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mika-madz

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how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« on: January 17, 2013, 03:28:27 pm »

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my hubby told me the other day.. "mylbs, i-ready mo na sarili mo magstart na tayo magbigay ng 5k monthly kina Mommy" .... I was really surprised.. first of all, feeling ko di pa kami ready to have extra expenses this time. may loan pa kmeng binabayaran. second of all, na shock ako kase may amount na sya sinAbi, meaning naka plano n pala sya without me knowing it. Sken naman, ok lang n sumuportA pero parang nalakihan lang ako sa 5k due to our financial satus right now. wala na kaseng work sina inlaws. dalawa lang sila magkapatid, e sa ngayon sya yun medyo stable. Tingin nyo sis, madamot ba ko?

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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2013, 03:55:34 pm »

Hello Sis, siguro pag usapan nyo muna ni hubby ng mabuti kong magkano ba talaga ang kailangan nyong ibigay. Ganun talaga ang mga anak pag wala ng trabaho ang mga parents ito na yong time natin to give back ;) Pero depende yon sis sa sitwasyon nyo mag asawa :)
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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #2 on: January 18, 2013, 09:24:47 am »

medyo nagtampo si hubby nung sinabi ko di p namin kaya, na kung pwede after nalang ng loan which means afetr a year pa kami makakaluwagluwag. pero sabi naman niya kakausapin niya muna yun ate niya kung paano magiging set up. kasi mga sis if ever itutuloy niya ito, mapipilitan ako magadjust ng budget. ok lang naman sana talaga yun magbigay ng 5k a month kung wala n kami loan:(
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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #3 on: January 18, 2013, 12:35:10 pm »

Hi sis mika_madz, your hubby is really a loving son. Kumbaga he knows his responsibility bilang isang anak. However when having own family na, it should be in between the lines ang mga decisions. Pero this is only my opinion ah. I agree with sis mayumi na to talk your hubby about your current financial situation. Pwede mo naman i-explain kay hubby mo ang monthly expenses nyo nang sa gayon makita niya kung magkano ba ang extra money nyo each month. At least he will know kung kaya ba talaga yung 5K monthly.

Syempre sis kung sakin din mangyari un, malakihan ako sa 5K. Sa dami rin naming expenses tapos si hubby lang naman work. Isa pa for better future pa ng anak diba? So need kahit papano to save.
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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #4 on: January 18, 2013, 01:10:38 pm »

@hi sis rozzy, thank you for understanding me.. sa ngyon importante sken n may nakakaintindi para mabawasan yun guilt feeling ko sa pagtanggi sa gusto niya. i do hope and pray na maintindihan niya at wag niya isipin na nagdadamot lang ako.. I know naman na na offend sya sken :( pero I'm just being true and pratical for our family na din.
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« Reply #5 on: January 18, 2013, 01:25:52 pm »

Your welcome sis. :) Opinion ko lang naman yun, syempre kung ano pa rin ang mapag-usapan nyo ng hubby mo.
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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2013, 11:50:25 pm »

before issue to samin ni hubby, not because i dont want to help them, its just nalalakihan ako sa amount na binibigay ni hubby, and before kasi wala pa kaming baby so ok pa sakin yun pero nung may baby na, kinausap ko si hubby ng maayos to make adjustments, i make a list ng lahat ng gastos namin para alam niya ano lang yung suitable amount na pedeng ibigay..and since 3 sila magkakapatid, para fair dapat lahat sila ngbibigay, yung amount depende na din sa financial status nila, kung sino yung mas nakakaluwag, mas malaki yung share niya...

