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  • Could your Child be Gay?

    Homosexual tendencies can begin to show as early as age 6. If you see them in your child, what would you do?
    by Julian Vorpal .
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    3. Coming Out (Toleration then acceptance of identity through contact with gay/lesbian individuals and culture. Exploration of sexual possibilities and first erotic relationships. Careful, selective self-disclosure outside gay /lesbian community)
    This is the point where your child is able to say, “I may be gay” – well, at least to himself or herself. While this revelation may be something the individual sees as positive, he or she may still try to hide their being homosexual, seeking to avoid gay behavior and experiencing feelings of self-loathing and alienation.
     
    Eventually, this person seeks out other gay people and starts to experiment with emotional and sexual relationships with others (One challenge of this stage is how to deal with falling in love with someone who isn’t gay). Eventually, the individual decides to disclose his or her homosexual nature to trusted individuals, friends or family. However, sexual contact without a gay identity or positive socialization may result in stunted emotional development for the individual.
     
    The Coming Out stage is very delicate, but when done correctly with a lot of love and support from friends and family, can be a powerful confidence booster. One dear friend of mine came out last year, to the surprise of absolutely no one, as we had all suspected he was gay for more than a decade.  Still, we felt he needed it; after he came out, he became happier and more comfortable with himself and other people.
     
    4. Pride (Integration of sexuality into self. Capacity for love relationships. Wider self-disclosure and better stigma management)
    At this level, the individual has the confidence to better handle the social prejudices against being gay. He or she is now capable of healthy reciprocation and stability in homosexual relationships. This stage is where some gays take to the streets wearing rainbow colors and proclaiming their emancipation to the world, but that really depends on the individual; some will be content with blogging about it or even just being able to come to church without feeling that God will strike them dead for being gay. Sometimes, this is also the stage where “us versus them” or “straight versus queer” attitude surfaces, as some of the anger from the previous emotional phases is redirected, prompting them to say, “Who are other people to judge who or what I am?”

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