'Motherhood Is Bittersweet': Rica Peralejo Offers Uplifting Message To Moms Doubting Their Worth, Capabilities

"Am I enough?"

"Do I really have what it takes to be a mom?"

"How can I be a perfect parent to my children?"

If at least one of these questions has passed your mind recently, then Rica Peralejo's latest Youtube vlog about motherhood will surely tug at your heartstrings.

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3 H's Of Motherhood

For those who chose it, motherhood is arguably the most fulfilling role a woman can take. But that's not to say that it's an easy task.

Rica points out the three H's that encapsulates what it means to be a mom in her recent vlog. She says being a mom is Hard, Healing, and it is a Holy Calling.

Motherhood is HARD

No one can really put into words how hard being a mom is. From pregnancy, giving birth, caring for a newborn, and looking after your children for the rest of their lives, being a mom requires you to be strong physically and mentally. 

A mom of two boys, Philip and Manu, Rica affirms every mother out there who may be plagued with doubt: "You're not getting it wrong. You're not just being maarte. Motherhood is hard."

"For all the pains and joy of motherhood, it is all worth it. Remember, you're raising world-changers."

She adds, "If you think about it, you have to stretch your uterus, your tummy, and yourself, your heart, your emotions. You have to transform your ways of living just to be able to accommodate this new being into your life."

Rica notes that part of being a mother is to embrace its entirety including those parts which are challenging. She says, "Hindi natin kailangan i-deny sa ating mga sarili na may mga paghihirap na kasama ang pagiging nanay."

Motherhood is HEALING

Rica, who is also one of Smart Parenting's editor-at-large, also notes that it is also in those challenging moments that moms can also find healing.

When moms would feel and tell themselves: "I don't think I'm doing enough," "I'm inadequate," or "I don't think that I'm the perfect mom for this child," Rica hopes that moms would still see how their children still "adores me like no other. This child goes crazy if I'm not around. I am the safe space of my child."

Rica tells moms this love from their children is what will help them realize their full potential as a parent.

She notes, "No one is a perfect parent, but when we allow the love of our children to change us, then it heals us and makes us better parents."

Motherhood is a HOLY CALLING

Rica emphasized that being a mom is not arbitrary, saying, "No one can be the mom of your child. It is a holy calling. This is a set apart role...that is just made for you." That is how important you are, moms and never forget that! 

The celebrity adds that it's no use to feel like 'Hindi ko alam ginagawa ko' or question yourself, 'Tama ba 'tong ginagawa ko?' Because for Rica, as long as you're making time for your children, you're doing good.

Time Is The Most Important Gift Parents Give To Their Children

When it comes to parenting, Rica swears by the saying, "Time is gold."

"As moms, we have to deal with windows—windows of opportunity...When you spend most of it (time) with your children, you feel like you're not accomplishing anything.

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"Pero malalaman mo lang sa huli na ang laki pala nung bagay na naibigay mo just by giving them time...Don't hurry, have an unhurried life. Be present with your kids. When they talk to you, look them in the eye. Kasi nga lahat 'yan lilipas." Because as Rica notes, "Motherhood is bittersweet."

 "No one is a perfect parent, but when we allow the love of our children to change us, then it heals us and makes us better parents."

In the end, Rica left an uplifting message to every mom: "For all the pains and joy of motherhood, it is all worth it. Remember, you're raising world-changers."

For those who are clouded by doubts, questions, and overwhelmed by what seems to be never-ending lists of motherhood duties, Rica hopes that you find motivation by not dismissing the special MOMents "happening in the simplest of your days as moms, caring for her children."

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