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chekai

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Purely sex but not an affair
« on: June 29, 2014, 09:51:35 am »

Sa sobrang trending ng The Legal Wife noon, bigla nalang akong napatanong sa hubby ko, "Lovs, may possibility kaya magkaroon ka ng ibang girl?" at ang sagot, " the most na pwede ko magawa siguro is yung makipagsex lang but never to have an affair."

ooops! biglang sumama ang loob ko but may point din ba si hubby? intrinsic characteristic na ba talaga ng mga guys ang sex?

dapat nga ba sasama ang loob ko?or was it just purely an honest and realistic answer?

opinions from dads and moms are greatly appreciated.
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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #1 on: June 30, 2014, 11:03:28 am »

Hi franchekai,

Thank you for sharing.  Hmn, na-gets ba ng hubby mo ang question?

"may possibility kaya magkaroon ka ng ibang girl?"

Di ba, pag sinabi na "the most na pwede ko magawa..." ibig sabihin...hanggang dun lang siya...at hindi siya makakarating sa point na "magkakaroon ng ibang girl"

So, ano kaya yun...makikipag-sex ba siya pero hindi sa ibang girl.

Makikipag-sex ba sa hindi girl? Hmn.

Magandang i-process ito...at pag-usapan nyo pa.  Totoo nakakapagpa-react ang answer ng hubby mo.  Pero magandang point for further discussion.

Pwede naman sigurong mag-usap ng walang masyadong emotion.  Yung di nakikita sa iyo na nagagalit ka (kasi maganda itong dire-diretso siya at hindi nag-hold back...baka pag negative reaction ka...magsara siya at maglihim sa iyo).  At siyempre, di ka rin mapapangiti...dahil di naman nakakatuwa ang sagot niya.

Try to know kaya kung ano ba para sa kaniya ang ibig sabihin ng affair at ano naman ang pakikipag-sex lang.

At higit sa lahat, ano ba sa kaniya ang ibig sabihin ng pag-aasawa?

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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #2 on: June 30, 2014, 12:32:49 pm »

" Makikipag-sex ba sa hindi girl? Hmn. "

Hello JO!, hehe natawa man din ako sa comment mo na to but I really like the way you analyze things about my hubby's statement. Totoo, nakakapag react talaga.

Actually JO, at first  hindi man talaga ako nagpapakita na affected na..kaso eventually hindi ko na namalayan na while explain sya ng explain eh tumutulo na pala luha ko kasi nasa mind ko na na "parang" capable pala si hubby to engage into extramarital activities.

Gustuhin ko man na intindihin na sex is just normal sa mga guys (kahit hindi sa wifey nila) is andoon pa rin yun sa mind ko na dapat hindi na.

What he is asking from me is FULL TRUST...but after that statement, the TRUST is parang may konting question na. Weird, hindi pa man nangyayari but affected ako.

But thank you for sharing your thoughts JO...:)
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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #3 on: June 30, 2014, 01:35:06 pm »

Hi again franchekai,

Possible magkaroon ng ibang girl o makipag-sex lang...kung aso o unggoy.

Tayo kasing mga tao ay may isip.  At pag medyo nakapag-aral pa tayo...mas malalaman natin na ang bawat kilos natin ay may epekto sa atin.  Hindi possible na katawan lang...sex lang...at walang isip...walang magiging relasyon at di matatawag na affair.

Sex is a full sensory experience.  Hindi ito panonood lang ng porn na sight and hearing lang (eh kung ang panonood nga lang eh nakakalason na ng isip).  Involved lahat ng basic senses...sight, hearing, smell, taste...touch. 

Hindi possible na physical lang...na sex lang...you cannot separate the body from the mind.

It's very psychological.  The effect will be both on the mind and on the body.

Hindi ba naiisip ng mga lalaki (tulad ko, hahaha)...na kung makikipag-sex sa kung kani-kanino...posible na yung makaka-sex ay nakipag-sex din sa kung kani-kanino.  Parang aso.  Parang unggoy.

Nakakatakot.  Maraming nakamamatay na sakit.  May mga Sexually Transmitted Infections na walang symptoms...at merong kahit ilang years na...nagiging carrier lang ang taong meron nito. 

