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  • Your Child Might Be An Introvert If He Is Showing These 7 Signs

    Does your little one seem to enjoy spending time by himself and get overly tired out by social events?
    by Kate Borbon .
Your Child Might Be An Introvert If He Is Showing These 7 Signs
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  • Introversion is a personality type we hear about a lot, but also one which not all of us may understand that well. Verywell Mind says that although it is relatively recognizable, there are still a lot of misconceptions about it. For example, many seem to think that when a person is introverted, they are either shy or anti-social. However, it is important to know that these two things are different from what being an introvert is.

    When it comes to introversion, it is helpful to look back at the research made by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. He has described an introvert as a “person whose interest is generally directed inward toward his own feelings and thoughts.” Introverts are not necessarily shy, but they can be reserved, preferring to put time into contemplating their own thoughts. They usually find it difficult to adjust to social situations and may also be more inclined to stay quiet.

    On the other end of the spectrum, Jung illustrates an extrovert as someone “whose attention is directed toward other people and the outside world.” Extroverts are usually more outgoing and replenish their energy by participating in social settings.

    That said, Jung also noted that no one is wholly introverted or extroverted, but people do tend to be more inclined towards one.

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    How to tell if your child is an introvert or not

    It is possible that your child is beginning to show signs of either introversion or extroversion at a young age. According to Dr. Marti Olsen Laney, writer of The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child, a child may manifest those signs as early as four months of age.


    An introvert does not talk much

    The Center for Parenting Education writes that introverts commonly “prefer internal thinking as a way to cope with the world.” In other words, they may be more comfortable with keeping their thoughts to themselves, mulling silently to themselves and processing the things going on around them, rather than expressing themselves verbally in the way that extroverts might. Introverted kids prefer to quietly sit back, listen, and take in what’s going on, as they contemplate about how they will interact later on.

    Introverts prefer solo activities

    You might notice that your child seems to enjoy playing by himself rather than joining other kids. This could mean that he is more comfortable in situations where he is by himself or with kids he knows extremely well. Introverts tend to avoid large social gatherings, and when they do socialize, they prefer to be with a small group of people whom they are genuinely close to and comfortable with.

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    Introverts get tired or irritable after social events

    Social situations are energy consuming for introverts. Since they derive energy from focusing on themselves and spending time alone, being around too many people for too long can prove to be too much for them to handle. They may also tend to close up and stay quiet when they are with people they are unfamiliar with. Similarly, not having the chance to spend time alone after a tiring day may cause them to have a meltdown.

    Introverts become energetic after spending time alone

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    Alone time is crucial for every introvert — it is when they are most able to reflect quietly and recharge, and do things that they find fun and replenishing, such as playing alone, reading, or watching TV. You will notice that after you allow your introverted child some time to be by themselves, he will be much more energetic and in a good mood.

    A child who is an introvert can be creative

    Author and lecturer Susan Cain says in her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking introverts prefer to work in solitude, and this solitude can be “a catalyst to innovation.” It can manifest in a variety of ways — maybe you find that your child has been creating a narrative about his toys, or writing poems or stories, or even designing his own ingenious invention.

    According to author Susan Cain, introverts' tendency to prefer solitude can be a way for them to exercise their creativity into different kinds of innovative works.
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    Introverts are curious but cautious

    Introverts’ tendency towards self-reflection and quiet contemplation does not mean that they completely shut out the outside world; in fact, they are naturally curious, according to Jean Granneman, writer of the book The Secret Lives of Introverts. Introverts prefer to observe, instead of readily jumping into interaction. Another common characteristic of introverts is they pour a lot of time into thinking and considering different factors, which can mean that they take too long before actually acting.

    Introverts may be hesitant to try out new things

    Hans Eysenck, a psychologist from the 1960s, studied the differences between extroverts and introverts. Eysenck theorized that extroverts needed more stimulation from the external world to feel much more awake, while introverts were easily over-stimulated.

    Extroverts may tend to be more welcoming to experiencing risks and challenges and even thrive on them, while introverts might be more quickly overwhelmed by these, especially by certain changes that they feel are causing intrusions into the routine they have gotten accustomed to. If you observe that your child is having difficulty dealing with or accepting changes, it can be a sign they are an introvert.

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