin yung study ko o ayusin ko nalang pagiging mother at mabuting partner?  (Read 3343 times)

gwen

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 :) Good Day! 
Advice naman po wala po kasing mas adult na pwede kong pagtanungan kung anung mas maganda kung gawin.. Sana po matulungan nyo po ako.. im turning 32 na. dapat ko pa bang tapusin yung study ko nagstop kasi ako ng 3 years at kung itutuloy ko 3rd yr na sana ako s architecture ngayun.. gusto k na sana ipukos yung sarili ko sa sariling family ko at gusto kn ding umalis sa poder ng kaptid ko,  ang papa ng baby ko ang nagsuggest  na mag aral uli ako e alam ko naman sakto lang yung binibigay niya pr s baby namin, kung papasok ako wala namang mag aalaga sa baby namin ayaw k naman ng ipa alaga sa kaptid ko kasi nahihiya na din ako sa kanya...tapos tumatanda na din ako.
Sa tingin niyo po ano po dapat kung gawin... mag aral uli ako pero  di ko pa sigurado kung after makatapos maibalik ko lahat ng hirap niya(bf ko),, o yakapin yung realidad n may pamilya na ko ayusin ko nalang pagiging mother at mabuting partner ng papa ng anak ko.. at magsama kami..
Salamat po! sana matulungan ninyo po ako!... :)
« Last Edit: May 15, 2013, 03:18:20 pm by Mommyjazz »
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syndyela

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Hello mommy!

Would you like to try schooling in Open Universities/ Distance Learning wherein you can study while at home?  At least, pag ganun, you can still be with your baby.  Usually pag sa open universities, hindi naman need na laging pumunta sa school...pag exam time nalang or pag may isusubmit na requirements. UP offers college courses sa Open University nila and I think, PUP and Pamantasan ng Maynila din (and other universities sa ibang locations din, search mo nalang sa google).  :)

But then, before taking steps, you should know kung ano ba talaga ang gusto mo...ang mag-aral ulit at magwork pagkatapos gumraduate or mag-focus sa family?  Ikaw lang talaga ang makakasagot nyan.  Both choices have their own pro's and cons...and walang tama or mali sa choices mo.  Basta ang mahalaga, kung saan tingin mo mas magiging fulfilled, productive at masaya ka in the long run, at kung ano ang mas makakabuti para sa family mo, dun ka :)
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gwen

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    :)  Hi Good Day! mommy SYNDYELA salamat po sa additional info.. malapit n nga po ang enrollment at sa adamson po sana uli ako papasok dun po ako nag simula at gsto k dn na dun nalang po sana magtapos... yung edad kopo kasi 32 na ako bk pag natapos ako wl na kong trabaho mapasukan related sa tinapos ko po.. :(
 
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trish_avellana

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As for me, you are never too old to get a job that you want.  Tiyagaan lang talaga kung gusto mong magtrabaho after completing your course.  Ask for help from family and friends saan ka pwedeng irerefer na job related to your course.  Ask classmates and teachers... You can ask to work as an intern for archi groups (i think you will need 2 year exp to qualify for the exam?)  Make friends with the archi industry and do not be afraid to ask. It's not about the age but the willingness and the determination :) Hope that helps :)
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gwen

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Hello Mommy trish_avellana  ;)
maraming salamat po. sa tingin ko tama po kayo hindi pa huli ang lahat para tapusin ko yung study ko.. try ko nalang po uli mag enroll ngayun sana kaya ko pa po uli ang magdesign!...    :-\
Sana makaya namin yung expenses..nahihiya na po ako lumapit sa ate ko,,(siya po kasi ang bread winner) at unang nasaktan sa biglaang pag aasawa ko.. siya po kasi dati nagpapa aral sa akin.. Pero dahil sa advise nio mukhang lumakas yung loob ko na kayanin,, sa expenses po kasi ako nag aalala medyo talagang masakit sa bulsa ang 40K (daw ngayun ang 1ng sem) pero subukan ko pa rin.. tipid tipid na dn cgro,, jn naman ako magaling sa pagtitipid  :D....  Thank you po!...
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trish_avellana

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Hi Gwen! Sorry ngayon lang nakapagreply.  You can still do designing if you are really passionate about it.  I'm not sure how artists do it but in any talent or skill that you have, you need to practice it in any way you can diba.  Like designing your own home or something like that.  You can make it your inspiration as well na you can realize that dream house kung matapos ka.  Ask your sister about it if she is willing to help and dapat din you show your determination to finish.  Ask din the father of your child kung pwede ring tumulong kasi he was supportive about you going back to school eh... It is good if you have your course para you don't have to rely on the father to solely support the child.  Yes, tipid lang talaga... hope you will reach your goal! :)
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Hi sis Gwen, I think naman maiintindihan ng ate mo if you decided to go to school again. Yung hipag ko kasi ganyan. Nagkaanak sila nang di pa sila tapos sa pag-aaral. That time tipid tipid talaga sila para matapos nung girl yung study niya. Nung nakagraduate na sya mas magandang trabaho na ang napapasukan niya. Then yung mister niya under grad parin. Pero recently lang narealize nung lalaki na mas maganda talaga ang mapapasukan niya na work kung nakapag tapos sya. Last year lang nag-graduate na rin sya. Ngayon nakakapasok na silang dalawa sa opisina unlike before na crew lang sila. Pwede ka naman sis mag sideline habang nag-aaral para may pandagdag sa budget. Tiis tiis na lang din muna. tutal 1yr na lang naman ang kailangan mo.

Good Luck sis for you and your family and God Bless!
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