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Elisse Joson Gets Real About Feeling Overwhelmed With Mommy Duties: 'Iniisip Mo Pa Lang, Nakaka-Stress Na'
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  • Motherhood is a source of immense joy and fulfillment for those who choose it. But in between those moments of rainbows and sunshine, heavy pouring tasks and bolts of doubts can dampen a mom's spirit

    As a first-time mom, Elisse Joson is no longer a stranger to this feeling. The celebrity mom talked about feeling overwhelmed with mommy duties in her latest vlog, which is also the first episode of what she calls "Mommy Diaries."

    She was not afraid to admit that her parenting journey is a far cry from being a breezy walk in a wonderful park saying, "Share ko sa inyo. Today, I am stressed. Sobrang stressed ko. Alam niyo kung bakit? Kapag mommy ka na, dami mong ginagawa 'di ba? Dami mong iniisip."

    She adds, "Hindi pa nga ginagawa eh. Iniisip mo pa lang Nakaka-stress na."
    Elisse then said that she doesn't want to entrap herself in a cycle of second-guessing whether she can meet the great demands of motherhood. Elisse and her partner McCoy de Leon are parents to Felize McKenzie, who recently celebrated her first birthday.


    Read also: Felize Celebrates First Birthday With A Snow White Themed Party

    "But I realized. This is not how I'm supposed to be doing this. Because, ako 'yung talo." Elisse went on to paint a picture of how it is to be dealing with mom overwhelm. "Alam niyo 'yung feeling na ang dami niyong dapat gawin. Nasa utak niyo, nagpa-pile up, patong-patong. Tapos hindi mo alam kung may enough time ka ba para gawin 'yon."

    Read also: Real Moms On Surviving The Pressure Of Motherhood

    It's no question that Elisse is not alone in this struggle. Many moms, if not all, have probably felt like they're always playing catching-up with a never-ending list of things to be done.

    Coping With Stress As A New Mom

    We all have our own ways of coping with stress when we're near the point of combustion due to task overload. For Elisse, she does this by, first, taking the time to pause and confront her negative emotions.

    She shares, "Kaya ni-record ko to kasi gusto ko ngang mag-pause lang. Gusto kong ilabas 'yung nararamdaman ko. Because once I let out and say out loud, and say out loud my feelings, mas nakakatulong sakin. Mas nababawasan 'yung stress feeling."

    This mindful practice of taking a break and acknowledging her emotions help Elisse to resolve the overwhelming feeling. "Now I know I have to clear my head, and then that's when I'll figure it out and organize everything that I need to get done."

    If you also find yourself getting lost in the pile of things you need to do, here are more helpful tips to get you back on track:

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    Ask or accept help (no, it won't make you any less of a mom).

    There's an unspoken rule imposed by society that moms should master the art of multitasking or be a superhero who can always save the day. But even superheroes have their sidekicks. Re-assess the things on your plate to avoid the risk of biting more than you can chew and share the load when needed.

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    Practice time blocking.

    It is said that this is the best way to avoid feeling overwhelmed with the tasks at hand. As the name suggests, time blocking is the act of strictly allotting a chunk of your time in a day doing only one specific task. Consider time blocking as the opposite of multitasking.

    Read more about time blocking and why it can be more effective than multitasking here.

    Remember that you're only human.

    Each mom is a "Wonderwoman" in their own rights. And while it's no doubt that every mother is an extraordinary mom, no one is perfect. Putting yourself on the pedestal and taking in unnecessary pressure to deliver perfection consistently can only do harm and no good.

    Besides, overthinking how to do things flawlessly takes away all the fun and happiness in parenting. At the end of the day, your children would always consider you the best by simply showing up and being present.

    We're always rooting and cheering for you, moms!

    Welcome to Real Parenting, a space where parents can share the joys, pain, and the mess of parenthood. Want to get something off your chest? Share your parenting journey? Email us at smartparentingsubmissions@gmail with the subject "Real Parenting." Click here to read more 'Real Parenting' stories. 

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