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  • It's Overwhelming Trying To Be 'Supermom'. A Best-Selling Author Says, 'Just Let Go'

    As a mom, you might be pressured to do everything, but it's okay to let go once in a while.
    by Kitty Elicay .
It's Overwhelming Trying To Be 'Supermom'. A Best-Selling Author Says, 'Just Let Go'
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  • According to a recent survey, working moms take on more responsibilities outside of work compared to their partners. They’re expected to do it all — organizing, reminding, and planning — all while taking care of their kids and nurturing their careers. It can get overwhelming, but Nora Roberts, a best-selling romance author and a mom herself, says it’s okay not to do it all.

    In a viral Twitter thread, Jennifer Lynn Barnes, a mom and young adult author known for her books Raised by Wolves and The Naturals series shared how Nora’s advice changed her view on trying to be a supermom and doing it all. Jennifer shared that she was able to attend a Q&A (question-and-answer) session with Nora, and the best-selling author was asked she balances writing and taking care of the kids.

    Her answer was simple but profound: “The key to juggling is to know that some of the balls you have in the air are made of plastic and some are made of glass.”

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    Jennifer explains Nora’s advice: If you drop a plastic ball, it will bounce — no harm done. But if you drop a glass ball, it will shatter. “That means you have to know which balls are glass and which are plastic and prioritize catching the glass ones,” she writes.

    Of course, Nora wasn’t just talking about one or two balls. Jennifer says she was actually talking about juggling 55 balls. “The balls don’t represent ‘family’ or ‘work.’ There are separate balls for everything that goes into each of those categories,” Jennifer writes in another tweet.

    For example, balls made of glass are the more important responsibilities, whether it’s for your career or family. This includes picking up your kids from school, making sure there’s dinner on the table, or maybe finishing up an important project or attending meetings. Plastic ones can be minor events — a crazy hair day at school or trying to read all your emails.

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    As a mom, you might be pressured to do everything all at once just to keep things afloat. Not being able to do so can make you feel guilty and make you feel like you’re the worst mom ever.

    But Nora’s words imply that you don’t have to give in to that pressure — it’s okay to filter what’s important and let go of the things that are not.

    By prioritizing the balls that are made of glass, you’re also ensuring that your little ones are cared for. So what if she goes to school and her hair is a little messy? As long as you send her to school with a healthy packed lunch and you get to pick her up at school after work, she’ll be all right.

    So what if the house is a mess sometimes? If it means you had to sacrifice cleaning time to ace a presentation and feel satisfied with your work, it might be worth it.

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    “I think about this all the time,” Jennifer writes. “I dropped more than one ball today. It is hard to drop any ball and I hate it! But they were plastic and tomorrow, it will be okay.”

    Everybody drops a ball or two in a day — it’s unavoidable. But what’s more important is understanding that if you want to catch a glass ball, you have to sometimes let the plastic ones go. And that’s fine, momma! You’ll be fine and the kids will be fine. That’s what matters.

     

     

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