“I have lots of struggles but I try not to bring myself down with it. Para sa akin, I’m really just proud of every milestone of Peanut.”
Addressing the common doubts that plague many first-time moms, Jessy revealed her own uncertainties following childbirth, acknowledging the daunting task of adjusting to parenthood. “After I gave birth, talagang I have doubts. And even while I was pregnant, I was so nervous na parang, ‘Kaya ko ba ito?’ Kasi, I’m a first-time mom eh, but you know, totoo pala iyon, you just go with it.
However, she emphasized the importance of adapting and learning, saying, “Tsaka iba-iba naman babies eh, iba-iba din ang parents, so kailangan mo rin makibagay sa anak mo. And so far naman, nagwowork diba. So ang doubts, struggles, dadating talaga iyon. But you know, ang importante is ikaw, you just go through with it. You just learn lessons and alagang worth the experience diba.”
Jessy: “You will never be able to prioritize yourself, magpaka-totoo tayo”
When asked about balancing her roles as a woman and a mother, Jessy answered honestly, “I would be lying if sasabihin ko na napakadali, napakadaling mag-balance ng life, especially kung wife ka na, mother ka na. I’m sure sa mga mommies [dito], sa mga may asawa [dito], sobrang hirap diba?
“Mas lalo na kung ikaw yung klase na mommy na devoted talaga na alagaan yung pamilya mo, and I think halos lahat ng mommies naman ganon. Para sa akin, you don’t use the word balance, you use the word harmony. Kasi you will never be able to prioritize yourself, magpaka-totoo tayo.
“Kahit na pa sabihin ko na, ‘Naku, I will prioritize myself, kailangan maganda ako lagi, kailangan fresh ako lagi,’ it’s gonna be far from the truth. Magpaka-totoo na tayo. Hindi ako fresh lagi, hindi ko ma-prioritize yung sarili ko lagi, but that’s life. And it’s okay.”
Aside from her mommy duties, Jessy also highlighted the significance of quality time with her husband, Luis, and carving out me-time for herself, “Syempre, the whole day I take care of Rosie. And kung may work naman ako, pag-uwi ko ng bahay kailangan ko muna siya bisitahin, kailangan ko siya laruin, bonding. And si Luis of course, binibigyan ko ng time. Nag-de-date kami. We make sure na we have time together as a couple, dapat hindi nawawala iyun.”
“For me, kapag kailangan ko mag-wind down and alone time, I really pray. I’m really thankful, I’m grateful for my family, for the blessings, and itutulog ko nalang. Iyun yung me-time ko.”
Jessy further emphasized, “For me, the word harmony is perfect, because diba, you harmonize everything.You harmonize everything in your life—motherhood, family, beauty, your time alone, your career, everything. And you know, that’s what makes a great life.”
Nevertheless, Jessy reminded other moms the importance of taking care of themselves and making themselves feel good, “You really have to make time for it. Para sa akin, kahit gaano ka ka-busy, I make sure na I take my vitamins, I take care of my skin, I take care of my health by working out, I’m eating healthy. Like what I said, you really have to harmonize everything. That includes your health of course. Your overall well-being. If you are happy with yourself, you are feeling confident and happy, lalabas iyun.”
And speaking of feeling confident and happy, Jessy also addressed the negative reactions she received on her last birthday photoshoot. She said, “Kahit na mommy na ako, minsan may mga times naman na gusto kong maging maganda.
“So talagang may seasons tayo and nagkataon, nung birthday shoot na yun, I wanted to celebrate me, you know, giving myself time to feel beautiful and confident in my own body. Kaya ako nag-post ng ganung photo.”
“Priority ko is my family”
On the topic of her career, Jessy said, “For now, may mga offers naman, pero right now talaga ang priority ko is my family. As of now, maraming endorsement shoots. And si Luis naman, kahit anong gawin ko sa buhay, susuportahan niya ako. Kaya I’m really blessed, sobrang lucky ko talaga, kasi as in all-out support siya kahit anong gusto kong gawin.”
When asked about their baby plans, Jessy answered, “Sana, gusto ko nga lima eh. Sana kaya ko sunod-sunod. Pero syempre may mga seasons tayo in life, so I’m prioritizing this season right now na ang daming blessings so kailangan natin bigyan ng time din.”
Finally, Jessy has this advice for Smart Parenting parents: “Always prioritize your happiness. When you are happy, your family is happy. And para sa akin talaga, there is no such thing as perfect parenting, but there’s always smart parenting.”