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joanalpny

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To SAHM or not?
« on: June 16, 2014, 02:51:12 pm »

Hi SP moms. I badly need advice from you mga mommies. I've been very unlucky in hiring maids lately. Ever since umalis yung all around maid namin of 2years, wala na kami nakuhang matino. And now, 1week akong nag VL last week kasi may school na ang daughter ko and walang maiiwan sa bahay. At the same time, I'm pregnant and Hindi ko kayang mag palit palit ng shifts tulad ng ginagawa sakin ng office na Kung Saan walang tao dun ako nilalagay. Nung Friday nag spotting ako and was advised to bed rest ng OB ko. Ang masklap e doubtful itong si supervisor to the extent na pinapapili na ako Kung magreresign or not.

I don't know what to do since ok naman ang workload sa office. Yung Management Lang palpak talaga. Ok din naman ang pay. My husband wants me to resign kasi nga nabasa niya mga text ng supervisor na nakakabastos sumagot sa text. Me naman, I'm scared... Financially and emotionally na rin since eversince nag graduate ako, I'm working na talaga.

TIA mommies.. So confused :(
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annamariemomof3

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« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2014, 04:03:41 am »

if the doctor advised you to stay in bed it seems to me na you have no other choice but to do so. whether you have to resign or to take an extended leave depende sa situation mo yan. ang importante ngayon magfocus ka sa pregnancy mo kasi pag may nangyaring di maganda you might blame yourself. in the end kasi pera lang yan kikitain mawawala kikitain ulit pero pag pregnancy ang nawala forever  hole na sa puso mo yun. kahit naman nasa bahay ka you can find a job that doesn't require much physical demand from you, maybe maliit lang ang sweldo but still every peso counts, pantanggal bugnot na rin. that doesn't have to be forever naman, when you are in a better place health-wise, you can find a better job where your boss respects and appreciates your skill set. financially, you will be alright, isipin mo na lang bakit yung iba nakaksurvive sa kakarampot na sweldo kahit isang dosena ang anak. it's just a matter of lifestyle adjustment, a few snips here and there konting tiis lang. like they say, pag maikli ang kumot matutong mamaluktot. goodluck :) ;) :-*
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joanalpny

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« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2014, 08:02:18 pm »

Thanks @annamariemomof3 will let you know din next week. I hope everything goes well talaga :)
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vmjanne

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« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2014, 08:43:03 pm »

Mommy dear its the fear of financial stress and  talagang naiisip mo.. as your hubby already said resign ka na lang than to take that type of stress from your employers. Hindi maganda ang stress especially in your condition. There are work oppurtunities you can do naman while at home and taking care of your daugther and waiting for baby. Fear ko rin dati yan, I never stopped working since HS. But unfortunately I had several miscarriage, I am a career woman kasi and yun laki ng pagsisisi ko that I was slumped in depression..

Mahirap ang magsisi sa huli. Think about the your welfare na rin...Goodluck on your pregnancy!  :)
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joanalpny

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« Reply #4 on: June 22, 2014, 12:01:13 am »

You're right @vmjanne

Until now wala pa rin Yaya so hubby naman ang VL for a week haist
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joanalpny

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« Reply #5 on: July 01, 2014, 11:31:44 am »

May maid na dumating last week Wednesday. Kinabukasan nagpaalam at July uuwi na daw sya kasi kakasal na daw at maguusap usap na daw by end of July. Hayy kumulo nanaman dugo ko. Ok lang daw na bawas sakanya pamasahe niya at yung inadvance. Anyway.. mag 1 week na sya sa amin and so far ok sya, mabait at masipag. And..first time nagsabi ang anak ko na like niya ang maid. Pero aalis lang din sayang. Sobrang nakakabored nga ata sa bahay namin kaya walang nagtatagal. Lagi kasi naka lock ang gates, well, better to be safe than sorry. So eto nanaman hunting nanaman ng matinong makakasama... hopefully next year mabalita ko na sa inyo na SAHM/WAHM na ako  ;)
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