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Author Topic: Mababa po sex drive at age of 19.  (Read 3841 times)

mommiemi

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Mababa po sex drive at age of 19.
« on: May 17, 2014, 07:37:02 pm »

"19 years old palang po ako pero may baby na po ako. At live in kame ng papa ni baby. Medyo namomoblema kasi ako e. Hindi ko kasi alam kung normal ba tong nararamdaman ko. Sa MIMINSAN po namen pagtatabi ni hubby e pakiramdam ko hindi talaga ako nasasatisfied. At hindi pa talaga ako umaabot sa climax. pero Kadalasan po talaga e wala akong gana.
Please. help naman po. Matagal ko na po kasi to nararanasan at ayoko naman po na dumating sa point na pagawayan pa po namen yung problema ko. TIA!"
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annamariemomof3

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Re: Mababa po sex drive at age of 19.
« Reply #1 on: May 18, 2014, 06:37:26 am »

you didn't say how old na si baby. kasi kasi i experienced the same thing early on in my marriage after giving birth. from super hot to icy cold talaga sex life ko. siguro ganun lang talaga may mga periods of tagtuyot ika nga. maybe because of the hormonal changes that our body goes through. in addition to that i felt somewhat desexualized (is that even a word) after giving birth kasi di ba dami tumingin sayo na nakabukaka. for a while i felt that my body was for feeding not for sensual purposes. isa pa stress is a great factor in low libido and having a new born can be very stressful. talk it out with your husband. let him know that you are not losing interest in him, you're just tired. in my 13 years of marriage we have had periods of drought pero pag bumalik na desire bagyo.
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FIGHTING OVER SEX
« Reply #2 on: May 20, 2014, 03:28:16 pm »

Have you and your partner have a fight over how often na lang kayo nagsesex?

after giving birth to our daughter (1yr and 8 months na) nawalan na ako ng gana sa sex. not that naghahanap ako ng partner but its just that i felt, working and taking care of the baby is very tiring na ang at the end of the day i just want to sleep na lang.

So whenever my husband asks for this, i usually decline it. which i think hurts his manhood. na parang ayaw ko na daw sa kanya, hindi ko na siya mahal many more....

we have an open communication about sex, pero ito lang tlaga (frequency ng sex) yung pinag-aawayan namin.  :(
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mommiemi

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Re: Mababa po sex drive at age of 19.
« Reply #3 on: May 20, 2014, 07:33:18 pm »

Ate anna and ate gelai hmmn. Opoh nga mga ate.. 1 year and 7 months pa lang po si baby. At sobrang tiring po talaga maghapon. At isa pa po yung about sa pagaaway.. Hmmn. Madalas po kame magkatampuhan. Sya po yung madalas masalita at ako yung tahimik kaya nakikimkim ko yung sama ng loob ko. Maybe ayun po yung isang reasonkaya pagnagtatabi po kame e nawawalan ako ng gana? Tama po ba mga ate?
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Re: Mababa po sex drive at age of 19.
« Reply #4 on: May 20, 2014, 10:00:17 pm »

sex is very important sa marriage. isipin mo na lang if the tables are turned at ikaw ang laging nangangalabit at siya ang panay ang tanggi, di ba iisipin mo na baka hindi na siya attracted sayo or baka may iba na siya. mahirap talaga pag may baby na. bukod sa pagod la na ring time, mahirap dumiskarte lalo na kung katabi nyo pa si baby sa bed. kami nga may 3 kids so minsan kahit nasa mood di pa puwede kasi gising pa kids pag tulog naman nila minsan pagod na rin kami. dun na ngayon papasok ang date nights. ask someone to look after your baby, just go out and rekindle your romance, mag unwind kayo and discover what you originally loved about each other. i admit naman na we don't have as much sex as we used to, we simply don't have the stamina but we make sure it's quality over quantity.
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Re: Mababa po sex drive at age of 19.
« Reply #5 on: May 21, 2014, 05:56:11 pm »

Hi mommy anna, thanks for the advise.

we also do night-outs. however mas marmi yung gala namin with our baby. ewan ko bat we more enjoy it pg kasi namin yung baby namin.

and siguro that's why i lost intimacy na din kasi i felt na as long i took care of my baby and him, okay na un.

siguro i just have to change my mindset of having a family na nkafocus lang sa growth ng baby namin. i shoul consider our growth as a couple and our emotional relationship.
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