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Author Topic: What's really wrong with me as a 1st time Mom?????  (Read 4948 times)

Baby Pepper

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What's really wrong with me as a 1st time Mom?????
« on: March 19, 2014, 12:49:57 pm »

HI mga mommies, i am really seeking advise on how to enlighten this feeling right now... kasi it's been a year na after i gave birth, pero parang i suffer pa rin ng post hehe)... after my maternity leave last year, ayaw ko na kasi bumalik muna sa work, i wanted to spent my days taking care of my baby..unfortunately nagkaron kami ng problem financially kaya i really need back to work, ang naging solusyon ko was to resigned and find a new work na walang saturday work para may extra time for my baby.. so here i am na.... pero bakit hindi ako masaya, every day na lang i miss my baby when i need to go to work na... hindi din ako masaya sa office sa mga work ko... i ask my hubby na pwede ba ako mag stay sa house pr di na kami magbayad ng yaya, and i will find na lang na business to make extra income, okay naman s kanya, pero this is not me eh,di ako makapag estblish ng business... i tried to evaluate things, "baka hindi lang ako masaya sa work ko kaya ko gusto mag stay sa house?" gusto  ko makasama baby ko sa lahat ng new learnings niya,gusto ko andun ako, pero di ko maibbgay lahat kasi wala ako work".. i've been trying to talk to all my friends..pero i still sad na..di nagbabago nararamdaman ko.... please guys, can you help me what to do about this feeling..i really dont know why i cant overcome this..huhuhuhu
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preciouslara

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Re: What's really wrong with me as a 1st time Mom?????
« Reply #1 on: March 20, 2014, 01:35:22 pm »

im a SAHM, i had a good job back then, but when hubby works abroad, we decided that i need to stay at home para hands on talaga kay baby...lucky me cause the situation allows me,since hubby can support naman our needs..in your case, sino ba namang mommy ang ayaw na makita lahat ng developments ng mga anak nila, kaya lang hindi lahat puwede maging SAHM kasi iba iba naman mga needs natin eh.if your not happy with your job, find new...or what business do you have in mind ba,dapat home based yan para kasama mo pa rin si baby lagi... why not try to make a dryrun ng business na gusto mong pasukin (like every saturday and sunday)just to see if magiging happy ka ba and kung ok naman yung kita...sa panahon kasi ngayon, kelangan talaga na maging financial secure lalo na pag my mga kids ng involve...
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Re: What's really wrong with me as a 1st time Mom?????
« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2014, 08:14:46 pm »

@dhebsjada ... You are having separation anxiety. At of course most first time moms are guilty of it since we wanted to be there every milestone ng kid natin. That's normal naman, guilt will always be there. Balance na lang time for work and spending time with your child. Mas appreciate nila na andyan ka when they really need you the most. I hope mag succeed and stay- at - home business mo. Good luck!
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Baby Pepper

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Re: What's really wrong with me as a 1st time Mom?????
« Reply #3 on: March 21, 2014, 08:24:37 am »

@vmjanne... so this is separation anxiety?????...... thanks for this..it was hard having a baby kasi for us, kaya nung dumating sya.. really happiness at pati kami mg asawa wanted to stay with her... marami ding instances na gusto ko mag stay with her kaya, halo halo na nararamdaman ko.. so this sharing really help me enlighten things. thanks so much vmjanne..
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vmjanne

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Re: What's really wrong with me as a 1st time Mom?????
« Reply #4 on: March 26, 2014, 05:04:30 pm »

@dhebsjada no problem.. Tayo dito support each other emotionally.. Yep...separation anxiety... we'll have that again when they start going to school and setting their own identity as theey grow older <tweens>. I guess hindi yan mawawala knowing how hard you have gone thru while carrying and giving birth to your kid. Talk with your hubby na rin about your fears, partners kayo. Partners should be lifting each others spirits as well a check if your priorities are the same kung paano setup while baby is still growing.
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Baby Pepper

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Re: What's really wrong with me as a 1st time Mom?????
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2014, 05:25:01 pm »

@vmjanne.... thanks for this words.. mas ok pala pag nagbabasa ako in good mood..kc naeen lighten ako... i just needed to be financially secure so that i can provide every thing my baby needs.. thanks s lahat ng mga mommies...
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