5 Things Stay-at-home Moms Want You to KnowWe wish you didn't think we don't contribute to the family funds.CREATED WITH BDO SME LOAN
Running a household is a tedious and serious 24/7 job. But moms do not really go around telling everybody that the job is hard. Motherhood may be challenging, but we wouldn't change it for the world.
Unfortunately, no matter how much effort we exert for the family, our parenting style or our choices for the family are never safe from criticisms—especially for stay-at-home moms. It's a common misconception that we have it easy. But in reality, there is more to it than meets the eye.
Some stay-at-home moms are entrepreneurs too, which means we're raising our kids, keeping the home clean, and trying to raise money—all at the same time.
Together with several moms like us who juggle business and family responsibilities, we've come up with a list of things we wish everyone knew.
Everything we do follows a schedule, so a miss on a task means double-time
As a stay-at-home mompreneur, we value well-planned days and schedules. Being organized is a great weapon especially if we want to get things done around the house while we manage a business.
According to Mommy Amalia*, who owns a food manufacturing business, without an organized schedule, you can easily lose track of the things you need to do, whether it be anything for the house or the business.
Attending to the needs of our children and keeping the house in order are not just physically taxing; they also require a mom's full attention and time.
We wish you didn't think we don't contribute to the family funds
Another common misconception when you're a stay-at-home mom is that your only job is to raise the kids, clean the house, and spend your husband's paycheck. But in reality, multi-tasking is our specialty—we can take care of the family's needs and at the same time earn a living. By running a business, stay-at-home moms are able to set aside a good chunk of money reserved for the rainy days—during emergencies or when the husband's salary is delayed.
Mommy Amalia also believes stay-at-home moms are as capable as other full-time working moms when it comes to raising money for the family. The only difference is that we manage our businesses from home.
We are some of the most patient women you'll meet
All moms are incredibly patient; it's one of the most necessary traits anyone has to have if they want to be parents. Dealing with our kids' tantrums and homework plus interacting with buyers and doing the housework require a lot of patience.
We can get a job if we wanted to
There is no one way to raise a family, and there are many factors as to why a woman chooses to be a stay-at-home mom. Some moms come to a point when they have to give up their well-paying jobs to remain at home and raise the kids. It's not as bad as it sounds, because raising a family is fulfilling work in itself. Stay-at-home moms are very much capable of anything, including running a successful business while attending to the family's needs.
We lose our confidence, too
Since we are always home and we don't need to dress up most of the time, it can take a toll on how we feel about ourselves. But we know it's still important to try not to lose our self confidence just because most of the time, the only people we interact with are the kids.
When you are a stay-at-home mom, you also learn to appreciate all those little things your family does for you. Small compliments about the meals we prepared mean a lot. Even the simplest hugs and kisses can make our hearts swell.
Working stay-at-home moms (like any other mom in the world), are practically the wonder women of our time. They take good care of the household and the kids, but what's more amazing is that they can manage a business, too.
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*Mommy Amalia runs a food manufacturing business that she started in 1987. She has over 10 people working for her; helping her prepare and distribute processed food products in convenience stores, office canteens, and school cafeteria. Her business produces quality dimsum products made out of 50-80 kilos of ground pork six times a week, earning her P250,000 a month.