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help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #60 on: September 05, 2012, 04:48:12 pm »

Hi guys...my wife and I have a little dilemma...our two-year old daughter seems more attached to her yaya when doing certain things. Recently, parang masgusto ng daughter namin na kasama matulog yung yaya in the evening. Sometimes, she'd wake up in the middle of the night and then call for her yaya. And if we don't oblige, she'll be crying the whole night.

Hope you can share your similar experience with this problem and how you managed to solve it. Thanks guys!!!
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #61 on: September 05, 2012, 05:18:10 pm »

Meron na silang bonding ng yaya niya especially pag whole day kasama ng anak nyo ang yaya niya o sino mang nag aalaga sa kanya. Even lolo or lola's minsan e, meron talagang selos factor from parents. Lalo na pag super bait ni yaya or anyone sa kanila. Feeling nila very secure sila. But nevertheless, have bonding moment with your child din, lalo na pag daughters mas malapit sa mga daddy's. Assure your daughter that she is very much love by her parents. Paglumalapit siya sa inyo don't spoil her (pagalitan pa rin pag may mali) but give her the attention she wants at praise she needs. Mabisa ang constant yakap at saying "i-love-u,anak". Don't ignore or scold her often, lalong lalayo ang loob sa inyo. Tapos kahit nasa work kayo, always call her on phone para alam niya na nandiyan kayo para sa kanya kahit malayo kayo. At night time kung pwede, you both spend time with your daughter, bonding bonding lang talaga. Para sa kanya she will look forward for her dad and mom kahit na nagwo work sila at day time. Kaya huwag niyo masyado iiwan sa mga yaya's or ibang tao ang mga kids kasi talagang clingy pa ang mga batang 2-3 yrs old sa mga alam nilang nagbibigay ng full attention sa kanila.


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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #62 on: September 05, 2012, 05:52:14 pm »

sis Paw: minsan ganyan din yung daughter kom super close kasi sya sa yaya niya, who's been her yaya since she was three days old yata. may time before na gusto niya lagi katabi yaya matulog, pero now that she's older na (3 years 3 months), and had spent more time na with me since I became a WAHM, mas nagkaron na kami ng bond. Although may times na inseparable pa rin sila ng yaya niya, she bestows the same affection din naman na for me. :)

I suggest sis you make extra effort talaga to spend more time with her. And you also have to tell yaya to let you do other stuff that she usually does for your daughter. About sleeping at night, ganyan din daughter ko before, so what I do nung simula is to sleep in the same room as her yaya's, tabi-tabi kami doong tatlo. Tapos, gradually, dinala na namin dun sa room namin ni hubby, and I let her watch TV, turn on the aircon, and play bahay-bahayan sa kwarto before we sleep. So for her, parang naging fun place to be in yung room namin ni Daddy niya. Ayun eventually, she roomed with us din. :) May mga times pa din na she'd be up by 6am looking for her yaya, pero at least, the rest of the night she was with us naman.

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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #63 on: September 06, 2012, 12:31:49 pm »

Hi daddy paw. Mahirap talaga pag nasa ganyang situation. Kung hindi talaga maiiwasan na maiwan sa yaya yung daughter niyo, just make it a point na pag uwi niyo sa house, lahat ng attention sa kaniya na. Try niyo na bigyan siya ng pasalubong every week kahit small things lang. Or even yung favorite food niya. Para kahit sa ganung way, aabangan niya yung pag uwi niyo. Kasi para sa daughter niyo, her yaya isnt just her yaya. Parang family member na si yaya for her since all day niya kasama and kalaro. Malaking bagay kasi at her age yung may kalaro talaga kaya important sa kaniya yung mga taong nakikipaglaro sa kaniya. Kaya kahit pagod kayo from work, play with her pag uwi niyo sa house.

Sa case naman namin ng husband ko, mas close yung daughter ko sakin kasi stay at home mom ako. So pag uwi ng husband ko, he makes extra effort to spend time with our daughter. Minsan pupunta pa kami sa nearest mall para lang makapag-carousel siya kasi favorite niya yun. Or makikipagharutan siya sa daughter namin, kikilitiin niya and papatawanin. Sometimes, magddrive thru sila para lang may bonding time silang dalawa.

Try niyo din siya tawagan during your lunch break. Ask niyo kung kamusta siya and tell her na pag uwi niyo ng wife mo, magpplay kayo. Para excited siya na uuwi kayo. Pag gusto naman niya matulog katabi si yaya, kailangan na ng konting bola. Tell her that yaya is already sleeping and that yaya is already tired. Or tell her na magccry si mommy niya pag hindi siya katabi magsleep. Depende na sa inyo kung anong magwwork para sa inyo. Make sure na eembrace niyo siya and kkiss niyo lalo na pag nasa bed na para mafeel niya na you want her beside you.

