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Mom Tells Us the Saddest Comments She Received After Her Post About Time With Kids Went Viral
PHOTO BY Dorcas Lledo Brion/Facebook
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  • Having a baby can be overwhelming especially if you’re two new parents figuring out how to raise a tiny human. It’s going to be months of sleepless nights and it will be a true test of patience, but the moment you get the hang of it, you’ll suddenly realize how fast time passes. One moment, you’re celebrating your baby’s monthly milestones and then the next, she’s a toddler trying to form her first sentence.

    Raisings kids can be tough and it is a battle of wills, but you have to cherish each moment because your children won’t remain children forever. It’s exactly what moved Dorcas Brion, a life coach and mom of two who runs the blog Bibong Pinay, to put into words what every parent feels and share it on her personal Facebook account

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    “It can happen — kasama natin ang mga anak natin, but we are not present,” she shares in an interview with SmartParenting.com.ph via Facebook Messenger. “We need to be intentional when it comes to building memories with our kids. That’s something na hindi kayang bilhin ng pera”

    Originally written in Filipino, the post has been shared more than 213,000 times and has received over 25,000 comments and 198,000 reactions. We have translated it into English with Dorcas’ permission.

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    Take Your Time

    Does she take a long time to finish her ice cream? Eat with her.
    Does she take a long time putting on her shoes? Wait for her.
    Does she take a long time to fall asleep? Lie beside her.
    Does she find it hard to learn the things you teach her? Be patient.
    Does she have an infinite supply of energy? Enjoy it.
    Does she have a lot of stories to tell? Listen to her.


    Take your time because it will not last forever. One day, you will remember these moments and realize how time flies. Cherish every moment she wants to spend with you.

    You will remember every time she wanted to go with you everywhere you went. How she stuck by your side, holding your hand. How she called your name and asked you to carry her. How she couldn’t sleep without seeing your face, or how she would ask you to feed her, play with her, tickle and hug her. How she’ll ask you to read to her, to teach her lessons, and answer her questions.

    Yes, she took up all your time but no matter — give it all to her. Sow the seeds because you will reap the rewards later on.

    One day, you and your child will switch places. She will wait for you and she will not ask you to hurry. She will walk with you and match your strides. She will listen to you, teach you, be patient with you, and take care of you. She will enjoy the moments you spent together and she will shower you with the same amount of love you showed her. She will spend her time with you until your final heartbeat, until the moment you close your eyes — for the last time.

    (Scroll below for the original Filipino text)

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    The post resonated with so many parents, and they filled the comments section. Some working parents expressed their guilt for the lack of quality time with their children. Dorcas, who tried her best to answer every comment, revealed what saddened her were the moms commented how their husbands would prefer to spend more time with their friends, games, or social media than with their children.

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    “Most people see parenting as the mother’s job when God’s design is ‘partnership of both parents.’ Nakakalungkot that most fathers are not present. Pwedeng physically they are there, but they are not engaged,” she says. “Hindi na nakapagtataka kung bakit maraming pagod na ina at asawang babae.”

    But as her essay reminds all parents, it’s never to late to step up and start being there for your children. “Imagine a loving husband and a caring father in the midst of imperfection. That’s not impossible. And tayong mga nanay naman, we learn along the way. So bawi na lang tayo kung may mga pagkukulang.”

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    Take your time

    Matagal siya kumain ng ice cream? Sabayan mo. 
    Matagal siya magsuot ng sapatos? Hintayin mo. 
    Matagal siya makatulog? Samahan mo. 
    Matagal niyang ma-pickup mga tinuturo mo? Tiyagain mo. 
    Matagal maubos energy niya? Enjoyin mo. 
    Matagal siyang magkwento? Pakinggan mo lang.

    Take your time. Kasi hindi forever yan. Isang araw lilingunin mo ang season na ito at sasabihin mong ang bilis lang pala talaga ng panahon, sana sinulit mo ang bawat oras na lagi niyang gustong...

    Sumama sayo..
    Nakadikit sayo..
    Magpakarga sayo..
    Hawak ang kamay mo..
    Tawagin ang pangalan mo..
    Makatulog na ikaw ang huli niyang nakikita.. 
    Magpasubo sayo..
    Makipaglaro sayo..
    Magtanong sayo..
    Nagpapakiliti sayo..
    Magkayakap kayo..
    Magpaturo sayo..
    Magpabasa ng libro.. 
    Ubusin ang oras mo...

    Take your time. Ibuhos mo lang lahat sa kanya ngayon. Magtanim ka sa kanya. Aanihin mo yan balang araw. Isang araw baligtad na. Siya naman ang maghihintay sayo. Hindi ka niya mamadaliin. Sasamahan ka niya, sasabayan, papakinggan, tuturuan, tyatyagain at aalagaan. Eenjoyin ka din niya at ibubuhos niya ang lahat ng pagmamahal at panahon niya sayo hanggang sa huling pagtibok ng puso mo.. hanggang sa huling pagpikit at hindi na pagmulat ng mga mata mo.


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