@mika-madz, tama sila talk to hubby regarding this siyempre parents niya yun so kelangan niya din maghelp kahit paano, try to make a settlement, baka may mga puwede naman igive up na hindi ganun kaimportante para kahit maliit eh may maibigay kayo, para na lang din walang masabi sayo db....if umiinom si hubby ng beer, yosi or gimik, sabihin mo yung budget  niya dun yun na lang yung mapupunta sa parents niya mga ganung bagay ba... :)
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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #7 on: January 19, 2013, 09:43:56 am »

@hi sis preciouslara! thank you sis.. yes We'll try to compromise..medyo mahirap talaga sa ngyon kase ssasabay sya sa loan namin pero sana pumayag si hubby na tapupsin muna yun loan or sana 2500 lang muna til makaraos kami sa bayarin.. alam ko naman walang di nakukuha sa mabuting usapan haha.. ang sinasabi niya kase e dun sa budget na pinadadala niya smen magiina dun kukunin un para sa inlaws ko, so hindi niya kukunin sa budget niya db? parang wala akong choice dun.. hehe... anyways, i'm trying to look for extra income para makatulong din ako kay hubby. sana naman this time pumayag na sya magwork ako kase malaki na naman ang kids :)

thanks to you Mommies!!!
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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #8 on: January 19, 2013, 02:19:50 pm »

your welcome sis  :) siyempre tayong mga ever loving and supportive wife ng ating mga husband ang kelangan lagi umintindi and mag adjust para maging maayos lahat...kaya mo yan sis, were wonderwoman nga diba...
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« Reply #9 on: January 21, 2013, 10:10:08 am »

Tsaka Sis pahabol :) Try to explain to hubby na you need to keep money also for your baby. Kasi if ever na ganung amount yong ibibigay nyo lage then yon lang ang extra nyong pera mawawalan kayo ng ipon for baby. Basta balance nyo na lang kung panu budget :)
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Re: how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #10 on: January 21, 2013, 10:16:59 am »

in my own opinion, napag uusapan naman yan.. hrap din pag may baby na dami na tlaga gastos..

si hubby di naman sya nagbibigay sa parents niya kase may work pa daddy niya.. ako nagbibigay sa mama ko kase ala sya source of income.. tulungan lang tas usap usap yung tama lang kumbaga na di kayo magigipit at the same time makakain yung both parents :)
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« Reply #11 on: January 21, 2013, 10:22:54 am »

Naku sis eytellene, tama ka sa sinabe mong ang hirap magbudget pag my baby na. syempre di natin alam ano yong mga kailangan at ano mangyayari. kaya nga ako I always remind my husband na keep money for our baby kahit konti basta meron. Tsaka maiintindihan naman ng parents natin kung konti lang naibibigay natin sa kanila. Sa amin kasi parents namin ni hubby parehong my work, kami pa minsan binibigyan. kaso my mga lola kami na kailangan ding bigyan ng kahit konti :)
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how much financial support do we need to give our in laws?
« Reply #12 on: July 17, 2015, 12:07:35 pm »

I am a mother of a 9months old baby..we are currently living on my parents house since everything from getting married to having a baby is a bit too fast. we did not have enough time to prepare enough money to avail a house. so we decided to stay at my parents house and also for my mother to take care of my child while we both work..
My husband and I was having an argue regarding his financial support to his parents..currently we can't afford to save much money as savings because of the expenses for the baby and daily necessities thats why i'm asking for my husband to stop the support for his parents for a while until such time that we become financially stable..but his reaction seems bad on what i demand..he doesnt like it..what shall i do?..my stress level reach too high that i dont want to see my inlaws for a while to prevent any conflict..please help me..
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« Reply #13 on: May 21, 2020, 12:38:42 pm »

Yes. I don't see any reason/s that we should not share with our parents and in-laws especially in these trying times where everyone is affected especially those who have no income. I still give my parents and I am lucky that my husband is ok with it. I don't have a choice because both my parents are also in their Senior Years and they are unable to work na. My husband's Mom naman has her own income pa, but I still remind my husband to give his parents something or moeny every sweldo.  We have to give back to our parents and also to our in-laws because they are already our 2nd parents when we married their child.
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