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Author Topic: Pregnant and single  (Read 3814 times)

Beccalove

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Pregnant and single
« on: September 24, 2013, 10:11:03 pm »

To the moderators, okay lang po if u move this topic kung meron ng existing ng ganito. Sorry if i didnt search for it as i am so depressed right now. So here's how my story goes..

I am 38weeks and 1day pregnant today. I havent talked to my partner for three days na. Di na sya sumasagot sa calls and text. We live separately, i am with my mother right now, for some reasons he cant support us (financially). I understand him naman and never did i demand financially. Suporta lang na to fetch us pag may check up and pag may tests na gagawin, gusto ko lang he's there. Kaso just now, nagtext na sya na he cant be with me anymore, hindi niya talaga kami kaya suportahan, and he said soon i'll thank him for leaving us. Nakaka depressed lang po na kung kelan malapit na lumabas si baby saka niya kami iiwanan ng bigla. Advice lang po sana what to do in this kind of situation. Thank you. :'(
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SheIsErika

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Re: Pregnant and single
« Reply #1 on: September 25, 2013, 09:06:54 am »

Hi sis, sad to hear that. Did you talked to him? sana pinaexplain mo sa kanya kung bakit biglang ganon? ang hirap kasi ng ganyang feeling na di maayos ang pag uusap and you don't know what's the problem why he';s leaving you and syempre masakit talaga. parang walang closure . I'd been there, I'm a single mom, medyo pareho tayo ng naging sitwasyon ang pinagkaiba lang is ako nung umpisa pa lang na malaman niya na i'm pregnant iniwan na niya ko. di kami nakapag usap ng maayos, hanggang ngayon feeling ko naiwan ako sa ere. and I don't ask for financially support rin kahit he can afford naman. gusto ko lang rin sana na nandyan sya sa tabi ko and kilalanin niya ang bata. Better to talk to him and ask him to explain to you his issues.
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I can never forgive you. You made a fool of me. But you were the best thing that ever happened to me. I guess I owe you something for that.

castiellesmom

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Re: Pregnant and single
« Reply #2 on: September 25, 2013, 01:47:47 pm »

Although di naman po nangyari sa akin, I can relate kasi yung sister ko hindi niya pa nalabas baby niya hinawalayan na sya. For now, just be strong for your baby. It's his loss. Kung sinabi niya na he can't be with you anymore, then he shouldn't be. Sya na ang gumawa ng choice.
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Beccalove

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Re: Pregnant and single
« Reply #3 on: September 26, 2013, 01:04:37 pm »

SheIsErika - ayaw na niya daw mag sabi ng kahit ano sakin para di narin ako namomroblema. Someday soon daw baka ako n mang iwan sa kanya dahil mahihirapan lang kami with him. Sabi nga ng nanay ko, magkasama sa sarap pero sa hirap hindi. May point naman sya dahil yun nga nangyayari.

Castiellesmom- thanks sis. Di na nga ko msyado in pain ngayon. Narealize ko talaga n kawalan niya yun. Kaya bahala sya. I maybe selfish pero kung di niya kaya panagutan at kung ayaw niya na then sige akin lang tong bata. Bahala na sya.
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ahyzeyuh

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Re: Pregnant and single
« Reply #4 on: September 26, 2013, 02:22:43 pm »

wag masyado mastress sis. i know its hard what you are going thru kasi im a single mom too.

My ex ditch me when i told him that im pregnant. nagkabalikan then hiwalay uli.

Sa ngayon sis focus on your kid. Be with the people that can make you feel good- friends and families.

Its okay to cry if its too painful , but after that fix your self, isipin mo yung baby mo. Malapit na siya lumabas. Be excited for your kid.
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Beccalove

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« Reply #5 on: September 26, 2013, 06:10:35 pm »

Ahyzeyuh - oo nga excited na nga ko lumabas sya, kasi for sure madidivert na focus ko and di ko na masyado mapapansin yung pang iiwan niya. We've been on and off din simula nung naging preggy ako, siguro mas mahirap talaga yung naranasan nung iba na sa umpisa pa lang iniwan na. Matagal pa hihintayin nila bago lumabas ang cute na baby nila..
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SheIsErika

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Re: Pregnant and single
« Reply #6 on: September 27, 2013, 08:45:23 am »

@Beccalove - sabagay sisi, kung ayaw di ayaw. mahirap pilitin ang taong ayaw. focus ka na lang kay baby mo.
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maia2013

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« Reply #7 on: December 12, 2013, 10:44:06 am »

Hi sis, kung tutuusin you're still lucky pa nga coz he admits to you na hindi niya kaya at nagpaalam pa sya..yung iba dito basta na alng iniwan ng wala kahit "ha" or "bye"..imagine how much dilemma they've been? diba? :)
Like me, I was on my 5th month pregnancy when my wrong half hindi na nagpakita kahit anino at dulo ng buhok niya. I'm not bitter, kasi hindi ko na din hinanap, i even changed all my contact numbers right away. YES ITS HIS LOST.
Right now I'm so happy being a single mom to a very cute princess! She's turning 6months this month. Sobrang busy ko sa work at sa family. Minsan naiisip ko pa din naman si wrong one kasi unfortunately nakuha ni baby ang mata  niya :) But then I can't feel any pain naman.
Maybe nakatulong din yung pagiging optimistic ko. When someone leaves us, there'll be someone much better na darating...and that'll be soon :) CHeer up!
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SheIsErika

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« Reply #8 on: December 12, 2013, 11:26:42 am »

@maia2013, i agree with you sis.. mahirap yalaga iwanan pero atleast nakapag usap kayo unlike other single moms. unlike sa kin na wala talagang malinaw na pag uusap, akala ko we're ok but all of a sudden he left me/us. :(
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I can never forgive you. You made a fool of me. But you were the best thing that ever happened to me. I guess I owe you something for that.