Goodluck =)
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #64 on: September 06, 2012, 01:30:52 pm »

Hi Mommies!!!

Thanks for sharing. We really appreciate your inputs. Both my wife and I are working and we usually get home late. Although we try to play with her once we get home, siguro kailangan pa talaga namin mag-exert ng more effort to give her more attention. We'll definitely try your suggestions and give you feedback on our progress. Thanks again, mommies!!!
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #65 on: September 07, 2012, 10:58:04 am »

Yung anak ng bro ko ganyan din..sobrang close sa yaya..nung una,sobrang ngwoworied din sila kasi lagi nalang yaya ang gusto..humingi sya ng advise sakin. i just told him na be thankful nalang at nandyan c yaya.. atleast alam natin na she's a good yaya tlgah kasi gustong gusto sya ni baby. and wag sya mag alala, kasi alam naman ni baby kung sino tlgah ang parents niya.. diba nga may mga anak na iniwan ng magulang...pero sa bandang huli gusto pa din nila makita at makasamaparents nila... never naman mawawala un sa isip at feelings nila.

siguro magbuild nalang kayo ng time like pagkauwi nio.. laruin nio sya the way kung paano sya laruin ni yaya..basahan nio sya before magsleep. tiis nalang sa pagod.. and pag wala kayo pasok give nio yung full time nio
sknya.kaya ako kahit pagod na pagod ako galing sa work.. pagkauwi ko nilalaro koc baby (7month),pinupusan ko before matulog,kinakantahan,hanggang makatulog..napansin ko kasi before nung 4months sya.. mas gusto niya tlgah sa yaya niya. pag nauwi ako dedma niya lang ako,,pag nilalaro ko sya ayaw niya tumawa pero pag
si yaya na naglaro grabe makahalakhak.. tapos pag iiyak sa madaling araw gusto niya c yaya din kakarga sknya
pag ako ayaw niya tumigil..sobrang ngseselos din ako nun, so pinagaralan ko how yaya took care of him..
then un inapply.. ngaun ako na lagi ang gusto niya.. pag nauwi ako tuwang tuwa sya lagi..
pag naiyak sa madaling araw ako gusto na niya.. ngseselos n nga din yaya niya ee hehe..

ako at si kuya kampante kami pag wala kami sa bahay kasi alam namin na happy c baby kahit wala kami...
panget naman kasi if buong araw hahanapin niya kami then iiyak sya ng iiyak diba? kaya be thankfull nalang
po kay yaya.. :)
 ;) ;) ;) ;) ;)
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #66 on: September 07, 2012, 10:22:28 pm »

Aww, nakaka-sad nga yan. But when you have a yaya and you're working, that's really one of the possibilities. Kaya kameng mag-asawa we make it a point na pag nasa house kame, kahit pagod or puyat, kame nag-aasikaso sa anak ko. Like pag maliligo sya and magna-nap in the afternoon, kahit puyat ako from work or pagod or what, ako talaga gagawa non. So far, never pa naman nangyari na mas attached yung toddler ko sa yaya niya. Pag anjan kame ng hubby ko, mas gusto niya na kame magpapakain, magpupunas, as in lahat.

On the good side, it means na maalaga and mabait ang yaya sa anak nyo. That's something to be thankful of din kase hirap na humanap ng yaya na ganyan. I suggest that you establish a routine with your child and spend as much time as you can. Samin talaga in fairness maswerte si yaya kase pag nasa house kame, kame talaga mag-aalaga, utos-utos lang sa yaya like fixing clothes, cleaning, ganyan.
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #67 on: September 08, 2012, 01:42:09 am »

On one side, this is good bec yaya maybe treating your daughter well.  But on the other side syempre nakakaselos and hurtful pag mas attached na si baby sa yaya. My husband and I also worked late so sometimes our son didnt see us for 3 consecutive days. He was still sleeping when we left the house and he was already sleeping when we got home.  So we make up for the lost time and made sure we spend our free time with him especially during weekends.  We feed him, change his nappies, give him a bath, etc. Nakakapagod and nakakastress pa nga when we went out before because we didnt bring yaya along. I made this decision para nga makabawi and sa amin mabaling yung attention ng anak ko. In our case naagapan namin, we didnt experience na masattached sya sa yaya (although for a time, my son was so attached to my husband bec he was spending more time with him). At this age, hindi pa gano aware ang bata sa concept ng parents, quality time, etc.  Dun sila kung sino lagi nila nakakasama or nakikita. 

