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[☆♥♡unica hija☆♥♡]

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hindi ko na kaya anak ko, sobra ng tigas ng ulo. di ko mapalo kasi mapagtanim siya ng galit. pagpinagalitan, di sya magpeperform sa school, kahit alam niya answer mamaliin niya. palaging nakasigaw. 9 years old na sya at single mom ako. di pa niya namemeet kahit once father niya. pinakausap ko na siya sa guidance counsellor ng school niya , pati na din sa pastor na church namin. tama ba na dalhin ko na siya sa child psychologist?
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[yhamslove®]

Naku, medyo malaki na pala anak mo sis.

Anong nangyari nung kinausap siya nung guidance counselor ng school at ng pastor nyo?

Kahit ba heart-to-heart talk sis hindi ba effective? I'm not sure if bringing your child to a psychologist is necessary right now. Baka kase may iba pang paraan. 

May nabasa ako sa SP, baka makakuha ka ng konting pointers/tips dito: (pagkakaintindi ko pang pre-school pero try mo lang)

10 Reasons Why your Kids Don’t Listen to You
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/pinoy-parenting/10-reasons-why-your-kids-don-t-listen-to-you2/page/1

[roselsmom]

^^oo nga sis, medyo malaki na yung anak mo...

sakin kasi preschool, she's 5 y/o. hindi rin sya nakikinig sakin before, pagsinabi ko na wag gawin yung isang bagay, yun ang ginagawa niya. kaya lagi akong nakasigaw. dumating pa sa point na kapag nakikita niya ako eh umiiyak na sya agad.

then, i talked to her, in my softest voice... i asked her kung bakit sya ganun. nag-open naman sya. she said na natatakot na daw sya sakin kasi palaging mali yung ginagawa niya... kaya we compromised. sabi ko, mom will not get mad as long as she'll do this and that...

today, ok na kami. i always use my softest voice everytime i talk to her. 

[☆♥♡unica hija☆♥♡]

ok naman siya nung kinausap ng pastor at counselor. actually malambing siyang bata, pero pagsinumpong grabe din. extreme ang personality niya. pro pansin ko mas grabe ugali niya pag nakakapaglaro siya ng computer, war games kasi madalas niya nilalaro eh. I think i have to make him stop playing those games and playing computers na din.
Thanks a lot for the your advices sisters!

[BrightasDay]

Hi @unica hija!

We're in the same boat. Hopefully medyo OK na ba kayo?
I moved to a new home last year, katabi na namin ang nanay in law ko, na mas strict.
Akala ko nga magiging palasunod na anak ko - ayun, parang ganun pa rin, if not worse.

Sabi naman ng nanay in law ko, dahil daw kasi na I treat him like a baby. Inaamo ko raw kasi kaagad
pagkatapos ko pagalitan.

Could this be true?

[mworx]

This is what I'm taking about with my ILs, kasi 1yo pa lang mga anak ko pinapalo ko (sa kamay lang as a punishment for doing something wrong but I make sure to explain their fault).  Sabi nila wala pa raw isip ang mga bata.  NOT TRUE.  This is time that they test your tolerance kaya maliit pa lang dapat malaman nila ang tama at Mali.  I don't tell them the "BAD" word kasi hindi naman talaga sila ang bad, kundi yung ginawa nila.  Pag lagi niyo sinasabing MATIGAS ULO MO, MAKULIT KA, BAD KA...they will tend to be like that kasi ganun ang tingin nyo sa kanila,

Siguro at this time...wala na sigurong sigawan, bangayan, atbp.  Ang kelangan ngayon is to completely understand the situation and reverse psychology.  Tayo ang iintindi at tatahimik.  Try these maybe it will work for you.

[mworx]

Pahabol...let them know their limits and make sure pag may sinabi ka like "hindi ka pwede mag computer pag school days"..make sure you mean it and do it.  Mahirap but we have to else we'll suffer the consequences.

[mami che]

i do have an 11 yr old nephew na nuknukan ng tigas ng ulo. madalas napapatawag bro ko sa school for not so good behavior... sobrang pangaral na binigay namin.... up to the extent na pati mga relatives namin, pinapangaralan sya coz he is not listening to us... pero mabait naman minsan saka malambing.. hindi naman bad magpa child psychologist sis. actually, we are pushing that sa daddy niya para alam namin kung saang aspect namin sya pwede hilutin. i mean, somewhere, we know may problem yung bata kaya he's acting that way na di niya maamin sa circle niya... hindi kasi buo ang family ng nephew ko. yung parents niya, may kanya-kanya na silang family (tho bitbit ng bro ko yung pamangkin ko, still, hindi buo  ) kaya hes really testing our patience....

[ea_brea]

baka pwede instead of sigawan siya at pagalitan take time off muna kayong 2 after niya gumawa ng "mali". kasi pag kinausap mo siya ng galit may chance na hindi siya lalo makinig sayo kahit gaano pa kalakas ang boses mo. talk with him calmly pag calm na din siya.

[AnJelatine]

May nabasa ako sa SP, baka makakuha ka ng konting pointers/tips dito: (pagkakaintindi ko pang pre-school pero try mo lang)

10 Reasons Why your Kids Don’t Listen to You
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/pinoy-parenting/10-reasons-why-your-kids-don-t-listen-to-you2/page/1

Very informative! Meron palang 10-second rule Buti nabasa ko na 'to, para hindi ko na magawa yung mga mali

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Sabi naman ng nanay in law ko, dahil daw kasi na I treat him like a baby. Inaamo ko raw kasi kaagad
pagkatapos ko pagalitan.

Could this be true?

Yes Mommy

[Angela07]

Hi sis, may nakita akong website about parenting tips. Try to explore this site baka makatulong sayo. http://laurafobler.com/   Lately kasi naeengganyo din ako mgbasa basa ng articles at manood ng video tips niya at so far ok naman. Tumahimik na ang bahay kasi natutunan ko na ang tamang approach sa mga bata. hehe

[Mariel Arun]

Sometimes when its too much too take, I just hug him tight and I cry my silent tears and pray. Try to spend more time bonding, and be vocal and showy of your love. Lessen those video games. Ako rin na-observe ko yan sa tweener ko, he's irritable and aggressive after playing so I made him stop, totally no video games.