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  • 'Magic Words Like Please and Thank You' Must Be Learned at Home, Say Education Professionals

    It's important to teach kids good values even before they start schooling .
    by Lei Dimarucut-Sison .
'Magic Words Like Please and Thank You' Must Be Learned at Home, Say Education Professionals
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  • We've heard it said before. A child's first school is the home, and his parents are his first teachers. The most basic and important lessons in life — among them, good behavior and values — are learned at home, which are then honed and reinforced in school. But it seems times are changing, according to this school principal from Quezon City.

    Noemi Moncada, a principal at Lagro National High School, laments the fact that not only do parents expect teachers to fulfill the parental duties of teaching their kids moral values, but they also blame the school when their kids get into trouble. 

    "Dito po sa paaralan, itinuturo namin ang wastong pag-uugali. Pero dumating po sila [students] meron na po silang nakasanayan sa inyo. Kami mismong mga guro, sinasagot-sagot nila," she told TV Patrol.

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    Division superintendent Dr. Florante Vergara of DepEd Santiago City in Isabela wrote a letter for parents where he urged parents to teach their children good manners and show respect to others. The text of his letter reads:

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    "We would like to remind you that magic words such as hello, please, you're welcome, I'm sorry, and thank you, all begin to be learned at home. 

    "It's also at home that children learn to be honest, to be on time, diligent, show friends their sympathy, as well as show utmost respect for their elders and all teachers.

    "Home is also where they learn to be clean, not talk with their mouths full, and how/where to properly dispose of garbage.

    "Home is also where they learn to be organized, to take good care of their belongings, and that it's not OK to touch others.

    "Here at school, on the other hand, we teach language, math, history, geography, physics, sciences, and physical education.

    We only reinforce the education that children receive at home from their parents."

    "Ang values ay hindi itinuturo, 'yan ay nakukuha, nagagaya, natututunan. Kaming mga guro ay nahihirapan kapang ang mga bata ay may kinasanayan na sa bahay na masasamang ugali," Moncada added.

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    In his interview with TV Patrol, Dr. Vergara expressed dismay about the behavior of many of their students, hence his letter.

    "Halos wala na silang paggalang sa authorities in spite sa mga advice na binibigay sa kanila, wala pa rin kaya naisipan kong gumawa ng ganoon," he said.

    DepEd Undersecretary Annalyn Sevilla lauded Dr. Vergara's call and expressed her support. "The Department of Education wants to maintain a happy and healthy learning environment at iyan po ay hindi magiging magic o instant, kelangan po ng tulong ng mga magulang," she urged.

    USec Sevilla urged parents to cooperate and not to take offense on this important issue that Dr. Vergara pointed out for the sake of their children.

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    Good values begin at home

    As a popular saying goes, "values are caught, not taught." A child will learn and emulate his parents' actions more than their words, so it's important to act, speak, and live the way we want our kids to behave. Here are a few things they need to learn from us.

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    Model empathy

    Empathy is putting yourself in another's shoes. It is one of the key traits that teaches one to be kind and be considerate of others' feelings. When you treat your spouse, your child, and members of the household kindly, and are careful not to do anything to hurt them deliberately, you are modeling this behavior.

    Speak with caution

    More than just knowing to use "please," "thank you," and "I'm sorry," to people who matter to you, your child also notices how you speak to others: your helper, your neighbors, and people in authority. Do you use a tone that is respectful and considerate, or do you let your temper get the better of you? Your child will pick up your example and likely behave the same way, so be cautious at all times.

    Correct lovingly

    Your child won't acquire good behavior overnight — it takes months and years of teaching, reminding, and correcting. There may be times you will feel exasperated because your efforts seem futile, but take heart. When your child slips up, remember to correct him with compassion so he knows that despite his mistake, he is loved. 

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