After a failed relationship, it can be hard for a couple to be friends again -- harder even to accept a former partner's new love. Settling differences and making peace is difficult to do, but two different yet peaceful homes are the best setup a child in this situation can have when there's a “new mom or dad” in the picture.
Hayley Booth’s 4-year-old daughter Rachel calls two women in her life “Mommy” -- and Hayley is completely okay with that. In a post on Facebook, she wrote about co-parenting in a blended family and how thankful she is for her daughter’s “bonus mommy.”
Often times I have people ask me how my ex, his wife, my husband and I co-parent so flawlessly. My answer is always...
Kids of failed marriages have had nothing to do with their parents splitting, but it’s often the children who experience pain, which they carry even when they are adults. Hayley knew this and continued, “No child deserves to be tossed around back and forth, used as a bargaining chip, or to be put in the middle of any adult drama...Why would we make her life any harder by making her choose which set of parents to love?”
She then openly expressed how grateful she was for Dakota Pitman, her daughter’s “bonus mommy,” for loving Rachel like her own. It’s something only “a very special woman” can do, said Hayley.
“She IS her mommy. She is there for her always, she takes care of her, she plays with her, she teaches her life lessons and how she should behave, she gives her hugs and kisses goodnight, she does everything any mother would do…But most of all she loves her like she is her own.”
Accompanying the post is a photo taken on Rachel’s first day of school. She’s walking down a corridor with both her moms on each side holding her hand. Hayley shared that Dakota has become one of her best friends and has come to rely on her support.