Ryza Cenon Disciplines Toddler Via 'Face The Wall' Style, 'Hayyy Grabe Ang Hirap' She Says

Discipline is one of the things that all parents should do, but most have different theories and approaches. It’s definitely not one size fits all. 

There’s the traditional discipline which uses corporal punishment or spanking and there's gentle parenting, a newer discipline style. In the `80s and `90s, it was normal to use every day objects like belts, hangers, and slippers for spanking children.

Gentle parenting, on the other hand, is a style which avoids corporal punishments. Instead, this style place a prime on talking to children and creating intrinsic motivation.

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Caught in between these two approaches is the middle ground, ‘face the wall’, ‘time-outs’, ‘no gadgets’, etc. 

Discipline for toddlers

Ryza Cenon recently shared a video reel on January 26, 2023 showing her way of disciplining her two-tyear-old son. 

She wrote in the caption, “Face the wall si Night. Haaayy grabe ang hirap!!! Lord help me..”

She explained what her son did that resulted to having a punishment.“Ang kasalanan niya hinampas nya ng malakas yung Dyson na electric fan, naghiwalay. Tapos hinagis yung diffuser sa may carpet, basa. Everyday may nagliliparan na gamit.. huhuhuhu yung pasensya ko Lord… pakihabaan.”

This was the end of her post in her social media accounts, but was edited and added a post script in her Instagram account.

She wrote, “P.S. Every time nag fe-face the wall siya nag-uusap kami. Pinapaliwanag ko sa kanya kung ano ang mali nya. Kaya ko to ginagawa mga mommies kasi ito lang yung way ko para hindi sya mapagbuhatan ng kamay. Sa age nila kasi hindi pa yan makikinig agad - agad dahil nag eexplore sila.”

Ryza shared that she tries her best to refrain from punishments that can hurt her son physically. 

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She continued, sharing a bit of a background of their situation at home, “At sa mga mommies naman na feeling niyo dahil nakikita niya sa bahay or napapanood nya sa TV, hindi po. Si Night hindi mahilig manood ng TV or humawak ng phone at dun na lang iikot yung mundo nya. Ang gusto nya maglaro sa labas, mag-color ng mga coloring books, magbasa, maglaro ng mga laruan niya at makipagkwentuhan samin. Yun yung pinapractice ko sa kanya.”

Ryza then said that parents may have differing discipline approaches, but it only boils into one goal--to make sure our children right from wrong. “Iba- iba tayo ng pamamaraan sa pagpapalaki ng mga anak natin pero iisa ang gusto natin para sa kanila na lumaki silang mabubuting tao,” she said. 

“Nag-share ako ng experience para sa mga first time mom na katulad ko. Gusto kong malaman nila na hindi sila nag- iisa, na pwede mag disiplina ng anak ng hindi natin sila sinasaktan. Walang masama mag share kung makakatulong sa iba. #soterribletwo,” Ryza shared as she ended her post. 

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Discipline Styles

Comments in her Instagram post were turned off, but a few netizens from the Facebook post lauded Ryza for her way of instilling discipline. 

One netizen said, “Tama lang po na malaman ng bata ang mali niya habang bata pa, disiplina na para po hindi kasanayan ang bad habits.”

Another commenter said, “Tama yan na maaga mo nadidisiplina ang anak mo para malaman niya na mali yung ginagawa niya at malaman niya kung ano yung consequences sa mali niyang ginawa at may limitation din siya. Hindi palagi na okay lang ang sasabihin sa bata. In this way, ma-correct ang attitude niya.

"Mahirap na kasi lumaki ang bata na kala niya lahat ng ginagawa niya okay. We as a parent may dapat gawin para lumaking mabait, marespeto at mabuting tao ang mga anak natin. Doon mo masasabi na tama ang pagpapalaki mo sa anak mo kung hanggang paglaki nila ay madala nila ang pag-uugaling maayos," said the social media user.

Another parent empathized with Ryza’s difficulty in doing the discipline, “Nakakainis yung ganyang feeling, pinagalitan mo para matuto pero yung puso mo, awang awa. Hayyyy, ang malupit pa nun isang halik lang tanggal na yung galit mo.”

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What is ‘Face the Wall’?

“Face the Wall’ is a type of discipline that falls under ‘Time-Outs’. According to an article reviewed by psychotherapist Amy Morin, published in VeryWell Family, “Time-outs are a discipline technique that many parents and experts find very useful when kids act out in unacceptable ways. For example, you tell your toddler not to hit their sibling, but your child doesn't comply. In response, you sit your child in a quiet corner for a set time to reflect on what they did wrong (and, hopefully, how to not behave that way in the future).”

Although the technique is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), and widely used by 85% of parents, comments and opinions surrounding time-outs are always, “Is it really effective?”, “Am I a bad parent if I do it?”

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How To Do Effective Time-Outs

Here’s a few tips to make each second count, according to American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP):

1. Don’t talk to the child during time-out

The authors said clinicians should advise parents to give one warning then a short reason for the time-out (e.g. “no hitting”). Parents should not talk to their child during the time-out, even if it is tempting to continuously explain why the time-out is happening. 

2. Reduce the child’s access to stimulation

Parents should reduce the child’s access to stimulation. If a child tries to escape, the parent should return him or her to the time-out area with minimal interaction. It may help that there is a specified location for time-outs, like the corner of a room. 

According to an article published by Johns Hopkins Medicine, time-outs should only last a minute for every year of the child’s age. If the toddler is three years old, time-out should never be more than 3 minutes. 

As time-outs end, parents should refrain from ‘lecturing’ about the behavior, and should try to treat the child normally. 

Ryza then shared another video of her son after the ‘time-out’: