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lantis123

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husband cheats
« on: September 18, 2014, 12:38:47 am »

hi! i dont know kung anong ilalagay ko sa subject pero heres my story its going to be long so please bear with me. heres a little story about us. we are in a long distance relationship for 7 years and i get to see him once every year weve been a couple for almost 10 years now married for 3 years have 1 child. Last august our friend visited the country where he's in for vacation.nagkita sila so i dont have problem with that.the night before i discovered his infidelity.. i sneaked his fb (i know bad yun)then nakita ko nagchachat sila nung friend namin di ko na naabutan yung ibang conversation cause he already deleted some of it. ang nabasa ko lang is biggest secret na meron syang kawork na babae na he fell in love with.. theyre making out pero walang nangyayari. he's into that girl pero they chose to stop kasi hes married and the girl is commited to other guy also. pero may ginagawa sila na (naiiyak ako while typing this) beyond holding hands and kissing.i dont know exactly when nangyari to. pero while reading it my heart is pounding so fast and i cant breathe ang bigat sa pakiramdam. di ako nakatiis i message him sabi ko i can read yung conversation nila ng friend namin. and i also message yung friend namin. so ayun nagusap kami ni hubby i asked him why? sabi niya he is lonely and vulnerable (that time sobrang nagkakalabuan daw kami we have our unresolved issues i admit parehas kaming unhappy with the relationship pero sa side ko im still fighting) ayun i asked him kelan pa. medyo di na naclear sakin when exactly. mahinahon lang ako nalikipagusap sakanya. i wanted to know everything.  may mga other girls pa this time one night stand and iba sa workplace yung isa he skip work just to be with than woman. ang sakit hearing those things pero di ako nagalit sakanya. ni hindi ko sya sinumbatan or something. in fact i even felt guilty for being a burden sakanya my fault for making him feel unhappy kasi like i said we have a lot of issues pero i just told him hindi ba enough yung love mo sakin to refuse yung    mangyayari sainyo nung babae? di ba enough para masabi mo stop i cant do this. sabi niya sakin hindi sya magsosorry because he let it happen partly ginusto niya yun. that night i decided to forgive. sabi ko this will take long to forget. siguro that night i thought makakalimutan ko na kinabukasan. but sadly habang iniisip ko yung nangyari nabrbroken ako. para nga akong baliw. may times na ok ako. nakakasmile ako after a while malungkot na naman ako. gusto kong umiyak sa pain na nararamdaman ko but i can't kasi feeling ko sobrang sakit mamanhid yung buong katawan ko. gusto ko kausapin sya paguwi niya. pag magkaharap na kami.now im pretending to be okay. may times naman kasi na feeling ko okay na kami magmove on na kami. sabi ko sakanya i will never ever give up this relationship. di ko alam gagawin ko. gusto ko syang tanggapin buong buo pero ang sakit knowing nagawa niya sakin to. i thought the whole time hes loyal sakin proud nga ako saknya kasi kahit magkalayo kami di ko nafeel na may ginagawa syang iba doon. or siguro indenial lang ako kasi di ko alam gagawin ko pag nalaman ko na meron siyang iba. and ngayon nga nasampal ako. im not in a perfect relationship. pero naniniwala kasi ako dati na di niya ko magagawang lokohin kasi mahal niya ko. :'(

sorry mahaba

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lantis123

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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #1 on: September 18, 2014, 12:49:55 am »

ang dami dami kong gustong sabihin/itanong sakanya gusto kong maayos namin to. and ayokong maulit ulit. ang sakit sakit knowing kaya niyang gawin sakin to. gusto ko macomfort gusto ko mabuhayan ng loob na this will still work out.  sana makapagusap kami pag kauwi niya.
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lady_liuliu

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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #2 on: September 18, 2014, 02:08:12 am »

Hello sis,,sad to say pareho tayo malas sa  married life,,16 years na kami at till now me na di discover pa din ako na halos gusto ko ng mamatay talaga,,still kapit ako pag nakikita ko mga anak ko di naman kami lahi ng rich para matumbasan ko kaya niya bigay sa anak niya..sis madami pa tayo madadanas naSa atin lang kun tatalikod na tayo,,pray lang tayo sis sya lang ang lalaban para satin..
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lady_liuliu

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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #3 on: September 18, 2014, 02:15:52 am »

Sis u know ang hubby ko wala ng love sa akin di lang niya ko maiwan dahil sa mga anak,,sis mas matitindi pa nadanas ko kaya lumaban tayo  para sa mga anak natin...wag natin bigyan ng broken  family ang mga anak natin..ganito tayo mga ina lahat  i sacrifice para sa kanila,, :'(
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lady_liuliu

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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #4 on: September 18, 2014, 02:22:49 am »

