Having a toddler in the house again (my daughter is 2 years and 2 months as of this writing) has been full of “ups and downs” – though I like to focus more on the “ups” than the “downs.” Our little girl is adorable at best, and is quite verbal already, i.e. she can speak simple sentences of 3-4 words.
However, there are times when she throws tantrums, much like any other little child. During those occasions, I find it helpful to take deep breaths and try all sorts of ways to calm her down.
Here are other useful tips from real moms on how they handle toddler tantrums:
Danie Sedilla Cruz, media practitioner:
“For my daughters Rainie, 6, and Sunnie, 1.4 years old, "deadma" works best. During their tantrums, we'd ignore them. For those brief moments – we are “unseeing, unhearing and unfeeling” parents.
Often, my daughters throw tantrums when they don't get what they want. Since my husband and I have already drawn the line as to what is and what is not allowed, we know that we wouldn't budge nor bend rules even if one of our kids would act up. When the inevitable happens, we just let them be. We give them their “tantrum” moments. But we also talk to them calmly. We tell them that no amount of crying or screaming would change our minds.
We're also very consistent. Tantrums are dealt with this way every single time. I guess they eventually got the drift. When they realized that they wouldn't be pacified nor consoled, and that tears and energy would just be wasted, they'd stop. Just like that. “Deadma” never fails for us.
Jane Robles, retired optometrist, full-time mom and wife: “My kids Fiona (12), Lance (11) and Ziane (3) are so well-behaved, my husband and I just talk to them and explain why they can't get what they want and they understand. Say, for example, that they want to buy an expensive toy. We distract them by showing them something else, or taking them somewhere else. We also discourage them by pointing out the toy’s flaws, or making up stories that would make them not want the toys anymore.”