Delamar Arias on How She Makes Sure Her Kids Grow Up SafeThe DJ and host reveals the little things she does to keep her children safe—giving herself some peace of mind.CREATED WITH FORD
For 20 years, Delamar Arias's voice was the first thing you heard in the morning. Her banter with her co-host on popular FM radio show "The Morning Rush" entertained motorists who drove to work and commuters who prepared themselves for the daily grind.
With the birth of her first child Cooper a few years ago, she announced her departure from the show to concentrate on being a full-time mom. But Delamar missed radio life and went back to the booth last year as one of the co-hosts of "The Mother Show," where, instead of musing about random issues, she exchanges anecdotes on motherhood with fellow DJs and moms.
Now a mother of three (Cooper, 6; Tyler, 2; and Harper, 1), Delamar often discloses nuggets of wisdom on how to deal with all the curveballs that motherhood throws. Here, the celebrity mom lets us in on how she tries to keep her kids safe in any situation:
Keep it real.
"I can't shield them from the world and its dangers, so I expose them to it and tell them what can happen in a situation and the consequences," says Delamar. For her, the key is to arm her kids with tools for making good decisions when she isn't around to protect them. "I teach my kids what not to touch or what not to do.
"If I deprive them of doing something but don't [give] them a reason why they shouldn't do it, they'll do it anyway when I'm not around. I want them to understand why they shouldn't do something when I'm gone."
Limit internet exposure.
"Gadgets won't keep your children safe. For example, YouTube works on algorithms—one seemingly harmless word can lead you to a video that's inappropriate for kids." To work around this, Delamar limits screen time, allowing her eldest child to spend just one hour on a gadget and only after he's done his homework. She also strictly monitors which videos Cooper can watch and warns him about the effects that playing with gadgets for an extended period can have on his brain.
Delamar is also careful about sharing too much on social media. "I want to share all these wonderful moments with my children, but I'm [also] scared of opening them up to the public," she says. "When a child is famous because of social media, people will always come up to him or her and ask to take pictures, and I don't know what that will do to a child's brain. I also don't want to expose them to possible bullying because of what I've shared on social media. There is a limit to how much of my kids that I show the world."
Always practice car safety.
Car safety is one of Delamar's biggest concerns, particularly now that she has three young kids of varying ages. Delamar's view on road and car safety makes her the perfect choice to be part of Ford Philippines' family safety advocacy. It emphasizes the dangers of distracted driving among parents, as well as the advantages of having a safe and reliable car with safety features that allow families to get to their destinations safely. This advocacy also highlights how Ford Philippines' Driving Skills for Life (DSFL) program is helping educate drivers to be road safety advocates. "With DSFL, I learned how important it is to stay alert on the road, because it is with the littlest things that you do behind the wheel that causes horrible road accidents," she says.
"Car seats are non-negotiable. I have one for each of my kids, befitting their ages to make sure that they are safe while they’re on the road with me," she says. "Being part of the Ford family also allowed me to learn more about their Driving Skills for Life program, which taught me that car seats have expiration dates: six years from the date of manufacturing. The plastic ages and becomes brittle over the years, especially if you leave the seats in the car under the sun, and this will not protect your child."
Delamar also says that it's important to drive a car that's equipped with advanced safety features and functions that enable safe journeys, whether driving within the city or on road trips.
Get a feel of your surroundings.
"When you're a mom, you always check your surroundings and see what can harm your child." While eating, whether at home or in a restaurant, Delamar makes sure there are plastic forks and knives for her kids to use. While in an unfamiliar place, she always checks for sharp corners and low edges and prevents her kids from running around unsupervised. "There's also no running around if they're holding something sharp," she adds.
Always be engaged.
"It is a tall order, but you need to do it," Delamar emphasizes. "One small mistake can cost you a lot." She always keeps one hand on one child, an arm around another, and an eye trained on the third child, especially when in a public space. "Being watchful and ever-present when you're with your kids has always worked for me. So far, so good."