Ang  fb niya  pAnay ka gaguhan lagi asa wall minsan ko pinalitan ang profile pic nagalit  nakialam daw ako..birthday ko today still dedma,,di man lang ako mabati ni sa fb pero mga barkada acfivena active,, :'(
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lantis123

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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #5 on: September 18, 2014, 10:53:21 am »

happy birthday sis..

anyway kami naman ni hubby still working things. bago palang marriage namin. ayoko mabale wala yung years na magkasama kaming dalawa. and i think mutual naman yung feeling. worst comes to worst kahit anong mangyari sabi ko sakanya i'll stay and di ko sya iiwan. and i will not do kung ano man ginawa niya.sabi ko its better to kill myself than lokohin siya. kasi kahit mahirap yung situation hanggat kaya ko magtiis titiisin ko di lang para sakin para din sa anak namin ayoko lumaki sya with a broken family basta paglalaban ko sya and iprprove ko sakanya na worth it ako. ang hirap lang pag naaalala ko yung cheating part.sleepless nights saka sobrang pagiisip. godbless us.
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lantis123

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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #6 on: September 18, 2014, 10:56:30 am »

nabasa ko rin kasi sa isnag article how to cope with a cheating husband if pipiliin mo syang iforgive you must forget kung ano yung nangyari its not going away in an instant pero you should leave it all behind. sabi nga din ng kaibigan namin walang apoy kung walang manggagatong. nagprpray nalang ako everytime mag maiisip akong hindi maganda pinapakinggan naman ako.
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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #7 on: September 18, 2014, 11:45:13 pm »

sa akin nangyari na din ito, ang hirap talaga i overcome kapag infidelity ang issue. Me time na halos mabaliw na ko kakaisip dahil puno na ng duda utak ko. After mangyari sa kin yan kasamang nawala ng tiwala ko sa kanya ay respect after that iyong love na. Kaya lang ngayon ko narealize na ang babae pa din talaga ang nagdadala ng isang  relationship. para sa family  at sa mga anak natin.
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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #8 on: September 19, 2014, 01:06:05 am »

hi sis, i grow up with infidelity issues with my dad. i know lahat gagawin at ibibigay natin lahat para sa mga mahal natin, but one thing i learned from m ymom's experience : "LOVE YOURSELF" , magtira ka sa sarili mo, spare time for yourself, magpaganda ka pag sobra na ginagawang di maganda si mister pakawalan mo na if you think kaya mo buhayin mga anak mo. dont give them the mindset na di kayo mabubuhay pag walasiya kasi wlang mag poprovide sa family. pakita mo sa kanya na strong ka at hindi ka niya dapat smulin. " The best way to take revenge, is to be more beautiful"
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« Reply #9 on: September 19, 2014, 09:02:20 am »

hugggssss... ang sad kapag hindi nakikita ni hubby ang worth natin. pero tama si iamnica kailangan talaga may nakareserve tayo sa sarili. we should love ourselves too otherwise our hubbys will not find us worth loving too. nakikita kai ng mga bata yan eh. pag wala respeto sa atin ang asawa natin baka isipin ng anak natin na lalaki na it's ok to treat girls that way or worse kung babae baka pag daanan din niya pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. fight for your love but have a back up plan just in case hindi naman na willing lumaban si hubby. sis lantis bakit ba kasi kayo long distance? matagal naman na is there no way para magkasama kayo? either he moves for you or you go there to him. apparently his love is not strong enough to withstand separation. you need to be together to fix a broken relationship otherwise mababaliw ka lang kakaisip kung nag cheachaet ba siya sayo. para namang di siya remorseful at di naman nangangako na di na mauulit. bilib ako sa lakas ng loob niyo mga sis ako siguro mababaliw ako kung umabot sa ganyang level ang cheating ng hubby ko. fight for your love, fight for what's rightfully yours but  do it with dignity.
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lantis123

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« Reply #10 on: September 19, 2014, 10:02:16 am »

thanks mga sis.. actually gumagawa na din ako ng back up plan ko. i know kung ako lang kaya ko buhayin ang anak ko ng ako lang pero ayoko sya bigyan ng broken family. si hubby ang pinili ko makasama habang buhay paninindigan ko kasi mahal ko sya. naniniwala naman ako na pag magkasama na kami things will get better. sana.. hopeful pa rin ako. umpisa pa lang to sa married life namin


may plano na kami magsama talaga working na yung application ng visa namin para mag migrate. sana nga soon lumabas na. actually may time na nagdadalawang isip ako if sasama pa ba ko sakanya o hindi e. natatakot lang ako sa mga possibleng mangyari pero hindi ko malalaman hanggat di ko pa nasusubukan diba? napagusapan namin na magiging maayos kami pag magkasama na kami at titira sa iisang bubong.