It might not be possible to spend time with your daughter during weekdays so bawi kayo when you're not working.  Wag nyo muna isama si yaya when you go out.  Kayo muna bahala sa daughter nyo when you are at home. Bawas bawasan ang responsibilities and time ni yaya with baby. Depende kung sino ang hindi maspagod, puwede kayo salitan ni wifey sa pagpalit ng nappies, pagpaligo,pagpakain, etc. Until makabawi kayo and mabawasan ang attachment ni baby sa yaya.
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #68 on: September 08, 2012, 10:18:46 pm »

agree ako daddy Paw sa mga mommies dito, you need to exert effort from your side din talaga...i mean hindi lang naman play ang pwedeng bonding nyo, pwedeng pag-uwe nyo ng misis mo, kayo na magclean-up sa kanya paggabi before matulog, magstory telling before she goes to sleep too, bibigyan nyo tlaga sya ng attention..

samen effective din yung may day-off si yaya, kahit for a day or 2 na kami lang talagang family ang nasa bahay, kaya si baby ko sanay sya kahit wala ang nanny niya, and same yung affection...minsan nga kapag nakakakuha kame ni hubby ng holiday sa office, pinag-haholiday ko din si yaya para naman bukod sa nakakapamasyal at nakapahinga si yaya, may time na kayo2 lang talaga sa bahay and you got to do those stuff para sa anak nyo like paliguan, makipaglaro, pakainin, lahat2 diba.. :) nakakapagod talaga minsan dahil working tayo pero we need to build relationship sa mga anak naten and it will be all worth it :)
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #69 on: September 10, 2012, 09:04:37 am »

On a positive note, this may be a good indication of a good relationship between your daughter and her yaya. Yung bata kasi mas naattach sila sa mabait sa kanila and people who spends time with them. It happened to us din. Kaya we made sure na pag weekend, kami nag aasikaso sa daughter namin. And when we go out, di na namin sinasama si yaya. In short, sinosolo namin daughter namin pag weekend. :) Extra effort lang kasi mahirap naman talaga mag alaga ng bata lalo na during toddler years :)
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #70 on: September 10, 2012, 10:08:59 am »

I can relate sa concern mo, Daddy Paw.  Our baby Ela is very attached din kay yaya.  One time when I was giving her a bath, she told me dapat daw bath first before mag brush ng teeth like what her yaya does.  I told her na lang na when it's yaya's turn to give her a bath, ganun yung routine nila.  Pero kapag ako, toothbrush first and then bath. :)  Ayoko lang kasi na maconfuse pa baby ko sa kung sino ba yung tama or mali.  And like the other mommies here, iniisip ko na lang na we are so blessed to have a yaya na love na love si baby.
Daddy Paw if hindi talaga kaya magbonding on weeknights bec of work, try niyo din ni mommy na ilaan yung saturday and sunday kay baby. To build din yung sarili niyong routine with her.

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« Reply #71 on: September 10, 2012, 02:03:52 pm »

I agree with not bringing yaya when we go out. Madalas kameng ganyan, as in pag weekends, hinde talaga kasama yung yaya. It's a chance for her to do a weekly general cleaning of our room plus rest na din from taking care of my daughter. I acknowledge the fact na hinde madale mag-alaga ng bata especially yung mga ganyang age. Minsan we bring her along kapag may mga errands talaga kame na dapat iaccomplish pero yung usual dine out, grocery, and play time namin sa mall pag weekends, hinde na kasama si yaya.
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #72 on: September 14, 2012, 06:28:58 pm »

sis simple lang ang solution dyan: quality time. the reason why your daughter likes the yaya more is because she spends more time with her. kaya pag after work at tuwing weekends talagang tutuunan mo dapat ng pansin ang daughter mo. go out na kayong dalawa lang. treat her out to her favorite restaurant. kailangan nyang maintindihan na ikaw ang permanent part ng buhay niya at hindi yung yaya niya.
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #73 on: September 15, 2012, 12:34:15 pm »

ganyan din yung panganay ko before. close talaga sila ng yaya niya. paano kasi lagi kaming nasa work ni mommy niya. pag dating dito sa bahay pagod na at tutulog na. pero pag dating ng rest day namin we make sure na bumabawe kami sa kanya :)
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Re: help!!! Our Daughter Seems More Attached to Her Yaya!!!
« Reply #74 on: October 31, 2012, 05:07:32 pm »

Hi Moms and Dads...

Thanks for all your suggestions...we took note of your inputs and applied a number of them...We've already reaped the results and hindi na sya clingy kay yaya during night time...actually, di ko na nga napansin na wala na syang late night tantrums...again, many thanks to all of you!!!
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