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April Lachica

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Mommy Worries : stress, mental health, sound mind
« on: May 03, 2008, 10:55:02 am »

If you think you may have depression or know someone who is suffering from it or other mental health depression, contact the DOH's 24-hour suicide prevention hotline, HOPELINE, (02) 804.4637; (09170 558.4673; and 2919 for Globe and TM subscribers. PhilHealth now also covers treatment for mental health disabilities.
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HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS
« Reply #1 on: August 12, 2008, 08:54:03 pm »

I read this from a friend's blog share ko lang po... :D

HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS

This would give you guides on how to control your emotions towards your better-half, friends, officemates and all the people around you, especially your "boss" . The rules of practicing "ugaling langit, ugaling kaaya-aya" :

#1 Ang naunang magalit ang may karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na ng galit niya, tumahimik ka na lang muna.

#2 Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag hindi kayo sumagot o pumatol, titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag- away sa inyo.

#3 Ang taong galit, ' bingi. ' If someone is angry, wala raw pinakikinggan, so, don ' t try to explain and fight back. Hindi ka niya iintindihin dahil wala siyang naririnig kundi ang sarili niya.

#4 Ang taong galit, ' abnoy. ' Ayon sa pastor, Biblical daw ito? because the Lord said when He was crucified, "Father, patawarin mo sila dahil hindi nila alam ang kanilang ginagawa." Modern term for these kinds of people are abnoys, so you better not get angry para huwag kang matawag na abnoy.  ;D ;D ;D

You should also know and realize that the persons who make your day bad are jewels, because you need them for you to mature. Hangga ' t andyan daw sila at kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin, immature ka pa. God will not take away those people; it ' s for you to take away your bad feelings towards them. You ' ll know na mature ka na pag dumating ' yung time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga taong ito because you have learned to accept them and to have patience with them.

#5 Finally, the best part of this is to tell yourself na, because of this person, "I will grow mature," and that DAHIL SA CONTRIBUTION NIYA SA MATURITY MO, KUKUNIN DIN SYA NI LORD. ;D ;D
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"..there is no greater prayer than that of a MOTHER for her children. These are the purest prayers because of their intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation.

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UNLOADING MY WORRIES & FEARS...
« Reply #2 on: September 24, 2008, 08:57:50 pm »

gusto ko lang ilabas tong nasa loob ko mommies...ilang araw na din kasi akong nagaalala sa anak ko... last saturday, habang nagcocomputer ako lumapit sakin anak ko. his complaining of chest pain(again). sabi niya, "mommy, ansakit ng ganito ko (pointing to his chest). ambilis ng tubog (tibok) ng heart ko, ansakit mommy". kinontrol ko lang sarili ko para di din sya magpanic. dinavert ko na lang yung attention niya. hinimas himas ko yung dibdib tapos kinis ko yung dibdib niya. saka ko sinabi, "blow ni mommy para mawala sakit"...kunwari hinipan ko yung heart niya, napangiti sya...tinanong ko sya ng, "masakit pa ba? "hindi na".ngumiti sya ulit. pero sa loob loob ko scared talaga ako...siguro napagod sya sa school program nila...ansaya saya pa naman niya...yung gabing yun di ako nakatulog, binabantayan ko sya...hanggang ngayon. panay lang ang dasal ko. nakakatulog lang ako at nakakaramdam ng katahimikan pag nagdadasal ako. nasabi ko sa hubby ko pero diko na sya masyadong inelaborate pa yung takot na nararamdaman ko para di sya masyadong magalala samin...dadalawa lang pa naman kami ng son ko dito sa bahay. wala pa rin kaming kasambahay. ayoko naman ng istorbohin pa ang mama ko para samahan kami. though sinasamahan naman kami paminsan minsan. buti na lang tinitext ako ng kaibigan ko para i-assure ako. at para mawala yung fears ko. at least kahit papano, natututo akong kontrolin ang takot ko at hindi ipahalata sa anak ko. di gaya ng dati na grabe ang nerbyos ko pag konting complain lang niya. :) we decided na kailangan namin syang ibalik sa Manila for 3rd opinion...kaya inaayos ko mga medical records niya...haaaay! kailangan kong ilabas to or else di ko na alam...EVERYTHING WILL BE OK...I'M SURE! I TRUST HIM... :) SYA NG BAHALA SA'MIN... ;) Let thy will be done...
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Re: UNLOADING MY WORRIES & FEARS...
« Reply #3 on: September 24, 2008, 09:10:13 pm »

we SP mommies are here for you sis kalix..we may not see you but you surely can burst out your pains & heartaches with us. we may not help you instantly but we can send the most powerful weapon of all.. PRAYERS. you and your son will be included in my prayers sis. i believe that one set of hands praying is strong..but with more than those, we surely can make it more powerful.