sabi ng step mom niya kinwento ko sakanya. mahirap daw kasi don. siya naman kasi bahay trabaho lang. siguro nga masyado lang sya nalungkot mga lalaki ganun daw talaga kaya sobrang adjustment kailangan ko matutunan. liberated daw kasi mga babae dun pwede na saknila one night stand. dibale naman daw pag magkasama na kami tapos inulit pa e iba na yun. i should take action na.

hay mga sis prayers lang talaga nakakatulong sakin ngayon to make me feel better everytime naaalala ko. this is the worst feeling na naramdaman ko all my life parang nababaliw.  :( pero kailangan ko kayanin kasi kailangan ako ng anak ko. kung maaayos namin to (sana) edi mas okay kung hindi siguro its meant to be kailangan kayanin ko at magmove on para nalang sa anak ko pero sana maayos namin kasi pag naguusap naman kami ngayon okay naman kami. paguwi niya magheart to heart kami.
 
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Re: husband cheats
« Reply #11 on: September 20, 2014, 05:37:34 pm »

hi sis.. ang painful naman pala talaga ng situation mo ngayon.. basta pray ka at talk to your friends, here sa sp or kahit san pa, okay. :)
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« Reply #12 on: November 21, 2014, 12:23:19 am »

Helo po, i just recently find out that my husband cheat on me... and it really hurt me... kc almost 3 years niya tinago sa akin na nagkaanak sya sa ibang babae. for 11 years of marriage. magkasama pa din kami, ang reason niya kaya daw di niya nasabi agad kc baka daw iwan ko sya. Wala po kami anak kc nakunan ako ng 1 year p lang kami kasal at hirap n kami makabuo. I forgive him and accept the kid.  sabi niya wala na daw sila relation ng nanay ng bata. kung may communication sila ng nanay dahil lang daw sa bata. Akala ko kaya ko na accept pero pagdumadalaw sya sa bata usapan namin hindi sya dun matutulog. Pero pagdun na sya sa house ng bata lagi niya cnasabi na umiiyak daw yun bata pag umaalis sya kaya dun na lang daw sya sleep at uuwi na lang ng maaga. tama pa ba yun? please give me some good advice.
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« Reply #13 on: August 25, 2015, 11:57:02 am »

Sobrang hirap, I am in this situation now..3 chances I have given pero etong pinakahuli din ang pinakamasakit..the most painful part is you have given chances, trying to trust him and giving your everything to him and yet all along you'll find out that he was lying and still communicates with the girl..sobrang sakit..
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« Reply #14 on: October 28, 2015, 01:03:46 am »

Hi mommy Lantis, I hope you and your husband are okay now. Always pray dahil si Lord lang ang makakatulong sa atin lalo na sa mga bagay na we don't have control. I recently read an article about cheating, hindi lang pala ang pakikipag relasyon sa iba while on a relationship and maka classify as cheating. cheating na din kapag mas priority ni husband ang parents over wife (though, diff argument on this), if they're confiding to an opposite sex, if they're chatting up more with opposite sex than his wife, if they're bad mouthing they're partners to an opposite sex, and a lot more. I often told my husband that I would kill him if by chance mambabae siya at mahuli ko siya, so he often jokes na gusto niya pang mabuhay ng mahaba so he will never do it. Then recently I found out na nagsusumbong pala siya sa bestfriend nyang girl about our problems and that woman was bitching me. As in they're talking trash behind my back and that woman barely knows me. As in we haven't met pa nga nor converse at all kahit sa social media. I confronted him, we called the girl pero nagmatigas pa dn yung girl and even curse me, take note I was 5 months pregnant at that time.. I was so mad and I attempted to leave but my husband won't let me.. talagang nag iiyak siya, he even hurt himself pero naging bato ako. kasi ang sakit e, I felt so betrayed.. samantalang I would never bad mouth him kahit pa anong galit ko kasi syempre mahal ko siya and whatever misunderstandings and fights we had alam ko we will patch things p sooner or later. So what he did, bnlock niya yung mga friends niya na girl sa fb every one na hindi ko kilala o hindi common friend namin, he blocked them on our phones, he talked some sense to the woman na mali yung ginawa nila.. and sobra siyang bumawi as in nag 360 degree change.. pero sad to say, hindi ako madaling makalimutan.. I might've forgiven him pero every time na magagalit ako or may konti siyang pagkakamali na bo brought up ko yun and he will just say sory endlessly. Laging nandun yung  threat na iiwan ko siya. Our baby is a month old na, and he's really thriving para sa amin pero konting mali niya napupuna ko. naaawa din ako pero I just can't force myself to trust him anymore.  :'( :'( :'( >:(
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