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mommy irene

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Bullying..
« on: September 17, 2015, 12:55:44 pm »

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Hello Moms!

Gusto ko ulit i-up itong topic na ito for us to be aware of what to do if our child has been bullied or being bullied not only in school but everywhere.

Recently lang, just want to share, my son is currently a kinder. I and his father usually take turns sa paghatis sa morning and start pa lang ng class, there's this particular boy classmate, always like to get my child's attention (by the way, lalake po anak ko). Either hilahin ang bag ng anak ko, tapikin sa balikat, unahan sa pila.. For me, theres nothing wrong kasi kids at 5-6 yrs old talagang likas na malilikot. But as days, weeks, months pass by, redundant na to the point na minsan umaalam na yung anak ko. Minsan nadidinig ko pa kasi hindi ako agad umaalis, i wait for them na pumasok sa classroom before i go home, inaasar niya anak ko. As in its irritating. As mother, hindi ko pinapansin kasi nga bata eh, minsan sinaway ko, sumunod naman yun bata but ganun pa din daw sabi ng anak ko sa loob ng room. (mag kasama pala din sila sa isang table).

What it really pissed me off is when my mother told me na kinausap siya habang sundo niya anak ko na kinagat ng anak ko yung bully classmate niya. Initially, sabi ng mama ko, hindi yun gagawin ng apo niya kung wala din ginawa sa kanya. Precisely!. The parent aide at teacher of course tell my mother na oo nga daw kasi my sons pencil case was being thrown by the bully classmate and worst pa, kinaskas pa sa sahig which my son naman saw (magsusubmit daw kasi ng activity ang anak ko when he felt na may kinuha yung classmate niya sa gamit niya, and it turns out na nakita mismo ng anak ko yung ginawa nung batang yun). what my son did was get the pencil case, sumuot sa ilalim ng table at kinagat yung tuhod. Syempre, umiyak yung bully. Na-call yung attention ng parent aide. madaling salita both were reprimanded, kinausap na mali nga yun. Sabi naman ng parent aide, na talagang hindi naman gagawin ng anak ko yun if he was not provoked.

As a mother, the ff day nagpunta ako ng school, talked to the teacher. I told her what I know from the start at base sa kuento ng anak ko which I end up saying na ilipat na lang ng table anak ko para iwasan yung bata. Which in turn ginawa naman at nag ask ng pasensya yung teacher. Yun pala, nakausap na prior pa sa incident na yun yun parent ng bata. May problema ata ang bata - kulang sa pansin. So all the while I thought ok na, tapos na issue, malayo na anak ko sa bully kid. Aba naman, one time sinundo ng mama ko anak ko, may stain ng chocolate yun polo ng anak ko which in turn gawa na naman ng bully kid. I told my son not to get involved sa mga away, if meron man nang aaway sa kanya, inform his teacher or parent aide esp kami sa bahay. I told my husband to go again to the school. Ayun, kinausap niya ulit si teacher at yung bata na mismo. I know its bad pero sabi ng hubby ko, kinausap niya yung bata na next time gawin niya ulit yun, ill bring you to the police so the police will put you in jail because what you do to your classmate is not good. Do you want me to put chocolate stain in your polo?. Sabi ng teacher naman, babantayan na lang nila ng husto yung mga bata at nahihiya na nga daw sa amin kasi my son daw is sobrang masayahin, ayaw nga daw ng may kaaway. He always have a happy face kasi.

So kayo moms, sorry ang haba, what do you think is the best way na maiwasan yung mga ganitong situation at school. kasi kung ako lang, papakatotoo lang, gusto ko na kurutin un bully kid na yun kaso baka ako naman mapolice, hehe.

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Mommy mitzchie

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Re: Bullying..
« Reply #1 on: October 11, 2015, 11:24:45 am »

I also remember a classmate of my son who often bully him in pre-school. Sa school kasi ng anak ko, we have this rule na we cannot scold another child. Course of action is to tell the teacher, teacher tells the child's parent or parent to parent ang usapan. I am fortunate to have a school where we feel that we are in one community,being a parent to everyone..care for every kid..So pag may problem sa isang kid,say attitude or bumaba ang grades, we don't take it against the kid and parent. School reach out to parents. And even fellow parents reach out to you. Naresolve namin yung issue of bullying, a little bit of attention from the teacher goes a long way. I forge good friendship with my fellow parents kahit hiwa-hiwalay na school ng mga anak namin. Sabi nga nila, it takes a village to raise a kid. I would suggest looking into your child's school. Di puwede sorry lang sila ng sorry. Dun mo makikita kung they really do take care of their students. Kasi what if your on the other side of the bridge, ano gagawin nila sa anak mo? Parents and the school should go hand in hand in facing this issue.     
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Re: Bullying..
« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2015, 11:26:30 pm »

According to the Deped guidelines for schools on bullying (sana ma recall ko yung link), every school is required to have a committee who will meet with the bully and the bullied at a regular basis until the case is resolved and reconciliation is worked upon the relationship of the students involved. This is because the anti-bullying act isn't only for the protection on the bullied but the reformation of the bully as well.
This of course is on top of the action given to the offender (warning or suspension). May guidelines ang school na galing sa ruling ng Deped tungkol sa offenses at action. Dapat masunod ito ng school. If any parent still think it's unfair (either the school did not follow the rule or the outlined punishment is too lenient for the offense, then the parent can take their complain direct to Deped.


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