there is no greater pain than to see our kids in pain. kung pwede lang akuin na lahat ng masakit sa kanila. praning man matawag pero ako nga maduwal lang sya konti, i panic na. ayoko nagvovomit sya, ayoko pag di niya makuha antok niya.. those little things compose a mother's heart. kaya dapat strong tayo para makayanan lahat ng things nayun.

take care sis! God bless you and your family.


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Re: UNLOADING MY WORRIES & FEARS...
« Reply #4 on: September 25, 2008, 01:17:54 am »

hi mommy!

nakakarelate ako sau... kase until now marami rin akong fears and worries sa baby ko.... basta pray tau palage mommy....

like what mommy keih said, we as mommies should be strong sa kabila ng lahat... sabi nga ng nanay ko sakin. wag daw ako iyak ng iyak palage kase nararamdaman un ng baby ko...

Be strong sis,  i beleive na malalampsan din natin lahat yan....
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Re: UNLOADING MY WORRIES & FEARS...
« Reply #5 on: September 25, 2008, 01:47:43 am »

Hi Kalix

I'll pray for you & your son.  I give you a pat in the back for somehow you were able to control your emotions, if I were on your shoes I don't know what I would have done.  But rest assured a lot of the parents here are willing to "listen" to you & would give you your needed comfort of words if not prayers & support, it may not be physically but in spirit we are supporting you.

WHo's your doctor for your son?  If i may suggest also that don't hesitate to ask your mom to be with you. mahirap den ihandle ang situation ng nag-iisa esp those unexpected ones. OUr prayers are with you & your son  :-*
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Re: UNLOADING MY WORRIES & FEARS...
« Reply #6 on: September 25, 2008, 07:40:35 am »

our kids are God's gifts to us... and He loves our kids kaya hindi niya kayo pababayaan. Trust in Him and everything will be great... Calmness and strenght.. god bless...
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Re: UNLOADING MY WORRIES & FEARS...
« Reply #7 on: September 25, 2008, 04:46:26 pm »

thanks mommies for the support & prayers.... :) nalagpasan namin yung una kakayanin namin ulit 'to... :) kahit na medyo dinadaga pa rin ako... ;D kailangan ko lang talaga ilabas nararamdaman ko na hindi nakikita ng anak ko at baka sumabog ako... ;D kailangan ako ng anak ko kaya di pwedeng ipakitang mahina ako.

@hotmom: may nagrecommend samin kay dra. balderas ng phil. heart center mommy...pinupuntahan pa rin kami ng mom ko dito pero hindi na everyday kasi busy din sya...sabi nga din ng hubby ko need talaga namin ng makakasama, mahirap na daw.

pero kung may alam kayo o mairerekomenda na magaling talaga at accomodating sa mga tanong ko at hindi "nananaga" ng presyo very much appreciated po.. :)
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anxiety problem...
« Reply #8 on: February 24, 2009, 01:17:02 pm »

hi mommies...gusto ko lang i-share problem ko bout my anxiety. actually ang hirap i-explain nitong problema na to lalo na't ur not experiencing same problem.

Last 2007 kc i felt something different. bigla nalang me nag-palpitate and i don't even know y?? tpos un na dun na ngsimula mgbago ng tuluyan ang buhay ko. as in!!! before akala ko namatanda lang me kaya ngpatingin me sa mga "faith healers" or "šlbularyo". kc kung ano-anung medical tests pinagawa ko lahat naman normal. ECG, X-ray at kung ano-ano pa! pro wala talaga lhat sila negative. tpos un sa mga faith healers naman ganun din wa epek din.. ayun na dun na me napaisip. it's a psychological problem! so i've decided to consult sa psychiatrist. at ayun tama nga ang hinala ko. sbi kc ng psyche doctor after ko makuwento lhat ng nararamdaman ko it's an "anxiety problem" daw.

