Become A Better Parent In 2020: 4 Parenting Styles You Can Adopt For The New YearIt’s best to choose a parenting style that suits your personality and goals.by Kitty Elicay .
4 parenting styles to try on your kids
For so many years, experts have been authoring books and resources that identify different kinds of parenting styles. But because every family is different with unique needs, each type of child-rearing philosophy has advantages and disadvantages that make it ideal for one parent but not for another.
When it comes to raising little kids, it’s best to choose a parenting style that suits your personality and goals. Here are different methods you can consider adopting.
Many experts consider authoritative parenting as the healthiest and most effective parenting style. It is a blend (and the right balance) of authoritarian and permissive parenting.
“Authoritative parents teach and guide their children. Their goal is to socialize their children, so they come to accept and value what the parents value,” said Nancy Darling, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Oberlin College, in an article for Psychology Today. “They tend to adjust their expectations to the needs of the child. They listen to children's arguments, although they may not change their minds. They persuade and explain, as well as punish."
In a way, this parenting style allows mom and dad to have the best of both worlds — they are parents first, but their children know they can also turn to their parents for advice as a friend would. An authoritative parent would be firm and warm, with high expectations, but would also be quick to praise.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
This parenting style is the opposite of “quick-fix parenting,” or the actions we do to immediately stop a child’s misbehavior — verbal reprimand, negative instruction, and discipline for the sake of compliance. In intentional parenting, mom or dad would have a long-term plan for how they want to raise their kids.
It often starts with writing down the qualities and values you want your children to have. Once you figure that out, you’ll know what to teach your kids so they can grow up possessing the qualities you envisioned for them. It’s all about being proactive instead of reactive and molding your kids instead of just correcting.
This new trend in parenting is characterized by gentle guidance, championing love, patience, and grace. According to Esther Wojcicki, author of How to Raise Successful People and who came up with the term, panda parenting combines both hard and soft techniques for a “perfect ratio of cuddliness and claw” — they sit back and let their kids be, but also safeguard them with rules to guide them through life.
This parenting style employs five key traits: Trust, Respect, Independence, Collaboration, and Kindness (TRICK). You love your kids but you also allow them to fail at times so they can develop grit and be more driven in life.
“You want your child to want to be with you, not to need to be with you,” Wojcicki writes.
This is a child-led approach that focuses on creating a strong relationship between parent and child to meet the child’s needs. From birth-bonding to babywearing to co-sleeping, this method’s ultimate goal is to build a secure emotional connection with your child.CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
Attachment parenting is a “sensible approach that fosters physical and psychological health in children,” according to Susan Krauss Whitbourne, professor emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. New parents who are proponents of this style believe it’s beneficial for parents to respond to early signs of distress instead of letting their baby “cry it out.”
The result is that the child would have a secure environment to explore and discover. They would make mistakes but learn from them. They are also less exposed to stress, which can fuel proper brain development. Most importantly, they can turn to their parents for comfort, which helps them learn to manage their emotions better.
Whatever parenting style you choose, it’s also important to observe what personality your child develops as they grow. This way, it would be easier for you to handle them in a positive and caring way.
There are parenting strategies you can incorporate to your parenting style to help your child become successful in life. Click here for our list.
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