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The Multitasking Groom Attending An Online Class Is A Dad Of Two
PHOTO BY TONTON PAPA
  • You might have seen the trending video where a groom was caught attending an online class at his very own wedding reception.

    While most people laud him for being a multitasker, people were quick to judge that he should’ve asked to excuse himself from the class, or say that he just did it for the views.

    In an exclusive interview with Smart Parenting, the groom, Ronald Carlton Papa Tan, who is also a dad of two, shares, that’s just how he rolls. He’s not called 'MultitasKING' for nothing.

    We asked him the tough question: are you also a multitasker or a present father when it comes to your kids?

    His many hats

    We asked Tonton what he is currently engaged with right now, and he went on enumerating the many roles that he fulfills: he is a company owner, a PRC licensed real estate broker, a real estate appraiser, a real estate environmental planner, a real estate consultant, a law student, a husband, and a dad of two girls.

    “I’m a multitasker in everything – lalo na sa family. Kasi I make sure ang family mabigyan ng time. Although I own a company, busy pa rin pala kasi pag 8 hours ang work mo as an employee, fixed na yun. In business, if you want to earn more. It's more than 8hrs, even weekends, demanding siya. I have to make time.”

    Parents could relate, that sometimes 24 hours is not enough to do everything. We asked him how he does it – juggling all these roles. His answer was quick: “I have 8-12 errands a day, pero I still have time to do TikTok.”

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    Tonton is currently on his second year in law school. “May profession na ako, may company na ako. Pero pumasok ako sa law school kasi environmental planning and real estate consulting is really about laws. So naisip ko to better serve our clients, kailangan may background ako sa law, it’s an advantage. Kaya pinagbutihan ko and talagang focused ako sa learning.”

    His secret

    This 41-year-old dad from Baguio, who was also the man behind the Tank House, shared, “As a parent inalam ko talaga ang importance ng technology. So gagawan ko ng paraan na dun sa work ko, I will have meetings and appointments na online para may time ako para sa mga kids ko.”

     

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    Tonton’s wife, Crizante, helps him out with their company and also started a barter community in Baguio City. They have two daughters: Africa Dnae, 8, and Alodia Mrae, 2.

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    He revealed that what helps him is creating a to-do list everyday. He would list all of his errands on his phone, and he will power through the day to achieve everything on the list.

    “Kahit weekend, nagsswimming sila, pero ako may kameeting ako, may kausap [sa phone], pag natapos yung kausap ko, andyan na ako, very present na.”

    Despite the comments on his viral video, he emphasized the importance of being a present husband and parent.

    “Nung pumasok ako sa law school, dito ko nakita yung importance ng online learning kasi narealize ko nung face-to-face ang law school, you’ll have to travel, stay there 3-4 hrs sa klase, usually gabi yun. Wala ka na ngang time as a parent sa umaga because you’re working, wala ka pang time sa family.”

    He emphasizes that the perks of online learning for him is giving his wife and children sense of security and peace that the man of the family is within their reach.

    “Kaya naipakita dun sa video na kahit nga yung sa kasal pwede pala pagsabayin what more yung ordinary day, ordinary time na they need your presence.”

     

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    "In a day, I usually have 5-12 errands or appointments in a day. Pag nasunod ko yung schedule, magugulat ka may enough time pa ako to jog in the afternoon and do work out for 1-2 hours. Tapos I have extra time to do TikTok to unwind. Importante ang mental health sa tao. Kung natutuwa ako, I have enough energy to do my work the following day. So madami palang extra time basta i-arrange mo.”

    Tips on how to become a more present parent

    While he acknowledges that the nature of his work is more flexible than others dads, he believes that there’s a common ground.  He shares some tips on how parents can be more present to their kids, without sacrificing their personal aspirations.

    1. Maximize technology.

    Tonton highlighted that dads must be able to harness the technology that is available today to make sure that they can communicate to their children, whenever, wherever.

    "To be a more present parent, you have to adapt and learn the environment and use technology. Sabi nila you can’t teach old dogs new tricks, pero inaaral ko kasi it will be a way for me to have time for my family. Ngayon at least may peace of mind yung mga bata."

    2. There’s always extra time.

    As a man who is wearing many hats, he says that time management is something that needs to be learned. “Aside from my job, may mga tinutulungan pa ako sa lawsuits nila, syempre sa business ko real estate, nagaattend ako ng court cases sa mga finile ko ng kaso so kumakain pa yun ng time. But I still have time to do other things.” 

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    While time management cannot be learned overnight, everyone is a work in progress.

    3. Make time for your mental health.

    Watching TikTok and creating videos keep Tonton creative and entertained as well. And he learned about it through his kids. “Na-realize ko it can keep my mental health [in check] and make me unwind na minsan naeexcite akong tapusin yung trabaho ko para may time ako for the kids." 

    4. Keep the child in you.

    “Kasi ang mga tao pag nagmamature, iniisip nila, di na ako pwedeng maging bata. Masyado na maingat sa buhay, stiff. So nababawasan yung time nila to enjoy, nawawala yung creativeness. Pero if you keep the child in you, kasi ang mga bata laging optimistic, feeling nila lahat kaya nilang gawin,” Tonton explains.

    Because he kept the child in him, Tonton shares, he was able to make the trending creations called the Tank House and Jeepito. "If you keep the child in you, [it] makes you realize na you have more than enough time sa buhay mo.” 

    5. Make family your #1 priority.

    When asked what’s his top priority among the things that he is juggling, “Family talaga. Sila yung driving force. Sila yung battery to drive. Sila yung makina ko. Looking forward to a happy family makes you productive, I may not be perfect but so far we are okay.”

    Takeaway 

    The video landed him on several interviews and news features. Tonton hopes that it sends a positive message to its viewers, especially the kids. 

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    "I have a daughter na nagpopost na din sa socmed, ang daming mga bata makikita mo sa tiktok, mine-memorize talaga nila yung mga sayaw-sayaw nila or mga acting nila sa TikTok because gusto nilang magtrending, gusto nila sumikat. Pero nakakalimutan nila yung studies nila.”

    If there’s one thing that Tonton hopes people to see and learn from his wedding video that has gone viral, it’s that prioritizing your studies can also be a trending topic.

    “Pero dun sa video ko ng pag-mu-multitask, napakita na pwede ka rin pala mag-trending na ang pina-prioritize mo is yung studies mo. Sana makita ng younger generations that prioritizing studies can also trend!”

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