Alam nyo ba yung feeling mommies na natatakot me sa mga bagay-bagay na before naman ay d me natatakot. like to be in a crowded places na feeling ko d me makakahinga...to go outside alone...parang everytime na naiisip ko un mga bagay na un nahihirapan me huminga and nag-start me mag-palpitate. i know iisipin nung iba na baka nasisiraan lang me ng bait..pro i've searched a lot about anxiety and ayun nga may kapareho me ng nararamdaman.akala ko ako lang nakakaramdam ng ganito.  :(

after i knew about anxiety and searching a lot medyo nalaman ko na how to control it. and ayun nga when i got pregnant last march 2008 medyo feeling ko nawala na un anxiety ko pro parang after i gave birth and until now parang bumabalik na naman pro i still try to control it. kc if don't control it, it will really ruined my entire life na naman.. grabe tlaga! if some of u mommies na naka-experience na ng anxiety problem u'll understand what am i talking about. kc ang hirap tlaga niya actually i-explain. parang if u have this problem parang end of the world na for u. promise! parang mamamatay ka na!  :'(

actually b4 MOMS ended up un sa Qtv...napanood ko na pati c manilyn reynes experienced this too. ayun parehong-pareho kami ng naramdamn. hay grabe!  ::)

if anyone knows who experienced or experiencing this kind of problem naman mga mommies share it also naman to me..it will really help me a lot if i know somebody is also experiencing anxiety too. parang at least may karamay me ba..hehe... :D

thanks for reading my topic and i hope to hear same stories from u momsies..thanks! ;D
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Re: anxiety problem...
« Reply #9 on: February 24, 2009, 06:02:14 pm »

mommy jheni12 ako feeling may PPD ako kasi ang dami kong naiisip at kinakatakutan ngaun lagi akong umiiyak kahit nasa work ako pagnaisip ko yung mga problema at takot ko ayun iyak n ako. I dont know how to control this si hubby lang ang nakakapagpakalma sa akin e like kagabi on the way sa house namin iyak n ako ng iyak pagdating ko andun n si mahal ayun yakap ako agad tapos hagulgol n ako akala niya tuloy kung ano n ang nangyari.

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Re: anxiety problem...
« Reply #10 on: February 24, 2009, 08:28:45 pm »

mommy jheni12 ako feeling may PPD ako kasi ang dami kong naiisip at kinakatakutan ngaun lagi akong umiiyak kahit nasa work ako pagnaisip ko yung mga problema at takot ko ayun iyak n ako. I dont know how to control this si hubby lang ang nakakapagpakalma sa akin e like kagabi on the way sa house namin iyak n ako ng iyak pagdating ko andun n si mahal ayun yakap ako agad tapos hagulgol n ako akala niya tuloy kung ano n ang nangyari.

mommykay ano po un PPD? bka naman post partum yang sau sis.. kakapanganak mo lang ba? ako din b4 kahit pano naiibsan ni hubby un anxiety problem ko pro now na umalis na ulit cia wala na ko absorber..hehe...un sken kc sis iba eh..umaabot me sa point na parang mauubusan me ng hangin na parang d na ko makakahinga. in short pra na kong mamamatay!! naghahalo un takot, nerbyos at kung ano-ano pa! kaya sobrang binago niya un buhay ko kc d ko na nagagawa un mga nagagawa ko dati.. :(
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Re: anxiety problem...
« Reply #11 on: February 25, 2009, 08:42:03 am »

mommy jheni12 post partum n nga yta to, mag2 monrths p lang baby ko. Indi p naman ako umabot sa ganun stage n nahihirapan ng huminga basta iyak lang ako ng iyak anytime of the day.
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Re: anxiety problem...
« Reply #12 on: February 25, 2009, 09:04:21 pm »

mommy jheni12 post partum n nga yta to, mag2 monrths p lang baby ko. Indi p naman ako umabot sa ganun stage n nahihirapan ng huminga basta iyak lang ako ng iyak anytime of the day.

un na nga yan sis..ako b4 sa pnganay ko nramdaman ko rin yan pro mga days lang siguro. me din now mag-3 mos palang baby ko na 2nd pro wala pa naman me nraramdaman na post partum. alam ko it's because of anxiety parin tong nararamdaman ko. :P

buti nalang d me nagwo-work hehe...
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Re: anxiety problem...
« Reply #13 on: February 26, 2009, 12:03:42 pm »

Sabi nila stages lang daw to matatapos din, kasi first time mom ako kaya siguro sobrang worry ko sa baby ko.
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Re: anxiety problem...
« Reply #14 on: February 26, 2009, 10:33:00 pm »

Sabi nila stages lang daw to matatapos din, kasi first time mom ako kaya siguro sobrang worry ko sa baby ko.

uu gnyan talaga daw feeling pg 1st time mommy.. :D pasasaan bat mttapos din yan.hehe..
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