Iya Villania Doesn’t Have A Yaya Per Child—Here’s Her Secret To Parenting Four Kids
Most parents don’t ask fellow parents “how do you do it?” when they know that a family has helpers who help out in managing a home and a family. Especially celebrities whom the public assumes have it easy because they are perceived to have much support because of their income.
But as Iya Villania proves, that isn’t always the case. Now that she has four kids, she doesn’t have helpers or yayas looking after each child. She also did not add to her household staff.
“Si Primo at si Leon, madali na lang. As we would add to the family, some people also add helpers, Iya said in a digital media conference for GMA’s Eat Well, Live Well a 10-minute cooking show, which she hosts with Chef Jose Sarasola.
“Ang nangyari, what I love about our set-up now is hindi kami nagdagdag ng helpers, reported by Pep.ph. Rather than hiring more help, her older sons’ development helped her manage their home and family.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“Nadagdagan ang dalawang bata ng responsibilities dahil wala nang masyadong nakatutok sa kanila. They’ve learned to do things on their own in the span of time that Astro arrived, she said.
Some of the things Primo, six-years-old, and Leon, four-years-old have learned to do are dressing up and brushing their teeth. Iya said, “They had to learn how to dress up on their own, to brush their teeth. At saka hindi ko na kailangang kulitin.
She adds, “Hindi yung parang dati na habulan dito, itu-toothbrush ko sila kasi ayaw nila. Dati, habulan kapag maliligo.
That must be the best part for any parent: independence as well as intrinsic motivation or kusa.
“Ngayon gets na nila, and they have become so much easier to handle kaya yun ang gusto ko sa nangyari, Iya said.
Independence in young kids
When the kids are young and dependent on their parents for everything, such as in the age of Alana, who is two-years-old and of course baby Astro, parents can lose sight of the bigger picture because of the daily work of taking care of a child.
Teaching children to be independent isn’t just to help parents manage the home and family better, it’s also part of healthy child development. The Montessori method in particular, encourages age-appropriate independence.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
“I know that some people think apat na ang anak, ‘Paano? Posible ba iyon? Hindi ba medyo riot iyon?’ But you know what, honestly, it was really hectic in the first two to three years of a child, she said.
Iya adds, “Si Primo at si Leon ngayon, sobra na silang dali na i-handle. I don’t even include them when I think about riot dito sa bahay. Kapag nagkaka-riot, puwede ko na silang pagsabihan.
When it comes to her two younger kids who are naturally still dependent on them for everything, Iya says she makes sure to provide them that support they need.
“Si Alana at si Astro, dahil sila yung dalawang maliit ko, sila pa yung dalawang kailangan tutukan. Siyempre, hindi pa sila nakakaintindi so sila yung mas matrabaho.” she said.
Iya added in the press conference that while most assume more kids equates to more work for her and Drew, that wasn’t the case with the Arellanos.
“Nadagdagan kami ng, you’d think, ng hirap; pero actually, nadagdagan din kasi ng responsibility. Mas naging independent din yung dalawang kuya.
She added, “Nandito na nga ako ulit sa stage na ang cute nila masyado, dagdagan pa natin? she said with a laugh.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Her recent Instagram post showing her kids’ daily riot was captioned with, “My heart just can’t take it!!! What precious gifts they are to Drew and I and to each other. But Lord, please don’t make me want more children!Iya also reminded parents of the beauty of parenting young children despite the work it entails.
“To the mamas and papas out there… cherish all those little moments and try to catch them too if you can. These are the moments you’ll always want to replay, she wrote.
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