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  • 'Single Friends, You'll Have to Deal with Me Sharing Photos of My Kids All The Time'

    With all that’s been said about sharenting, this mom puts it plainly: It’s her social media page, her kids, her rules.
    by Esper Abrajano-Bitare .
'Single Friends, You'll Have to Deal with Me Sharing Photos of My Kids All The Time'
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  • Much has been said about “sharenting” — and no doubt you have at least one friend on social media that does it. It’s when parents share posts about their children on social media platforms, from the moment the child is born, and way before the kid knows how to work Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Sometimes, the kids themselves already have their own digital footprint, courtesy of their parents.

    Admittedly, I’m one such parent and I post on social media as a daily habit. I became a mom when I was 21, and I was too young and too active on social media, if I may say.

    Almost all of my friends and family who have social media presence know my 8-year-old son because I always post about him — his photos, anything funny that he said or did, and anything he has achieved that I am really proud of. When I gave birth to my daughter who is now a year old, I didn’t change a thing — I still shared her photos and videos on social media.

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    I know some people find it irritating when a parent (over)shares anything and everything about their kids. Whether it’s babies, breastfeeding, eating, dancing, awards in school, etc., it annoys them because it’s not relevant to them. Maybe they’re still single and can’t relate, or perhaps they’re just not interested in kids.

    You see, when you become a parent, your world would revolve around your children. Yes, I do have a job, and I still have my friends, but when I became a mom, everything changed. I’m okay leaving for work and going straight home after for five days a week. During the weekends, I enjoy spending time with my children at home rather than spending it outside with friends.

    Since I’m with my children almost all the time, naturally, what I’d share on social media is about them, too. I was also a breastfeeding mama for months, and there’s nothing much to do at 2 a.m. when I need to be awake because my baby needs to feed. I just have my phone with me, that’s all.

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    It’s about sharing your pride and joy with everyone else. Ask any other parent you know: their kids bring them joy, perhaps even the reason to breathe.

    I believe posting videos or pictures of your children online is equivalent to a person posting a photo of his/her new shoes, bag, gadget, travel, life milestone (like getting engaged or married). It’s about sharing your pride and joy with everyone else. Ask any other parent you know: their kids bring them joy, perhaps even the reason to breathe.

    Stop hating on parents who do sharenting. It takes a village to raise a child, and we’re not all about just posting photos. We’re also trying to help each other, share hacks, and whatever works in dealing with nursing, teething, discipline, and more. Instead of complaining, look at it positively. Try to see it from our perspective. You just have to be happy for us —and if you really can’t stand it, there’s the Mute or Unfollow or Unfriend button that you can click.

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    Remember also that parents like me are aware of the dangers lurking online. Posting about our children requires a lot of caution; we parents need to always be aware of who’s going to see or access our kids’ photos. It’s my social media page, and I only add or accept people whom I know personally, so I know who my audience is. I would strongly advise against posting publicly.

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    As a sharenting parent, I am aware that I have the power to shape the online identity of my kids through what I share on social media. I do filter my posts. I don’t post anything humiliating, sensitive, or anything that may harm my kids in the long run. Always remember to be responsible for everything you post about your children. Don’t forget that once you post, it can stay online forever.

    It’s my social media page, my kids, my rules. Take it, deal with it, or unfriend me — that's fine by me, too.

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