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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #4 on: July 05, 2014, 09:36:56 pm »

hahaha.. natawa naman ako sa thread na ito. Natanong ko na din kay hubby yan. Sabi niya linawin ko daw ang tanong para malinaw din ang sagot. Is it the physical act or the emotional act? Tama nga naman dapat linawin.

Ang lalaki oo mate tempt to do it with another woman out of the blue. Pero ma fall in love because its a one night stand malabo. Kaya kasi ng guys i-separate ang emotion to the physical act, most girl cannot. Fall kaagad ang girls flirting stage pa lang. So the Question: Possible bang magkaroon ng another girl? oo possible sex lang pero nasa lalaki yan if mag gigive way sa tukso or not. to have a relationship- possible kung magpapabaya ang both husband and wife. Alam natin a relationship takes two to work, sabi pa ng iba it make three including God as the center of your relationship (this works for spirituality concern at sorry I'm not a preacher so dun lang ako sa psychological aspect nito)

Ask guys who rent girls for sex, you'll get an answer from them purely sexual activity lang.
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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #5 on: July 07, 2014, 08:41:06 am »

men can say sex lang as if it's nothing. they are i guess built that way na kaya nilang i compartmentalize ang emotion sa sex. pero ano nga ba ang mas masakit ang ma in love si husband sa iba o "sex lang". when hubby told me that she did not mean anything to him, it made me more angry because he was willing to risk our family, he was willing to hurt me for something that meant nothing to him. eh ano ako ngayon, less than nothing?!!
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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #6 on: July 07, 2014, 07:24:32 pm »

Kaya nga sabi communicate with your spouse more. Find ways to excite them more in bed or with thier family life. Nakita ko lang if men are contented with what they have at home, they're sure never to stray. Sa dami ng nagcecelebrate ng golden wedding anniversary nila nowadays shouldn't we look up to them?  ;D
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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #7 on: March 14, 2015, 02:08:48 am »

i just came across this thread and napaisip ako coz ive talked to some of my friends na nagconfide sa akin. some had affairs, some are just purely sex lang. tama c sis vmjanne that men are capable of separating the physical and the emotional aspect. gusto ko sanang igeneralize ang mga lalake but there are few pa din naman na faithful and loyal tlaga.pag affair, mahirap. kukuhanin niya kc time and money na dapat pra sa family niya lang. pag purely sex naman, actually mahirap din but ika  nga, lesser evil tho that doesnt justify the wrong act. meron din kasi mga guys na kapag anjan na yung temptation, ang hirap na iwasan... 2 things- they will just realize na mali yung ginawa nila after the act or nagparaos lang and they will do it again. kung pure sex lang - he will go to a pimp where in yun tlaga trabaho nila but its kinda risky ha. pero kung ggawin nila sa iba, mahirap pa din. possible na maulit.

as i always tell my friends - try to fall in love with each other everyday... love nyo ang isat isa, yes pero falling in love will make u kilig like highschool e  :D masarap yung feeling.... communication - yan ang pinaka important key sa relationship. kung wala ng nagccommunicate sa inyo, you will slowly drift apart ng di nyo nmmalayan.  and lastly, lagi nyong isama si God sa relationship nyo to make your bond stronger, love selflessly and unconditionally... teka, parang namention n pla ni sis vmjanne hehe... i put emphasis lang sis  ;D

hindi mkkaisip c hubby to do kalokohan kung overflowing sa bahay... i mean, siksik liglig at umaapaw ng love hehe... enjoy being together.. mahirap sobra pag may mga challenges na ganito sa married life na di maiiwasan but ang main goal is buo at masaya ang family....
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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #8 on: March 27, 2019, 07:48:00 am »

Hi. I just had sex with a stranger. Im afriad it it is safe or not. I cant ask him because he is gone. It happened on March 24. My last menstruations DAY 1 was on March 13. please help me. Is it safe or not?
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Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« Reply #9 on: March 30, 2019, 01:01:03 pm »

Yes, it could happen. Purely sex without emotions, but itís still an affair.

Men were just trying to satisfy their libido (or curiosity with the other woman). Itís in their nature. Actually, itís in the nature of both genders.

Hindi ako selosa, pero huwag lang sya magpahuli sa akin.
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