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‘Secret Lang Natin Ito,’ And Other Red Flag Statements You Should Warn Your Child About

Encourage your child to confide in you when they hear any of these statements from “trusted people.”
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As parents, our primary instinct is to protect our children from the world's dangers and uncertainties. It's a natural impulse rooted in our love and care for our little ones. However, it's equally important to equip our children with the knowledge and skills they need to protect themselves, especially when we're not around.

Jess, a child therapist who features parenting-related content talked about this on her Instagram, nurturedfirst.

Jess acknowledges that such conversations can be hard for parents to have with their kids because “they don’t want to scare their children. And, I get it. Our kids are innocent and precious and the last thing we want to do is make them feel like the world is a bad and scary place.” But it’s an essential skill that we need to impart to our kids.

She further said that it is our responsibility to ensure that our kids can protect themselves. “AND - at the same time, we want to protect them. We want them to learn that their no means no. We want them to be able to identify red flags. We want them to always come to us if they are struggling.”

Identifying red flags

Jess points out that there are certain statements a trusted person should never say to your child. Recognizing these red flags can help your child stay safe and encourage them to confide in you, no matter who the person involved may be. Here are some of the key statements to be aware of:

"This will be our little secret, don't tell your parents."

Or: “Secret natin ito. Huwag mo sasabihin sa nanay o tatay mo.”

When someone encourages your child to keep secrets from you, it raises a significant red flag. This person is aware that you, as a parent, would disapprove of the secret, possibly because it's harmful or goes against your family's values. Encouraging secrecy can also confuse your child about where their loyalty should lie. Most concerning of all, it can conceal abuse, as the abuser exploits the child's innocence, preventing them from seeking help early on. It's crucial to foster an environment where children feel safe discussing anything with their parents.

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Other similar statements could include:

  • “Huwag ka magsusumbong sa magulang mo.”
  • “Atin-atin lang ito, huwag mo sasabihin sa iba.”

"You will get in trouble if you tell anyone what happened."

Or: "Mapapahamak ka kung sasabihin mo sa iba ang nangyari."

Any statement that borders on a threat or intimidation is a clear red flag. A person genuinely concerned about your child's well-being should never resort to threats, even if they claim it's a joke. Children should always feel safe to share their experiences without fear of repercussions.

Other similar statements could include:

  • “Lagot ka sa akin if malaman ng iba.”
  • “Hindi na tayo bati if sasabihin mo sa iba ang nangyari.”

"You need to look at these pictures – if the pictures make you uncomfortable."

Or: "Tingnan mo muna itong mga pictures  – sabihin mo sa akin kung hindi ka kumportable."

Encouraging a child to view pictures that make them uncomfortable is another alarming sign. If the images are genuinely harmless, they should not elicit discomfort. This statement is manipulative and can lead to emotional distress or exploitation.

Aside from showing photos, this can also include showing other types of content (such as videos, or music), adding or talking to the child inappropriately in social media groups or even chats.

Other similar statements could include:

  • “I’ll add you in this chat. If uncomfortable ka na, tell me lang.”
  • “Panoorin mo this video, huwag mo nalang tapusin if hindi kaya."

As parents, it's our duty to protect and educate our children about potential risks and red flags they might encounter in their lives. While it's natural to want to shield them from harm, it's equally important to empower them to recognize and respond to troubling situations. By being aware of the statements and behaviors that a trusted person should never exhibit, we can take steps to ensure our children's safety and maintain open communication channels with them. Ultimately, fostering trust and a strong parent-child bond is crucial in keeping our children safe in an ever-changing world.

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