Here's What Jolina Magdangal Told Her Son Pele When He Asked Her 'Mama, Are You An Icon?'by Judy Santiago Aladin .
With her colorful outfits and trendy hairstyles back in the 90s, we know very well that Jolina is an icon.
"'Yung pagiging icon, nahihiya ako," said Jolina, who has been in the showbiz industry for 32 years. "So kapag sinasabihan ako ng icon, [parang] 'Nakakahiya sa mga totoong icon!'"
The former child actors who are now moms shared that although they spent most of their childhood days being in a controlled environment as celebrities, both of them agree that they realized they did not missed out a lot on life.
Camille said she's okay that she didn't experience partying unlike her friends who did. Jolina continued, "Masarap ang magkwento sa anak. Minsan nga nagtanong yung anak ko, 'Mama, are you an icon?'
She added, "Parang hindi ko masabi sa anak ko, 'Yes, I'm an icon with a butterfly!" Nahihiya ako kasi pag nakita naman niya, di naman pala."
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Jolina and Camille said they prefer their children find out for themselves that they are indeed icons, rather than telling them.
"Kasi nakita niya nung nag-aayos kami ng bahay dati ang daming VHS, nagtataka siya bakit ang daming picture, poster. 'Pag nasa labas nag-papapicture daw, hinahayaan ko na lang siyang isipin na ganun. Kasi nahihiya ako talaga sa anak ko na sabihin sa kanyang, 'I'm an icon, anak."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Camille felt the same when she asked her kids to watch her iconic movie, Sarah: Ang Munting Prinsesa, saying they are too young to understand what acting is like.
Jolina realized why they feel weird watching their movies with their family, "Para pag nagalit tayo alam talaga nilang galit at hindi umaacting!"
Jolina as a wife: 'Submissive ako'
Camille got into the details on how Jolina has been keeping her married life private despite her celebrity status.
Jolina said, "Sa asawa, ayoko ng confrontation, si Mark kasi tahimik lang na tao at mahaba ang pasensya. Nagkasundo kami na walang bangayan, hindi kasi ako sanay na ganun."
She added, "Bilang asawa, pwede kong sabihin siguro na submissive ako, di ko sinasadya eh, automatic siya eh, pero di din to the point na, "lahat nalang."
"Maganda kay Mark, hindi siya nag-ta-take advantage na, 'Ah sige, sumusunod lang naman 'to eh. Bibigyan niya talaga ako ng chance ng 'Ano yung tingin mo dito?'
Jolina pointed out, she learned to trust Mark to make decisions for their family because some of her choices didn't pan out well. "Minsan nag-ba-base ako sa emotions, siguro dahil maaga tayo sa industriya, 'Ano kayang sasabihin ng iba?, may mga ganun pa rin ako."
Jolina as an inspiration
Camille praised Jolina for being very real and authentic. "From the start, what you see is what you get, at hanggang ngayon na nanay na po ako, may asawa, what you see is what you get."
She shared where she finds inspiration to continue in her craft, "Sa ngayon, gusto ko pa rin maging purpose doon sa mga nag-look up sa akin dati, na alam kong iba na ang gusto nila, pero alam ko na baka anak na nila na na-inspire sila sa mga magulang nila dahil napanood tayo, yun yung pwede nating gawing purpose, yung makatulong pa rin tayo sa damdamin nang di natin alam ano yung nararamdaman ng mga nanonood sa atin."ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
How much of our past should we share with our kids
Jolina and Camille's conversation reminds us parents about the stories from the past that we want to share with our children. Probably there is a lot that we want them to know about our achievements when we were still childless and free. But we also have stories that we'd rather just keep mum about, even if they are becoming more and more curious about life and adult things.
According to the Center for Parenting Education, before sharing stories to your kids, especially teens, about your past, you may want to consider these three things first:
- Is what you're going to tell them will make them feel safe?
- Will it help them formulate good values and fair judgment?
- No matter where the conversation goes, will you support them?
When your child finds out something about your past that is among the things you weren't proud of, here are some tips to get through the conversation:
- Find out what they know and the source
- Tell them only the facts and don't lecture them
- Highlight the differences between then and now, and turn it into a teaching moment for both of you
Before you share something about your past with your child, you should first be clear on what your objective is. Where is the conversation headed? If the conclusion isn't clear to you, then it will also just confuse your child.
If you find the need to confess something about your past, it's best to do it with a professional or your spouse.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
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